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Reward or Reality Check

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Some of my SparkFriends were talking about rewards and that got me to thinking....

I don't reward myself very often.

I started taking my inventory to see if I actually deserve a reward: I'm not perfect, but I'm pretty darn consistent. I maintained my weight over the holidays, in spite of missing my regular sweaty gym workouts. I suit up and show up, even on days I just don't feel like it. I'm in awe of my SparkFriends and I make it a point to tell them. I participate. I work hard.

I could go on and on giving evidence of just how adequate I am.

Then I hear Mike's voice, "Do you want a medal for doing the right thing?"

Ouch. Reality Check.

This is a lifestyle. I'm doing the right thing. That's enough.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LIVE_AMAZINGLY 7/14/2013 7:16PM

    Mike should be happy to give you a compliment for doing the right thing. Instead of sounding like he is dissing you. It is always nice to be appreciated and not taken for granted.

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JUSTYNA7 4/1/2013 10:24AM

    There is a learning curve. We reward children for behaviour whether it is material or verbal. We reward them until it is learned. For me I'm still learning so rewards are important. It is also important to change my reward system from food treats to other things I enjoy. One of the things I learned is I am hard on myself and don't allow myself a lot of personal time to read or "play". So these rewards are also a way to teach myself that I deserve them. I like Mike though. Good to have people in your life who think the right thing is the same as what you think it is. For many people they don't have that support.

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NEEDTOLOOSE1 3/17/2013 10:15PM

    Love your blog. A reward for me can be as simple as knowing that I am doing the right thing. Eating right, exercising and taking care of me. emoticon emoticon

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-STARRYEYED- 3/7/2013 8:48PM

    emoticon blog, Aurlie! Maintaining your weight is emoticon !

You definitely deserve a reward for a job emoticon !

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LINDAMARIEZ1 3/3/2013 4:15PM

    we work for a paycheck (reward) would Mike do it for free?

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    I , too, have trouble with "rewarding" myself. To me, it seems like the focus should be more on making sure the things I CHOOSE to do ARE rewarding.

Great post, Aurlie!

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 1/23/2013 6:28AM

    I get a lot of satisfaction from a job well done. I don't need a medal at the end of the day, but it sure feels good to put my feet up. Does this count as a reward? LOL Sure hope Mike knows what a jewel he has.

Comment edited on: 1/23/2013 6:35:13 AM

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LINDAMARIEZ1 1/21/2013 7:46AM

    does Mike get a pay check (reward) for the work he does? We all deservre rewards! Makes life fun!

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MARINEMAMA 1/21/2013 7:12AM

    You work hard and deserve to reward yourself!

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JOHNTJ1 1/18/2013 8:27AM


Far be it from me to dissent, however, I believe that if you reward yourself often enough for doing whats right you'll continue to do whats right.

Positive Reinforcement?

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AURORAMILLET 1/17/2013 2:46PM

    I love to reward myself with a mani-pedi. maybe that is something you could do as well..


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CHEETARA79 1/17/2013 9:05AM

    It sounds to me like you deserve a reward. Maybe you could set a more specific goal and have a reward for that? For example, add 5 minutes of stretching after your workouts and after a week straight of doing that, get a reward!

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PROVERBS31JULIA 1/17/2013 8:22AM

    Hey!! Maybe that is why I have had such a hard time trying to determine my "reward" for achieving certain goals? I probably have an inner voice saying the same thing - "Di I want a medal for doing the right thing?"

Thanks for clarifying!



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KITT52 1/17/2013 8:10AM

    I think reward are great....they don't have to be big, just special to you....

I allow myself special time for meeting my goals, mostly small ones..
I buy a special nail polish, book , socks......some thing that just lets me know I think I am special and working hard to reach my goals.....

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CARTOONB 1/16/2013 10:35PM

    Sometimes, yes. I *do* want a medal for doing the right thing! LOL! And great job being consistently healthy. It may be the right thing, but it's still hard.

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SAISHA100CJ 1/16/2013 4:44PM

    Everyone deserves rewards, even if it is a " job well done"..... so, I am giving you a big reward: emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
You inspire each of us every day & we appreciate you very much for your support and for being so positive. emoticon

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 1/16/2013 4:31PM

    You do deserve a little something for going above and beyond to make things happen. Even if it is just a pat on the back. emoticon

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SNOWJESTER 1/16/2013 2:08PM

    That's one way of looking at it. I haven't rewarded myself yet, but I am when I reach my goal weight. But as for eating healthy during the week, the fact that I haven't treated my body like a garbage can is enough.

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LAWANDMUSIC 1/16/2013 1:46PM

    Um, yeah. I just rewarded myself. Strange thing to do, though.

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RONNIEHUEY 1/16/2013 1:27PM


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