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Oh, to live life as a cat!

Saturday, January 19, 2013

One of the most surprising things about this whole experience is Gizmo. Gizmo & Simba were actually brothers - the first experience I've had with sibling cats. Gizmo adored his big brother. For the first month or so that we had them, he suckled on Simba until Simba decided he'd had enough of THAT & somehow put an end to it.

Gizmo still loved to cuddle up with his big brother & was always the one to initiate it. Sometimes they'd lie intwined for hours; sometimes Simba would tolerate it a few minutes & then either bite or haul off & give Gizmo a whack. Yes, Simba was a terrible bully to Giz . . . the fur flew a lot in his younger days.

But that all stopped when Simba got sick. Gizmo didn't even try to cuddle up with him anymore, altho he would still groom him.

So how, you might ask, is Gizmo taking Simba's absence? Happy as a clam; he seems oblivious to the fact that Simba is gone for good, despite the fact that he's never been gone so long.

Several people close to me suggest that he knew when Simba got sick & detached long ago. I suppose that's true, but it still surprises me. When we had to put our first cat to sleep, our other cat would come into the bedroom in the morning & yowl; she didn't even like the other cat!

On the day we put Simba to sleep, my sister's MIL had a massive stroke out of the blue, went into a coma & died the next morning. I talked with my sister yesterday & was struck by the difference in a human dying & an animal dying . . . they have the funeral to arrange, all her possessions to go through & allocate . . . whereas all I will have to do is pick up Simba's ashes next week, another first for me: we've always buried our animals in the past.

I was just struck by the complexity of our lives & the simplicity of animals' lives.

They live in the moment; they do not brood about the fact that they are sick or worry about what is to come.

And I'm finding some further healing in a surprising source: a free kindle book I downloaded, "The Dieter Dropout's Guide to Natural Weight Loss". The first chapter happens to talk a lot about feeling our emotions, not letting them consume us - or lead us to consume food - and ways to cope with those feelings.

And as I said, each day is a little better.
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    That is one awesome book, the author is Stan - he's a SPARKER ya know. He was kind enough to send me an autographed copy. He puts it so simply, I just passed the book on to my son's GF, she's all into getting fit now, great read.
    1855 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/21/2013 1:43:59 PM
    One of the Beautys of an animal's life is that they "Live In The Moment". We definitely could use a little of that philosophy sometimes!! emoticon
    1857 days ago
    Sometimes I think it would be very nice to be able to read our cats minds. Stanley and Oliver where brothers too with Stan being a little runt...in some ways he seemed to stay a kitten his entire life...Ollie was not usually very tolerant of the little guy but they did often nap together, otherwise their personalities were so different, even their favorite foods, and while Ollie was very independent and a determined and successful hunter, Stan much preferred to follow "mommy" even to the point of taking walks with me all I had to do was say C'mon, time for a walk.

    I'm glad you are making some progress working through your grief. They bring so much to our lives that even when we lose them, it is a gift to have their memories.
    1857 days ago
    I have often thought about these features of a cat's life and marvelled. This is a lovely blog. I also downloaded that book and
    will get to it eventually. Interesting about
    Gizmo. Makes me less anxious about my
    own two feline brothers.
    1857 days ago
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    Animals react in different ways, I guess, as do some people. When our beloved Peaches was in her final days she seemed to welcome Maddy's presence but when she was well would avoid Maddy like the plague.

    The book sounds interesting. Kisses to Gizmo
    1857 days ago
    A good post Judy; thanks for the book tip! I am definitely an emotional eater and stopped to download the book. If you haven't read the Weight Watcher CEO's book, Weight Loss Boss, it is good. Nothing earth shattering but a good read.

    Back to your topic...I noticed our dogs reacted to losing a mate differently than the cats in that they seemed to go through a grieving process and moped around for a good while.

    Wishing you a comforting day. emoticon

    1857 days ago
    We can certainly learn a lot from our animal companions.
    1857 days ago
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