Compliments After Weight Loss? How Do You Handle Them?
Monday, January 21, 2013
I was reading this article ( www.bariatriceating.com/
) the other day and it made me start thinking about how I react to compliments since I've lost 120+ lbs.
I guess I should have expected it and in a way I did expect to get some attention after I began loosing a considerable amount of weight. Come on, I can't expect to drop a whole person from my figure and not have people notice. But as much as I expected it, I didn't realize how uncomfortable it would make me feel.
I suppose part of it was not being used to all the attention. Yes it is nice to have people notice me, but it can be weird to hear the same comments and questions over and over again. I swear sometimes I think I'm going to loose my mind if one more person ask, "Where's the rest of you?"
Part of the reason it catches me off guard is that I don't see myself as looking that different than I did before. My perception of what I look like has not caught up to the weight loss. At first I just didn't know how to respond when people complimented my looks or weight loss. Now I usually just smile and say, "Thank you."
There is another weird comment I get now that I have lost so much weight. Many times I've had a close friend or relative say something like, “Wow, you are getting close to my size, now–I should go on a diet!” What is that supposed to mean? I am sure they aren't purposely trying to be insulting, but are they trying to say I'm not allowed to be the same size as them or smaller? Am I always supposed to be the "fat one?" I have yet to figure out how to handle that one.
So how do you all handle comments & compliments on your weight? What experiences have you had with completely inappropriate comments or sweet compliments?