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First time for everything... having FUN clothes shopping????


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Saturday, January 19, 2013

Yes. Today, for the first time since my teen years, I had FUN at the mall. I was excited to look at styles and colors. Happy to use my coupons to get some good deals. And a miracle happened.... I left the mall feeling FANTASTIC about myself.

To understand why this is such a big deal, we need to go back in time. At one time in my life, I went years without going to a mall. Frankly, there was no point. There was nothing in the mall that would fit me. Everything I wore was ordered from a catalog. Because even the largest sizes at the plus size stores were too small for me. Even the IDEA of going clothes shopping in a store would bring about panic. If I did get dragged along somewhere, I could / would only shop for accessories. Again... what was the point?


For years now, I've been able to wear the plus sizes carried in the mall, but even then I left the mall feeling awful about myself. My sizes kept creeping upwards, things didn't fit right, and I really only had a few store selections that carried my sizes. It was BETTER, but not what I was wanting.

Today, I did something I haven't done in 20+ years. I walked into a non-plus size store (Old Navy) and bought clothes. In my size. I bought an XL. This had me nearly giddy. I felt NORMAL. I didn't feel people staring at me rudely, wondering what I was doing in the store. I felt like I fit in. That was pure bliss for this girl, who has always felt like people were staring.

Then it got better.

I went to Lane Bryant to buy bras. A wonderfully sweet salesperson did a fitting and helped me.

(Let's take a break here for a public service announcement: GIRLS! As you are losing weight, make sure you get a bra fitting!!!! Do NOT just buy the next size down in whatever cup size/brand/style you are used to! Your body is changing, and your needs might too! I was SHOCKED to learn I was wearing a bra much too big, and completely the wrong style to flatter me.)

Anyway.... since I was in the store, I decided to try on jeans since my 18's are getting a bit loose. Guess what?!?! 16's FIT! I haven't been in size 16 jeans SINCE I WAS 16! emoticon

I was so giddy that I did a happy dance, then texted a picture to my trainer.

(horrible picture, but the jeans FIT!)

I practically waltzed out of the mall. I consider today a complete non-scale victory. I ENJOYED shopping for clothes. And I left the mall feeling better about myself than when I went in. Victory, people. It's not all about the number on the scale. In fact, the number on my scale was up 2# due to monthly bloat. It's about achieving experiences we were deprived of. It's about seeing the results of our hard work and feeling the freedom to feel proud of ourselves.

This girl is feeling proud. In my size 16 jeans. emoticon
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BETHV10 1/21/2013 9:28AM

    I couldn't be happier for you! Some day I hope to feel the same way. emoticon

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LULU3561 1/21/2013 9:26AM

    That is FREAKING AMAZING!!!! Way to go!!! emoticon

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CMNOVAK 1/21/2013 9:22AM

    emoticon Yay! Congratulations!

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WILDFLOWERMA 1/21/2013 9:21AM

    Wonderful! Kudos to you!

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FROMNDTOGA 1/21/2013 9:11AM

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Keep up the good work. I LOVE NSVs!
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LEMJFOSTER 1/21/2013 9:08AM

  Awesome!

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DEBLYNN323 1/21/2013 8:40AM

    emoticon ...way to go! Keep working at your goals!

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KWING517 1/21/2013 8:39AM

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That's fantastic, and you look great!! Congrats on having such a great time at the mall!

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YESCURLYCAN 1/21/2013 8:34AM

  This was a great read! emoticon on a job emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 1/21/2013 8:22AM

    Congratulations! Thanks for sharing.

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SONGBIRDPAULA 1/21/2013 7:20AM

    emoticon emoticon Howdy! from the DFW area of Texas!

All I can say is WOW oh WOW! emoticon

You are such a success! You are an inspiration to me! Thank you so much for sharing.

Have a blessed day and wonderful journey to the new you!

Paula emoticon

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LIFETIMER54 1/21/2013 5:38AM

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BLYTHENY 1/21/2013 2:42AM

    Great job!!! You have done amazingly... hoping that your surgery consult today goes well, and you can take that next step. Good luck -- and WAY TO GO so far!! emoticon

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LOLABLACK69 1/21/2013 2:32AM

    congrats! :) so happy for you! emoticon

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SUNSHINE65 1/21/2013 2:17AM

    Sooooo cool! emoticon

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NESARIAN 1/21/2013 2:10AM

    emoticon Thanks for the info and for sharing your victory!

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LIBBYL1 1/21/2013 2:05AM

  Wonderful!

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BLUEJEAN99 1/21/2013 1:59AM

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ADVENTURESEEKER 1/21/2013 1:11AM

    Way to go!

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BENTOGYRL 1/21/2013 1:02AM

    Good for YOU!

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LIVELYGIRL2 1/21/2013 12:59AM

  Your getting better and better in every way, and I'm sure you will continue! emoticon

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ILIKETOZUMBA 1/21/2013 12:40AM

    Hooray!!!! I know exactly how exciting that kind of experience is. :) I definitely cried the first time I was able to shop in a non-plus size section of a store and fit into jeans that *didn't* come with a W behind the number. I, too, avoided the mall for years. And now I shop at the cheap teenager stores! (Because I'm cheap and I don't need $50 jeans or $80 sweaters.) It's so awesome to finally not have to feel like people are looking at you and judging you while you shop, too. Congratulations to you!! And those jeans look great on you! :)

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CHARTHESTAR 1/21/2013 12:21AM

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That is so awesome!!
I was not in the exact same place- but know close to how you felt. I didn't want to buy anything nice- or expensive cause I didn't want to stay the way I was. accessories were o.k because most are good for any size. but Earring you can have more of- but If your like me you only wear maybe 1/4 of the ones you own. Still- there is a point where you just have to much stuff.

I am so happy for you- that going to the mall was actually a happy time- and even better than that- another NSV for you! That is totally awesome!!

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AMANDEES76 1/21/2013 12:06AM

    Way To GO!!!!!! I know exactly what you mean about not going to the mall because it only makes you feel bad about yourself. I can go in to a mall in a good mood and end up coming out feeling so down after wandering through a few stores and not knowing what style will help me look my best right now. I have an image in my head but then I see things or try things on and realize that I can't dress the way that I want to while I am still carrying around these extra 30+ pounds.

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ANNELIZABETH918 1/20/2013 11:56PM

    Congrats!! I am so proud and excited for you! emoticon

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FAT2GAINHEALTH 1/20/2013 11:45PM

    GREAT!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

This is a shout emoticon to the mountain tops. I know were on cloud 9.
sincerely,
Marcia

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HELENWLMS 1/20/2013 11:42PM

    Congratulations! You are an inspiration to us all.

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AMYABELL 1/20/2013 11:26PM

    How fun:) So glad you found clothes that you liked and smaller than you thought you were. I would be excited too. Now you have me inspired!


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FATHINSN 1/20/2013 11:10PM

    WooHoo, that's awesome! I know that feeling :D

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WRITINGDIVA1 1/20/2013 11:08PM

    Had the same experience fitting into a size 18 a few months ago! Non scale victories are awesome! Congrats on your achievement.

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AHAPPYLIFE 1/20/2013 10:47PM

    You are AMAZING!!

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WOLFKITTY 1/20/2013 10:47PM

    Fantastic!! :)

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Deear, I am sitting here GRINNING

I don't know you
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Am SO EXCITED for you !

YOU are very INSPIRING

Keep up the GOOD WORK !

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Have a Marvelous Monday !


LOVE and BLESSINGS !

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AJB121299 1/20/2013 10:09PM

    Great job

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TINKERBELL200 1/20/2013 10:06PM

    Wow Girl! You look fabulous! You have really been working towards your goal! Your dedication will take you there! Don't give up! You look awesome! So glad you finally enjoyed shopping. You deserve it!!!
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Lynne

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GWINNER1 1/20/2013 9:59PM

    emoticon Soooo proud of you. Keep up the good work!

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TREE57 1/20/2013 9:49PM

    We're all so proud of you and your success!

What inspiration! emoticon emoticon

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MALA77 1/20/2013 9:47PM

    WOW!!!! What an amazing transformation!!!! Way to go girl!!!!!!!!

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SUNNY572 1/20/2013 9:40PM

    Wow congrats on the awesome accomplishment! emoticon

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LADYMARCIA1 1/20/2013 9:33PM

    Congratulations in a big way!!! Very inspirational. Well done, way to go, keep it up.

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SUEZAM1 1/20/2013 9:29PM

  Congratulations! hearing success stories is so wonderful, no matter how big or small the success is!

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YVONNE2001 1/20/2013 9:24PM

    Woo Hoo!!! What a tribute to your dedication and consistency in healthy eating and exercise. You rock!!!! I am joining you in doing a happy dance to celebrate your success. Well done. emoticon

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GETTO140 1/20/2013 9:22PM

    emoticon emoticon Good for you!! emoticon

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MANDIETERRIER1 1/20/2013 9:19PM

    That is awesome! Keep up the good work

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JEANNINEMM68 1/20/2013 9:18PM

    Wonderful I am so glad that you left feeling so good and to think things will only feel better. emoticon

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MISSPHATTY90 1/20/2013 9:18PM

  This post gave me such hope. ive just gotten home from another horrible shopping trip. i needed pants as i only have old ones that have definitely seen better days and are getting a bit tight and i found none of them fit, the biggest of the big and nope... although ive lost 14 kgs and that alone is motivating, this post seemed fated for me to read today!!! Thanks so much and congratulations, you should be so proud of yourself!!! xxx emoticon emoticon

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FORBANDE 1/20/2013 8:52PM

    Wow!! What an amazing victory! The NSV's "outweigh" the scale anytime. :)

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