Going through a quiet time
Monday, January 21, 2013
Good Morning: I have been going to the gym about 3-5 times a week. I have been watching my food but not always tracking. I have been very busy getting ready for my grand daughter who is arriving this week. My DS has finally engaged in the fact that his child will be arriving in a few weeks. I think b/4 he was like a deer in headlights. In some ways he still is over whelmed with a baby coming, but he is a soldier who has been through 2 back surgeries, has a baby on the way - when the doctors thought he would not be able to father a child due to his surgeries.
He is a young father who is afraid if he will be able to hold his baby long b/c of his injuries. I feel this baby will encourage him to do whatever it takes to recover. Army is messing around with him again- assigning him to CQ and making his life miserable. He is taking some leave to be with Adrienne when she comes. He says it is time to take some time from the Army.
I asked him if he regretted going into the Army. He has grown up the hard way. This November he will have been in the Army 6 years. I have to let go when I think of his future b/c so much relies on his back. He says he can not imagine sitting in a classroom for a hour for each class on his schedule.
DD will be going to a reunion of about 10 friends from her university at Disney World. She is excited to get a brake. DH and I did a deep clean to get ready for baby. Mostly baby proofing was the aim. DH was complaining about cleaning. I told him that he is so much stress- I am going to the gym. When I came back I asked him why can't you just do the work without complaining; it is so stressful to me. I just do what needs to get done. Why can't you do any thing without complaining. We have been doing puzzles - 1000 pieces and that is all he wants to do now. I worry about him slowing down. I try to get him motivated to do anything except sitting. He has not been going to the gym but I am making him today b/c he is off. I am not arguing with him but I am concerned he has slowed. He talks about having sex but he is more talk than action. He is not doing well in that area either. I tend not to bring up subject b/c it is not a good experience. Much of his problem is his attitude- he has two channels - old or teenager, He just does not know have to be a good partner at his current age.
I sure would like some input on this subject. I love to talk- experience things but at an adult level. Since he does not travel as much, it has been hard to relate. I have to keep him busy b/c he gets bored and just overeats or over drinks.
Have a good day!!
He has had a physical and medical tests are fine.