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Human Nature

Saturday, January 19, 2013

So I'm going along maintaining watching for signposts that I might be relapsing.

One was the thought that I don't feel that different, and is all this effort worth it. It is strange that I can feel like I'm not that different from when I was a size 20. But I guess I always did dwell in my brain a lot, if that makes sense. I mean, I've lost 7 or 8 inches off my waist, and I think that's not different? I guess this is what they mean when they say losing weight won't make you happier.

Last night I was thinking it's like winning the lottery. There are infamous cases of lottery winners who wind up with a lot of problems fom their sudden wealth. You read about it and think "How hard can it be to just pay off your debts and save the excess? But they burn through the money and keep burning too much of it once it's gone. In extreme cases it breaks up their family and causes rifts in their extended family. I read an article when the powerball was so big that listed a couple of cases of jail and suicide, saying it never would have happened if they hadn't won the lottery. I guess the most common thing that happens with newfound wealth is professional mismanagement, embezzlement, fraud or failure to pay taxes. Can these cases really be typical?

And yet with weight loss it apparently is the case that an overwhelming majority of people regain the weight plus some. I guess I should look harder at the studies. Do they count people who do it more than once? Kind of like how 50% of marriages end in divorce, but how many of those people have had more than one divorce?

Something I came to terms with the last couple of days is that "falling of the wagon" is not a symptom of things going wrong. I think it is simply human nature. Some might find this to be a pessimistic take on things, kind of like the old argument of whether or not it's natural for people to progressively gain weight in the first place. (I think it depends on the person; I have a lot of naturally thin or naturally active relatives).

And then there's the though I alluded to a while back that maintenance isn't interesting or exciting. (Me, I'm finding it all kinds of stimulating.) I'm not making the changes that can be seen on the outside, but I'm working on making the changes inside. I am working on becoming a "naturally" thin person. Or naturally normal, I guess. My husband argued his father does fight his weight sometimes. But I think when my FIL gains fifteen pounds, he doesn't sit down and console himself with sweet or fatty snacks. He just walks more and watches what he eats until his pants fit again. I don't think naturally thin people never gain weight. They just keep at it.

One interesting thought I had today is when I read in a SparkCoach lesson "the next five pounds" I automatically thought of increasing my weightlifting by five pounds. Since in my case I'm working toward a pullup, I'm quite literally looking at moving up to my bodyweight. Though as I've said, I'll probably need to lose more bodyfat on the way there.
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    Thanks for sharing!

    Have a fantastic rest of the day!
    Calorie Cycling Team
    Perfect Health Diet Team
    1709 days ago
    Interesting Michelle. I would have thought it might be the other way. I will consider it carefully.
    1710 days ago
  • MICHELLE_391
    It sounds to me like your inner and outer selves are out of sync. After your body changes, you need time to absorb and appreciate it. Have you had time to do that?

    Also, you know that the change actually comes from within, right? Your appearance has changed because you worked on your beliefs and got smart about how your body works. You have accepted how worth it you are - you deserve every ounce of health you are blessed with.

    Keep up the good work!
    1710 days ago
    It's hard to maintain your motivation to keep doing this when you don't really have weight to lose. I like the fact your giving yourself challanges like a pull up and stuff i think that will help you to keep at it. emoticon
    1711 days ago
    What I have learned from being in successful
    maintenance for two and one half years is that
    there are times when I eat surprising amounts
    of food. Sometimes far more than I intended.

    I track it and move on. The less I get upset
    about it the better. I just go back to what has
    worked for me for the last nearly four years.
    I continually reinforce the new good habits
    even though I sometime slip back into old
    eating patterns.

    Track and find out what calorie level will keep
    you in stable maintenance. Then keep to that
    average. If you overeat one day, then under eat
    the next few. It is the average overtime that
    really matters; not the daily ups and downs

    The most important part of maintenance is
    self-compassion. Be as patient, kind, and loving
    to yourself even when you feel disappointed
    in your behaviors. Trust you will find your way
    back. emoticon You will!
    1711 days ago
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