Saturday, January 19, 2013
I'm learning that while all the parenting books I've read have been beneficial, there's not one approach that seems to work for all my children. They are all such different people with different personalities and needs.
My oldest daughter, who is 16, right now, needs encouragement and for me to speak good words and hope into her life. She is an introvert who likes her privacy and space. For a long time I was pushing her to connect to others more and meet new people. It didn't work. She has a few friends and values those friendships. I really can't tell her what to do with her life anymore, I can just provide lots of positive reinforcement when she makes good decisions.
Next oldest is one of my twin sons. He's 13 and like a typical 13 year old, he thinks he knows everything. He has a strong personality, like both his father and I. He has strong opinions on what is right and wrong and he's ready to defend those ideologies at the drop of a dime. He's usually not right but I love that he is growing closer to God. My approach with him right now, is hands off. I nurtured him for many years but he needs to learn to become a man and thank God my husband has stepped in and taken over the training with him.
The other twin is a completely different story. He loves people and gets along with most everyone he meets. He is the athletic one so sometimes his biggest challenge is his ego. He wants no part of growing up and taking responsibility. He is perfectly happy having me do everything for him. He's not ready to lern how to be a man so our focus is weaning him off me. I told him to make himself a sandwich this week and he was mortified!
Last is my youngest daughter who's days away from being 2. She is a strong willed child and the terrible two's are in full swing! She's testing and pushing limits, all the typical toddler stuff. Lots of training to do with this one.
All to His Glory!