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Realistic expectations

Monday, January 21, 2013

This morning I met with a plastic surgeon regarding a pannectomy. I can not even express how anxious and nervous I was! After decades of feeling like people judge my physical appearance and find me lacking, I was a wreck about what this one man's opinion would be! Would he tell me I haven't lost enough weight? Would he tell me that he couldn't help me?

First.... I will say that it's pretty embarrassing to put your skin/fat folds and wrinkles out there for someone to see and photograph! BUT! The good news is that the surgeon agrees that the surgery at this point is medically necessary. Now it will be up to the insurance company to see if they will cover it. I have a few things in my favor for this: I do get rashes and infections under the skin fold. Also, I have a 14" scar that runs midline from a previous surgery. The scar is being pulled from the weight of the skin. It's VERY uncomfortable. Also, in spite of 4 hernia repair surgeries, and 3 meshes sewn in, I still have a bit of a hernia. The weight pulling down on the meshes/hernia is not good for long term repair. SO! We shall see.

Against me: Many insurance companies see this as a cosmetic procedure and just don't want to pay.

The doctor and I spent a long time talking about my expectations. And he agrees that my expectations are realistic. I already don't have a belly button (was removed during an emergency surgery), and he can surgically give me one! That was BEYOND my expectation. I expect a lot of scaring. I expect surgery will be painful. I have endured 7 abdominal surgeries in the past 10 years. After every one, I have been off ALL narcotic pain medications by day 5, and did whatever after care was necessary. My eye is on the long-term prize.

I have discovered an active life. I have worked to build muscles and coordination that make me feel athletic. I have increased my stamina to the point that I can jog and race my 4 year old across the park. I am not willing to let these things go.

I am not expecting perfection. I am expecting less pain from rashes and infections. I am expecting to jog without hearing the slap of my stomach skin hitting my legs. I am expecting to have reduced back pain so that I can push myself harder in the gym to meet my goals. I'm expecting that I will continue to do the work. I am expecting surgery to remove the excess skin.

So... now I wait. And continue to eat clean, and stay moving. And live my life. This is in God's hands. I am in God's hands. It is well with my soul.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KWING517 1/23/2013 11:20AM

    I'm so happy that he agreed with you!!! You'll be in my prayers :)

Have a great day!

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LOVEANANIMAL 1/22/2013 2:43PM

    Wishing you the best! Another Spark friend had this same procedure done, and on her blog, she discusses it in detail and has pics. You should check it out if you haven't already.

Her Spark page is SLIMKATIE, and her blog site is
BR>Again, congrats! Exciting stuff! : )

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SCCUDDLERS 1/22/2013 11:39AM

    Good luck! Praying the insurance company agrees with the doctor.


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LIVINGFREE19 1/22/2013 10:18AM

    If the doctor sees it as medically necessary and gives them his recommendation, I think you have a very goood chance of getting this surgery!
Wow, you have been through a lot!


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SUGAR0814 1/22/2013 9:33AM

    It sounds like the insurance company will pay for it. Keeping you in my prayers! emoticon

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DONNA5281 1/22/2013 9:00AM

  I am so happy to hear that you received good news about having the surgery.
It seems like you have a caring Doctor who listened to you.
Insurances don't pay for much of anything these days.
I am fighting with them to get a prescription filled.
I wish you the best of luck.
I will keep you in my prayers. I have the feeling that everything will fall into place, and you WILL have your surgery!!

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MARIANNE9855 1/22/2013 8:41AM

    I know people that had the surgery and had it covered and they didn't have anywhere near what you have had to go through- Keep thinking positively and I will send you positive thoughts. emoticon

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KRICKET231 1/22/2013 8:26AM

    I hope the insurance company covers it. emoticon

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KNITTERLADY9 1/22/2013 8:01AM

  We're rooting for you! Sounds like you've got plenty of good, legitimate reasons for the insurance company to pay up. (Let's hope they see it that way too.)

Best wishes!

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JASI27 1/22/2013 7:55AM

    Good Luck! I hope your insurance company comes through for you! If you have made it that far, you deserve it!

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LOLABLACK69 1/22/2013 5:49AM

    good luck! really wish it works out for you! emoticon

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JACLYN07 1/22/2013 4:12AM

    Well done you for getting through the appointment - it cannot have been easy. And yay that the doc is on your side - I like him... ;)
Fingers crossed that the insurance dudes see sense.
Have a great day!

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KING_SLAYER 1/22/2013 3:21AM

    You never know what you're going to get when dealing with insurance companies, but I really hope they see the upside and authorize your surgery!

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123ELAINE456 1/22/2013 2:49AM

  Everything is in your Favor to have the surgery and I hope your Insurance Campamy will pay for it. God's Will Be Done. God Bless You and Have a Super Good Day. Take Care.

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WACFIT 1/22/2013 12:32AM

    Your doctors' recos will go a long way. My friend documented her rashes, etc and the insurance did cover it. It certainly sounds like they should cover it in your case. God bless!

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RAINBOWMF 1/22/2013 12:28AM

    emoticon for you. You have worked hard and deserve to feel
your very best.


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CINNAMARIE 1/21/2013 10:41PM

    Good luck to you! I had to look up pannectomy (first time hearing that term). I've lost alot of weight and may need something like this, too... so I will be reading up on this. Is this something you'll get even IF the insurance doesn't pay for? I'm praying for you!

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2BFREE2LIVE 1/21/2013 10:28PM

    You have several issues that are in your favor and your excess skin is causing health issues so I would think that the insurance company will grant the surgery.
Fight for what you want and need to make you feel good again.
I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers my friend. Sandy

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SCOUTMOM715 1/21/2013 10:26PM

    you so deserve this. I hope your insurance company will cover this. Crossing my fingers!! emoticon

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KYDZTOI 1/21/2013 9:54PM

    Crossing every appendage I have and praying that the insurance company will listen and respond favorably!!!!

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SEEINGCLEARLY53 1/21/2013 9:35PM

    I pray you get the green light!.You deserve it! emoticon

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ROSIEPD 1/21/2013 9:33PM

    Wow, wishing you the best. Hopefully that insurance company will agree with your doctor!

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ANNABELL598 1/21/2013 9:29PM

    That is some great news for you. Praying that things will continue to work out and for a successful surgery with a quick recovery.

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MILLEDGE2 1/21/2013 9:16PM

    I am following your experience with great interest and with best wishes for you to get that prize you have your eye on. Please keep all your Spark friends in the loop!

And, yes, we all understand how and why you were so nervous about seeing this new doc. I'm so glad he was kind and helpful to you.

Wishing you good things!

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 1/21/2013 8:59PM

    I keep you on my thoughts and prayers for your success! I look forward to your answer from theinsurance company and continued success! Hugs!

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CARRAND 1/21/2013 8:49PM

    I sure hope your insurance will pay for this surgery! You've earned it.

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