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Husband finally realized he needs to take care of his body at 300 lbs.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

He started to lift a 20 lb weight. 2 days in a row now. He realized this when we were doing a team excersize together and I needed a pain killer patch the next day. Poor thing feels so guilty I told him I didn't blame him. But that same day he was waiting at the store and he nearly fainted because his blood sugar had dropped and he needed the protein and carbs to bring it back up this worries me its probably pre diabetes. It's not the first time either and when it happens he starts looking so pale but then he does things like ask me to make him chocolate milk with Mexican rice and I gave him the sad and annoyed look and he said what's wrong and I was a little mean about it but I said " it's like your asking me to hold a gun to your head u have a blood sugar problem you won't see a doc about yet you want rice and chocolate milk. Which both will shoot up your blood sugar." He stil ended up drinking most of it and gave the rest to our 4 year old. He doesn't wanna walk cause his ankle hurts from when he twisted it yet he doesn't wanna take time off work to have it looked at.
This morning I told hubby chicken and carrots for dinner, he said ok.
What can I do to help him get better ?
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    I agree that you should kindly decline to cook things you do not feel comfortable feeding him. I have had to learn to say no to my DH for other things and it is really hard. Still, it is truly the kinder act. I would let him eat whatever he chooses without nagging but he should fix it. Maybe you can just tell him it is too tempting for you to handle those foods. My brother loves meet but he knows his vegan wife can not handle the meat herself and if he wants it he had to learn to cook it.
    1702 days ago
    Perhaps stop making him the things that you know are going to kill him. You don't have to be nasty to him when you tell him "no" but maybe just saying something like, "I would be happy to make you blank and blank but if you want chocolate milk and rice, you are going to have to make that yourself honey." Other than that, just do you best to have healthy options in the house and on the table. But you can't continue to aid and abed him.
    1703 days ago
    You can only wait until HE makes up his mind to eat healthier. See if you can convince him to go and soon. Hugs!
    1704 days ago
    He has to want to do it. My hubby had type 2 diabetes, from exposure to AGent Orange in Nam. Now he has all kinds of pains and illnesses related to that diabetes. His neuropathy is especially painful. He needs to do some research because blood sugar issues will age him way before he wants to be aged.

    I am only 5 years younger than my hubby and basically am responsible for everything. He tries to help a little, but that is about all he can do on most days.

    1704 days ago
    Gosh, I guess it's a human condition that we don't think or want to admit that we need to make changes to improve our health. Many times I have given my DH "the sad and annoyed look" you wrote of. I had to laugh with recognition when I read those words.

    My suggestion is to keep working at your journey. Let your model of a healthy lifestyle inspire your DH. I've found that casually mentioning things I'm doing in a non-threatening or depreciating way has opened the conversation initially and eventually results in my DH making some movement in the healthy direction. I try to be careful to do this in little spurts or he will rebel. LOL!

    Keep your Spark burning bright! That may help light your DH's. emoticon
    1704 days ago
    Sorry to say, your DH has to want to change. Maybe he could find motivation watching Biggest Loser. There are men on there his weight.
    1704 days ago
  • NH_MOM
    Like any person they have to make the decision. Bugging him probably doesn't help even though you really care about him - that's not how he sees it. Maybe you could try writing a letter or email that explains how you feel and how sad/upset you'd be if anything happened to him. You mentioned a 4 year-old - say something in the letter about the child growing up w/o a dad. Write from the heart and don't nag or belittle him. He may not change, but then again it may be enough to get him to wake up and exercise.
    1704 days ago
    All you can do is suggest and try to cook healthy when he is at home but you cannot make someone change they have to decide that on their own. I have a DH too who has health issues so I understand where you are at. The Dr even told him at the last physical that he needed to watch how much he was eating but he has not changed his habits
    I will still pray that he changes his mind
    1704 days ago
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