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To Change

Sunday, January 20, 2013

I had a very bad trigger last night... A Person. Wanted to eat. Did NOT eat. Had a piece of gum and put on some essential oils and went to bed. Yay! Me

Trying to Change-Mature-Create-Endlessly

I like this quote. It's a great way to think of change. All of us are trying to become "better" people. We don't like practicing our bad habits over and over.

What would I like to create Endlessly?
This speaks to my spirit not just my physical body. This time as I am trying to become healthier, I am definitely focusing more on my spirit than my physical body. I would like my physical body to be healthier but most of all, I want my spirit to be healthier.

Goal = Identify Feelings, Cope Properly (not with anger and F-Bombs), Forgive if needed, Mature and Carry-On.

Identify Feelings

*Use Proper Coping Skills* Ask God For Help...
Sadness - Cry, Journal Why, Take needed action, Let it go,
Anger - Deep Breathing, 1 F-Bomb in my mind then REALLY ask WHY and try to SOLVE... Don't just keep F-bombing and being angry at the wrong people.
Frustration - Hmmmmmm Fingers together... Be patient and figure out why. If I can solve it, then solve it. If I can't solve it, then deep-breathe, grow and mature from it and wait for it to pass, then move on.

I think these three feelings: Sadness, Anger, Frustration are the 3 hardest emotions for me to deal with and learn and grow from. They are my "change" that needs to happen.

Other feelings to think about:



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    Netty, great job finding a different way to deal with stress / feelings! The more you react in the way you did, the easier it will become. It's just like training for an event. When you started running, a few miles were hard, but as time went on and you trained your body, a marathon became doable... this is the same thing, you are just training your MIND!

    I love the second quote!! Hope you had a great weekend!
    1882 days ago
  • DEB9021
    Hey Netty,

    Great blog. You are right. Coping with various feelings is the biggest hurdle to having a healthy spirit, mind and body. I work with little people and we try so hard to teach them how to appropriately handle anger, sadness, fear, etc., but sometimes I think big people are much worse at it. We don't deal with it any better. At least kids will scream and cry and get it out! We tend to suppress and hide feelings instead of dealing with them at all. And keeping negative emotions inside eats at you from the inside out. You will either self-destruct or blow up over a zillion little things that aren't at all what you're really stressed about. But you are facing your issues and your sad, angry, whatever feelings. Facing them straight up and finding a way to really cope with them, not just hide them away. Awesome! emoticon
    1882 days ago
  • MYRTLE811
    Thanks for all your support Netty; I can see how determined you are overcoming the urge to eat. We all have our moments of crisis and want to eat so badly. I hope that I can stay on course to finally meet my goal weight; I know you are doing wonderfully and hope to follow that example.
    1882 days ago
    Good job with staying on plan. I am rooting for you!
    1882 days ago
    speaking on working on spirit- ever read Eat, Pray, Love?
    1883 days ago
    keep working on you you are doing great
    1883 days ago
    Great job on not letting your trigger cause you to binge! Remember this next time you encounter a trigger. You are strong enough to say no! emoticon emoticon
    1883 days ago
  • OJ_2_OK
    Great job netty keep it up!
    1883 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/20/2013 11:00:28 AM

    Glad to know you are beginning to identify the feelings that are caused by your triggers. Also I am very happy to hear you are journalling these thoughts. As for the won't be able to avoid them and you shouldn't but by identifying the feelings that person evokes, then you can effectively make your Plan B -- your go to response, actions etc. Eventually they will have no power over your feelings as they do now.

    Carpe Diem my friend

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    1883 days ago
    Good quotes
    1883 days ago
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