Tuesday, January 22, 2013
My thirteen year old niece was on facebook, as is usual, and constant, and annoying, but I digress. Anyway, she was on facebook and she put a picture of someone she thought was "sexy". Frowning slightly, I went to her page and looked at her friends and her post and counted no less than 20 times in two days, the word "sexy." They think someone is sexy, a dress is sexy, do I think they are sexy. No, rod stewart, I think they are thirteen.
Here's the problem I have with all this. I know they don't understand that sexy actually has to do with the desire to want to have sex with what is sexy, but, at the same time, subliminally, I think they do know, to some degree. They know that the currency of the day is does someone want to have sex with me?
It is a prevalent idea in a culture of Kim Kardasian and Britney Spears. Neither have talent, yet they have fame because something about them appeals to men, i.e. men want to sleep with them. I will state that their lack of talent is my own opinion. My own opinion is that they are vapid and ridiculous as well, but that is neither here nor there.
The point is that when my niece thinks of herself and the things that she enjoys that there is a better word, many better words. What is wrong with smart? As in, that dress is smart. That boy is smart. I think she is smart. How about fun? She is fun. Those shoes are fun. We are fun. Or happy? Or sweet? Why does it have to be "Sexy"?
Unfortunately, the culture we live in values sexy above all those other words and the line between sexy and sleazy is very thin.