The lesson from a waxy candle
Monday, January 21, 2013
I had one of the moments I long for yesterday. Each child was beside me, leaning against me, there seemed to be learning happening...
then one little phrase from the older one sent the younger into a tailspin - determined to stay away from her, certain her negative feelings overran the positive ones...and all from a "no" which she meant as a joke.
We were still in church though, and we have stations with candles to light if we wish. I took this time to encourage my son to light a candle for this relationship...but the candle we were trying to light wouldn't light. He took the easy path - he chose another candle. I took time to look at the candle. It had been at the edge of the dish so it was leaning, and that leaning had helped the wax move up around the wick. There wasn't enough wick for the candle to actually burn. I turned the candle, held the already lit "lighter" candle against it so the wax moved away from the wick, and had a burning candle. It took time. It took research. It took action. It took more patience than my son had. I think it was a good lesson, though.
In life, often, we attempt to do something - often some action - over and over. Sometimes it's simple. Sometimes we're up against a brick wall. What I experienced yesterday with the candle reminded me to take time to look at difficulties a new way, change my perspective, change something in the situation, and try again. Sometimes it is most appropriate to choose something else, as my son did, yet that's one choice. Perseverance can be a good thing.
Today's candle will be different. I'm not seeing it clearly yet, but once I do, I'll try to practice patience and look at how to address the issue well.
Thanks for reading.