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Thursday, January 17, 2013

For the entirety of my teen and adult years, I have been addicted to success stories. I would purchase each Shape magazine and Half Their size People magazine issue. I would read the success stories over and over again, until I almost had them memorized. I also would watch every weight loss episode of the daily talk shows... the reasons that I would devour these like candy...They provided me with ideas on how to conquer my lifelong weight problem and they provided me with the hope that change was indeed possible.
So, it was not too surprising that once I had hit goal weight, I would want to become one of these success stories to provide hope to others.... So, I emailed some of the talk shows and even SP to become a success story....with limited success.. I did get a call from a producer of The Doctors, and was later featured on a special on weight loss. emoticon Yet, that was it......... emoticon I got frustrated as I heard about all of these other successful losers who did magazines and tv shows. I began to wonder what was wrong with me and my story....Maybe I did it without a gimmick...just hard work, healthy eating, and exercise...nothing new there..... Maybe 109 pounds isn't enough of a weight loss when others are losing 200 plus pounds. Then, sadly, I began to think that maybe I had gotten too thin....Silly, considering I am at a very healthy weight now.... emoticon
I was getting frustrated until I began to keep hearing about a lot of these success stories who had put some of the weight back on...Maintenance is difficult enough without the added burden of people equating you with your weight loss alone. I feel really bad for people who have battled their maintenance in the limelight. emoticon It is a lifetime battle that is for our health, plain and simple. So, I am now thankful for the relative anonymity of my weight loss success. emoticon
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    1828 days ago
  • MY1FAN
    1832 days ago
  • NCSUE0514
    You ARE a success every day you stick with it!!!
    1833 days ago
    You are success. You told me that I was a success although I came here because I was fighting depression and anxiety, not for weight loss. I did lose a little more than twenty pounds. I'm feeling better about myself and that's what's important. Your health is more important than some story in the paper.
    1834 days ago
  • DOTTY7267
    Hopefully you wil realize that you have accomplished much by doing what was needed for your health and mental well-being. We inspire people daily that we encounter and share our story with. Be thankful as you say, that it is not as public as they are, because you may be getting into something you may later regret.
    1835 days ago
    You are a hero in my eyes for working so hard to be a healthier version of you!

    Continued success to you!
    1836 days ago
    You are a success if I've ever seen one. emoticon and keep your momentum going for a strong maintenance journey.
    1836 days ago
    Sparkmaill me with some details and I will forward your info to the powers that be or get you in touch with them. I just now became one and still haven't made magazines or tv after having lost 250 without weight loss surgery and coming back from being bedridden and in a wheelchair. I know how to get you in touch with some of the righ people here at SparkPeople for a success story.
    1836 days ago
    I can relate to your situation. I lost 187 lbs and 75 inches with my 1st weight loss from 2005-2007. I did it with L.A. Weight Loss and working out at the gym 8 hrs a week. The weight loss program tried to market me to People magazine. They paid a photographer and I bought $300 in clothes. People turned my story down for a woman who had cancer. I can definitely say she was more important than my story but it wasn't easy. Another magazine called Quick and Simple did 2 interviews with me and came up with a story highlighting all the negative aspects of why I became so heavy. Drama sells and I couldn't imagine all the women I would be a role model to for losing 187 lbs portrayed as a victim. My success was appreciated my countless coworkers and family who saw me as an inspiration. Be content with the health you have achieved and realize that the limelight is generally protraying victims.
    1837 days ago
    I enjoyed your blog, being a success story isn't always the best way to go, being the slow and steady person has some serious benefits.
    You have stayed the course, and I congratulate you, I am relatively new at maintance and am having issues finding the 'zone' for my calories vs. exercise. emoticon
    1837 days ago
    Hey do you know that you lost a healthy 16 year old 5'4" teenage girl?!

    That's right. You lost the equivalent if my daughter. I was just visualizing me falling backwards under her weight if she ever jumped into my arms. I don't think you can ever minimize the significance of losing the weight that you did.

    Keep it up. Having gained back half of what I lost, I can tell you losing the weight twice is definitely harder.

    I had to edit this to correct auto-correct. Yeeesh
    1838 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/10/2013 9:03:22 AM
  • DSJB9999
    emoticon blog, emoticon for sharing
    1838 days ago
    You da bomb! WE appreciate and LOVE YOU! Success is its own reward, don't you agree??
    1838 days ago
    Fabulous flab-you-less weight loss: and even better, weight loss maintenance. I wonder how many of those who get the weight off by gimmicks and reap all the attention actually keep it off: we know, only about 5% of weight losers in general, and I suspect an even lower per centage of those who did it the high attention gimmicky way. What pressure!!

    You've done great, and the most important recognition of all is your own. But there are a whole whack of us here celebrating your success, that's for sure!
    1838 days ago
    Yea You! You are a star in our eyes! Now go to the library and start setting up talks to people who need to hear your success story! Get that grassroots thing going! Woo Hoo to you!!
    1838 days ago
    You are truly a hero to all of us. Never doubt your amazing accomplishment!
    1838 days ago
    Congratulations! You are inspirational. Keep up the the great job. Linda from bean town emoticon
    1838 days ago
    Well I think what you have accomplished is ridiculously great! You have shown, courage, determination and hard work. The best thing is that you look great and can look in the mirror and know just how much you have accomplished, regardless of what other people think. I have lost 60 pounds, nowhere near what you have accomplished, but I am so proud and thankful for my new life and my new me! I don't care what others think, I know this was best for me! You should be so proud! Congrats! emoticon
    1838 days ago
  • MLB570
    1838 days ago
    Keeping it off is definitely the harder part. For that alone YOU ARE the success story!
    1839 days ago
    emoticon You are a success story!! emoticon on maintaining your weight loss!! You look awesome!!
    1839 days ago
    This is the most wonderful blog & inspiration. I couldn't agree with you more about maintenance. I think it's harder than weight loss too. I've been in maintenance since about Christmas 2012 and really never let up a bit. Just keep on doing what I did to lose the weight. A big congrats on losing 109# - what an accomplishment. You look fabulous too. Our health is the most important gift we have. We always need to nourish & treasure it - no matter what it takes. Like you, I'm not letting this weight loss & chunk of success slip away. I'm going to work as hard as necessary to keep it for the rest of my life. Thank you for sharing your story. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1839 days ago
  • POPSY190
    I think maintainers are the true success story, but of course that doesn't sell books, magazines etc like weight loss does! Loved your blog.
    1839 days ago
  • -AMANDA79-
    Great work on your maintenance! I sometimes feel insignificant because I've only been 35 lbs heavier at my heaviest. Then I realize how silly that is!!

    1839 days ago
    You are a big success story to ME! Congrats on losing that weight and keeping it off. The hitting goal is sort-of easy--the staying there is HARD!
    1839 days ago
  • -RUBIES-
    Losing 109 pounds, and most importantly, keeping the weight off is a major accomplishment! I'm happy for you!

    You are an awesome success story!
    1839 days ago
  • _LINDA
    I would say you did pretty darn well and it could have just as easily been YOU leading the Slowest Loser team. However, I have you beat in the slowest loser category. It took me two years to lose only 78 lbs :P That is pretty lucky to get slected for a show!! I have no idea how Sparks decides who they will put into the limelight. But you will get a spotlight now thanks to our very supportive maintenance team!!
    Keep up the great work!
    Happy maintaining!!
    1839 days ago
    It was very inspirational to read your blog. Thanks for sharing. Great to have you here in the community! Keep it up!
    1839 days ago
    You are a Success Story! Perhaps not a publicly recognized one, yet you are still a success story.

    Congratulations and well done!

    You look fantastic!
    1839 days ago
    I can SO relate to this! I've lost 112 lbs. and don't expect to ever grace the pages of a magazine or see my face on TV as a result. Same thing--no gimmicks, no gadgets, no special diets used to do it, just a gradual change of lifestyle. You ARE a success story, whether the media recognizes it or not, and continuing to be here with SparkPeople, you have no idea how many others you have inspired to keep working toward their own goals. Way to go--maintenance is the real challenge that few people talk about, and you are succeeding at that!
    1839 days ago
  • MKELLY72
    It's hard enough to maintain with the pressure we apply to ourselves---I can't imagine what it would be like to have the "entire world" watching me. I do, however like the accountability factor of having my own circle looking at me and I want to maintain this for my own health and to prove to others around me that it can be done--and to inspire those who think it's too hard to embrace the possibility of change for themselves if they want it.
    Thanks for your story!!
    1839 days ago
    You're a fabulous success story and a great motivator. Thanks to you, I feel inspired to check out the Galloway method, which I'd never heard of. Keep up the fantastic work!
    1839 days ago
    Congratulations! Sounds like you're on your way to enjoy what you've done and to maintain it!!
    Pat yourself on the back! Isn't it great to feel so good and healthy? Thats what I think each day after I work out and feel the results of it all!!
    Thanks for sharing! emoticon
    1839 days ago
  • SINGER73
    1839 days ago
    I don't think I'll ever be on TV, so congrats on having been on the Doctors! I don't see many success stories of people who have lost a similar amount of weight to me (about 50). I guess the magic phrase these days is "half their size" which I guess is theoretically possible, but the important thing is being healthier. I do not regret never weighing enough to lose half my size!
    1840 days ago
  • KANOE10
    That was a great success story. Congratulations on losing and maintaining your weight!
    As you noticed many of the public success stories regained their weight. You should be proud of yourself for keeping it off!

    I also wondered if I was too thin at times..but like my weight. emoticon
    1840 days ago
    Thankyou for writing this blog. I thought I was alone in feeling this way. I haven't ever been featured in a magazine or anywhere else and thought maybe it was me. But I have come to realize it doesn't matter. I do this for myself and not the recognition of others. the only recognition I ever truly got was at my WW meeting when after 3 years of finally getting to my weight loss goal, some of the members at the meeting told me how I had helped to inspire them. From time to time, someone will tell me how I have helped to inspire them but mostly, I get zip. This blog helped me put it in perspective.
    1840 days ago
  • LESLIE871948
    I SO relate to this story. Here I am 204 pounds less than my top weight, at a good weight for my body, age and frame (normal BMI). Nobody cares. I got to this weight after a life long struggle as well. I was here for 4 years between 2003 and 2007, then had a slow regain of about 35 pounds after a bicycle accident and snowstorm of bad whatever. wanted to say luck, but whatever. Bad years there.
    When I was first losing the weight and kind of in the public eye Prevention Magazine featured me because I was a member of a walking club they did. They sent a photographer and did a nice story. At that time I still weighed 185 pounds. When I finally got off the 200 I needed to get off for the normal BMI it not noticed by anyone. I have sent a few things out to Spark, and thump they hit the trash can or something. The prevention article has been the ONLY interest I have generated. I too see people on TV, and Here even at the Biggest Loser competition that the local school of public health sponsors. Nobody interested in my boring story.
    I have decided that my reward is in the way I can run a mile without stopping now. The way I feed my healthy body. The way it has healed after years of abuse. I just got back from a slow 2.5 mile warmup followed by running a mile. Maybe God knows my ego is already big enough :)
    1840 days ago
  • MOMMY445
    what a great blog! have a terrific day!
    1840 days ago
    You are a success story to me!!
    1840 days ago
    ".Maybe I did it without a gimmick...just hard work, healthy eating, and exercise..."

    Yup, that's it. You weren't fodder for the ads: "Picking your nose helps you lose weight!*"

    * Fine print: When coupled with a healthy diet and exercise.

    The loud, widely touted "success stories" are about the gimmicks. Real success isn't about the gimmicks.

    You are a real success.
    1840 days ago
    you are a success story in our book! your weight loss is amazing, you look amazing - and you've maintained! emoticon
    1840 days ago
    Unfortunately, the media have their own measures of counting success and importance. We just have to use our own experiences and our own common sense and get inspired by real success stories in the everyday lives of people we meet. You are definitely one of them and you are an inspiration to us all!
    1840 days ago
    As others have said, just be proud of your accomplishment...we all are very proud of you.
    1840 days ago
    Be proud of your achiements blow your own trumpet loud and clear. We will give you well deserved praise.
    1840 days ago
    You have done amazing things! You story surely inspires me.

    Fame is always fleeting. Living with health and an open heart beat fame every time.

    1840 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/6/2013 3:14:01 PM
    You are SUCH a success story, indeed!!!! I'm so happy for you!!! emoticon

    Great blog!
    1847 days ago
    Do you remember those commercials for Frosted Mini-Wheats?

    The adult in me realizes that I lost weight to improve my overall health and wellbeing and that I did it for myself and the people I love.

    The kid in me wants to shout out my weight loss and maintenance success from the rooftops. It hasn't been easy and I'm finally doing it. I want to whole world to know!

    I think a lot of people can relate to how you're feeling--I certainly have! I'm sure the time will come when you're featured as a success story again, maybe sooner than you think.

    Regardless of whether or not you get additional recognition, I think it's great that you've come to terms with this. At the end of the day, we're all doing this for ourselves even if we can't help but want to share our stories. I think it's only natural to feel that way when you've accomplished something that's been so personally challenging and is something that relatively few have done successfully.
    1847 days ago
    Maybe not a success "story" but a success nonetheless. As we see in the news on almost a daily basis, not every story the media thinks is "newsworthy" is as true as we might think. You know that you have accomplished something wonderful and that is a great reward in itself.
    1860 days ago
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