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Thursday, January 17, 2013

Actually, I'll start with the "Daily Visualization" from SparkCoach today.

"Daily Visualization

Imagine that you're at a party with a huge buffet table. You fill a small plate with fruits, veggies, and some lean protein. After you've mindfully eaten until satisfaction, you are able to focus on your company for the rest of the night. How does it feel to have such a carefree attitude toward food? Work on cultivating that attitude today."

In particular this question: "How does it feel to have such a carefree attitude toward food?"

THAT'S a carefree attitude?

You are in front of a huge buffet table. You have to see all this yummy stuff there for the taking but feel compelled to take the small plate, take fill it with mostly veggies and fruits and a small amount of LEAN protein. You "mindfully eat", which means even though you're enjoying the flavor you are paying most of your attention to that moment when you feel "satisfied" and then walk away knowing you won't go back.

That's CAREFREE?

*SIGH*

I guess this is just another example of why I don't get this.

To me, it would be closer to carefree taking small (a small serving spoon or 1/2 of a large serving spoon, one handfull of chips, etc.) servings of all the things I love - which YES would include veggies and maybe fruit if there's any on the buffet that I like. Carrying my plate around with me while I visit with people so the eating is slow and leisurely. And then, I can agree with this although it would be less enjoyable, not having seconds.

And even that's not "carefree".

Carefree was when I was a kid and a teen and could eat as much as I wanted of whatever I wanted and never gained weight from it.

I really wish I hadn't been like that as a kid and teen. It is so hard to come off of 18 years of that then to suddenly start gaining weight and having to cut back. Even after all the years since that change happened, cutting back it still hard. Part of my mind keeps thinking it can eat what it wants.

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On to other matters.

I think I was better off with the stress taking care of my brother.

My office/craft room thing, is still a mess from when we packed up almost our whole house to have all the carpeting replaced. In part it's because I left so soon after it was done and also it's because I want to paint the walls. So, there's stuff I have wanted for whatever reason but can't get to because it's in some box somewhere labeled "My (or Mom's 'cause my daughter helped pack up) Room".

My hubby has said firmly this time that he will be quitting his job this year. So there's all that upheaval and my space in the house is a mess and totally unusable.


No. Bad note to close on. There are some good things.

I love my cats. I'm reading a good mystery story. I went to choir practice at church and had fun singing. It's a sunny day today. I finally came up with something to make for a friend of mine for her belated (because I was gone) Christmas gift.

I will try to "Think Happy Thoughts" and maybe, if I can find some pixie dust, I'll be able to fly.

So . . .

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EJOY-EVELYN 2/3/2013 4:30PM

    I'm with you on the 'carefree' assessment. Let's just say I'm going to feel so much better when I eat whole and unprocessed foods. When I feel good, then I'm going to be able to concentrate on developing some of the quality relationships there are to be had with the friends in the room. Hug, hug -- Evelyn

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KASEYCOFF 1/18/2013 6:19AM

    You do make me laff: I'm with you on this one, "carefree" my - eye! lol...

As for the rest, you know my philosophy. We do what we can, when we can, and the rest just has to wait.

Let it go, hon, let it go. Drift, meditate, get lost in some music or reading - and in fact, what with choir practice and the book and your enjoyment of the sunny day, yah, you're on the right track. Thinks me.
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HOBBESIS49 1/17/2013 1:56PM

    FiddleMom,

I liked your blog it was honest & thoughtful .. Pixiedust yes! I think that it's waiting for us to find.

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...” Dr. Seuss

You can do this! Sorry to hear that life is so stressful now.

Spring is around the corner perhaps it will bring new buds of hope.

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GIVENTHANKS 1/17/2013 12:04PM

    Hi!

I was also just reading your blog from 1/13 and just left a comment for you on there. I know what it is to deal with stress. I have been out of work for over three years and have no income. I recently got a job but can't start working until the level two background check comes back (1-3 weeks). I have dealt with all kinds of stress throughout my almost 60 years so I can relate. This might sound cliche to anyone who does not have a first-hand knowledge of this but my relationship with the Lord has kept me sane throughout all of those stressful times. He has always been there for me. I have learned to cast my cares upon Him because He cares for me. He gives me peace and hope even through the storms of life. If we focus our attention on Him and what He says in His Word, it helps get out attention off of the negative things in life.

Philippians 4:8 in the Bible says:
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

When a negative or stressful thought comes to you, replace it with a positive thought.

Pat

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