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First time for everything... having FUN clothes shopping????

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Saturday, January 19, 2013

Yes. Today, for the first time since my teen years, I had FUN at the mall. I was excited to look at styles and colors. Happy to use my coupons to get some good deals. And a miracle happened.... I left the mall feeling FANTASTIC about myself.

To understand why this is such a big deal, we need to go back in time. At one time in my life, I went years without going to a mall. Frankly, there was no point. There was nothing in the mall that would fit me. Everything I wore was ordered from a catalog. Because even the largest sizes at the plus size stores were too small for me. Even the IDEA of going clothes shopping in a store would bring about panic. If I did get dragged along somewhere, I could / would only shop for accessories. Again... what was the point?


For years now, I've been able to wear the plus sizes carried in the mall, but even then I left the mall feeling awful about myself. My sizes kept creeping upwards, things didn't fit right, and I really only had a few store selections that carried my sizes. It was BETTER, but not what I was wanting.

Today, I did something I haven't done in 20+ years. I walked into a non-plus size store (Old Navy) and bought clothes. In my size. I bought an XL. This had me nearly giddy. I felt NORMAL. I didn't feel people staring at me rudely, wondering what I was doing in the store. I felt like I fit in. That was pure bliss for this girl, who has always felt like people were staring.

Then it got better.

I went to Lane Bryant to buy bras. A wonderfully sweet salesperson did a fitting and helped me.

(Let's take a break here for a public service announcement: GIRLS! As you are losing weight, make sure you get a bra fitting!!!! Do NOT just buy the next size down in whatever cup size/brand/style you are used to! Your body is changing, and your needs might too! I was SHOCKED to learn I was wearing a bra much too big, and completely the wrong style to flatter me.)

Anyway.... since I was in the store, I decided to try on jeans since my 18's are getting a bit loose. Guess what?!?! 16's FIT! I haven't been in size 16 jeans SINCE I WAS 16! emoticon

I was so giddy that I did a happy dance, then texted a picture to my trainer.

(horrible picture, but the jeans FIT!)

I practically waltzed out of the mall. I consider today a complete non-scale victory. I ENJOYED shopping for clothes. And I left the mall feeling better about myself than when I went in. Victory, people. It's not all about the number on the scale. In fact, the number on my scale was up 2# due to monthly bloat. It's about achieving experiences we were deprived of. It's about seeing the results of our hard work and feeling the freedom to feel proud of ourselves.

This girl is feeling proud. In my size 16 jeans. emoticon
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SUPERSYLPH 7/18/2013 12:14PM

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ELIZABETH5268 5/2/2013 1:26PM

    Way to go!!!

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ELAINE725 3/8/2013 3:56PM

    Isn't it great to keep fitting into smaller and smaller sizes? I recently dropped a dress size and I was so proud of myself. Way to go!!! Keep up the great work!!! emoticon

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SUNGIRL822 3/4/2013 11:08AM

  I have the same problem with the mall, congratulations on your non scale victory!

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MLBFAN82 2/6/2013 10:25PM

    Way to go!! So many of us now know that feeling too thanks to the support from Spark People. emoticon

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TERRIJ7 2/6/2013 12:29PM

    How wonderful! Congratulations!

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AMIV07 2/1/2013 8:52AM

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FOXFIRENDTS 1/31/2013 1:11PM

    emoticon to non-scale victories. You look great!


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NETSUE64 1/30/2013 12:58PM

    Wow, you have obviously worked very hard to get where you are and you deserve to enjoy your victory at the mall! I too hate to clothes shop. I get hand me downs from relatives. But they are getting too big and I am running out of sources. I am so scared to go fight through trying on clothes again! I hope I can have the success you did!

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ELLYNBL 1/28/2013 11:20PM

  i'm soo happy for you !!!

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KIMPAINTS 1/28/2013 10:41PM

    That is just to wonderful!! CONGRATULATIONS

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NLYR20 1/28/2013 11:15AM

  Congrats on your success. Keep going. Have the wonderful bliss reaching your milestones. emoticon

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CTMOM2KIDS 1/28/2013 10:38AM

    Wow!!! I am uplifted by your blog!

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NELLBELLA26 1/26/2013 6:08AM

    I think it is the non-scale victories that are the best! It reminds us that it's not all about the weight, but how we view and value ourselves. You look amazing in your size 16s! Congrats on the success.
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MADMARE 1/25/2013 2:33PM

    This is one of the victories that make the struggle worthwhile. Congratulations! emoticon

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BRADIA 1/25/2013 10:13AM

    It is just the begining, you need to work on a good credit card because shopping will be an addiction. Congratulations, you will be a role model for many of us.
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SHAKESALOT 1/25/2013 8:47AM

    Wonderful Job & what a beautiful victory for you. Can't wait until I can shop in the "normal" people's clothes section....I don't think I have ever done that....even as a teen. emoticon

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DONTGOAWAYMAD 1/24/2013 10:20AM

    Rock On With Your Awesome Self!

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Thank you for being an inspiration & sharing your story.

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FALCONGIRL2010 1/23/2013 5:28PM

    That is so great! It's awesome you recognize that the number on the scale does not define success. Keep it up!

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OKGOATGAL 1/23/2013 5:12PM

  WAY TO GO! That's awesome!


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HFAYE81 1/23/2013 4:24PM

    AWESOME!!! That shopping trip was a victory!!! emoticon

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/23/2013 2:39PM

  Congratulations!! You're looking great! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAIDAMONTREAL 1/23/2013 2:23PM

    Congratulations! That is quite a non scale victory. I know how overjoyed you must be. Keep on going.

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I_WILL_ROCK_125 1/23/2013 10:37AM

    Congrats to you. Non scale victories are wonderful. You are an inspiration. Keep up the good work.

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LEIAWINS 1/23/2013 7:28AM

    Wow!! You made me smile.. happy, happy, happy smile, joyful smile!! You go girl!!!

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TXGRANDMA 1/22/2013 11:33PM

    Amazing transformation you have wrought on yourself! Congratulations!

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DEEEBEE 1/22/2013 10:32PM

    Congratulations! What an achievement! Losing weight is very difficult but you have overcome and succeeded. You can be proud. emoticon

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DONNAFADLER 1/22/2013 7:52PM

  Great Job!


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SHERRY3969 1/22/2013 7:32PM

    emoticon this is so awesome

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MSDIBS 1/22/2013 7:01PM

    Awesome - so inspiring.
I hope I can do the same.

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SPARKGUY 1/22/2013 6:22PM

    Woohoo -- congrats on having fun while reaching your goals!

SparkCheers!

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CPOKEYRUN 1/22/2013 5:09PM

    Your post made me smile - cannot wait to get back into the XL's and expand my options on stores again! Congrats on your day!

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HEATHER109 1/22/2013 3:42PM

    Being able to walk into any store in the mall and find clothes in my size is a part of my inspiration. Thank you for allowing us a window into your joy and progress!

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1GROVES2 1/22/2013 2:38PM

    CONGRATULATIONS!!! and WOO-HOO!!!!

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KA_JUN 1/22/2013 2:18PM

    Great job! You can really see how ecstatic you are in your writing, awesome progress! emoticon

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FIFTYFOUR2 1/22/2013 1:38PM

    What a great day for you! To have fun doing something you used to hate is great! Congrats on your hard work and the payoff emoticon

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SHANNONY84 1/22/2013 1:25PM

    Thank you for sharing your story!

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