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Friends, Family, Neighbors I Am Missing You?

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

This week has been so quiet and lonely. Why is everybody curled up in their own little corner of the world? No one comes by to visit, no one calls; haven't heard from my best friend in over a week. My daughter-in-law and my other best friend are just about the only exceptions. I appreciate that more than they will ever know.

Writing this, I know the answer... There is a saying that if you point your finger at someone, you have 3 more pointing right back at you. So I'm sure it's me. I must make myself get out there & connect with people. I must pray for the Lord to help me care more for my friends, family, and neighbors. I must go to where they are and not just expect them to come to me.

Technology is a great thing, but it has hurt us all in a way. We're all so busy on our iPhones, computers, TV, Games, Facebook, email, and everything else that we allow ourselves to be bombarded with. We're too busy for much contact with one another. I don't talk to my husband because I'm too busy watching my show. Sad, but true. I've told myself to just go visit one person this week and another next week, but then I don't do it. Or for a while I will, but then I slack off again. Is this how it's going to be? Or can I make myself be more charitable and sociable. Hopefully, my answer will be yes.
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BRAVELUTE 1/16/2013 5:49PM

    As I said on my spark page: "Technology has ushered in the age of
Meaningless Communication." -by me. I think I should add, "and Isolation. We are connected more that ever before in a virtual reality, but isolated in true reality.

I think the only way to make that isolated feeling go away is to make the effort you are making. Everyone won't be at the stage you are at, realizing they need to connect. Sitting in a crowded mall won't help.You must really connect with another person. Husband. One good friend who really wants to share in a meaningful way. Family. To get started you might play, "Remember when we . . ."

I also think the questions you ask, which get the other person to think, which make them know you are really listening to what they share, will go a long way.

I have been working to nurture relationships this year also as one of my goals. I try to strike up a conversation with at least one person everyday when I go to the Wellness center. I'm thinking that everyone I've talked with was feeling just as isolated as I was, even welcomed that fact that someone actually TALKED to them. 2 days ago, I got a hug from a woman I've never seen before. Somehow our conversation was about my cancer, and it turned out she was being tested for the same kind and was worried to death. I was able to show her she could survive even if the test was positive, but it was good she was having the test.

So don't give up on your quest.

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KATRINAKRAUT 1/16/2013 5:43PM

    Flip the coin. Think of something fun to do. Invite a friend to the movies. is there someone you have been wanting to get to know better? Is there someone who has a tough time getting out? How about bringing a tray of healthy snacks to a senior center? I hear you. So rather than waiting for someone to call, I have started a Friday afternoon happy hour group. I put out an email to my book club and to my friends and we try to meet for Happy Hour someplace. And another friend has started an "outdoor club" of sorts. She sends out an email to a bunch of us and we get together to hike or snowshoe or whatever. it is tough to put yourself out there, but who wants to sit at home...especially on the weekends!

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JAYMELYNN5 1/16/2013 5:15PM

    so true with the technology.....life does keep us busy, just need to find time.

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