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Relief and frazzlement

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

We got to see my husband briefly this evening. I'm sorry I didn't write about it earlier, but I was completely internet fried between here, Facebook, Live Journal, and texting. He looked better than expected so shortly after the surgery.

Which is to say that he looked like a helicopter crash.

I got through the talk from the nurse, and through talking to him and holding his hand, with a reassuring smile on my face. He was alert enough to respond to us, and speak love with his eyes. He squeezed my hand many times. He tried to tell me he loved me, but he had a ventilator tube down his throat so I shushed him and told him that I knew. His dad, though shaken, was also great about smiling at him. Our dear friends Kat and Eric, and Karla were there to hold onto Erin while she made the first adjustment to the shock of seeing him looking so wan and helpless, then Erin talked to him and our friends all talked to him. The nurse asked about the nail polish, and he flexed his hands to show it off, indicating that he understood. I went back to the bedside to kiss him goodnight, and we all walked back to the waiting room.

Where I had to put my head between my knees for a very long time.


I know that he's doing really well, and that he's strong and healthy. I know that the post-surgical frailty is completely normal and that he will be getting stronger by the hour. I know he will look SO much better when I see him tomorrow. But wow, that was hard.

I'm wearing his wedding ring on the middle finger of my right hand. I look forward to returning it to him when he can tell me he loves me.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KATHYSCOLLIES 1/20/2013 11:48PM

    I'm so glad to hear that things have well for your hubby!

He is obviously surrounded by great medical caregivers, wonderful friends, and the family who loves him. What a lucky man indeed!

I will continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Remember to look after yourself, too, so that the pair of you are able to enjoy the love you share for many years to come.


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STRONGDAWG 1/17/2013 6:36AM

    I'm wiping the tears off my face. I am relieved for you and deeply touched by your love for your husband. Thank you for taking the time to let us know what is going on in your life.

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MOTLEM 1/17/2013 1:26AM

    Stay strong. emoticon emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 1/16/2013 12:55PM

    Praying for all of you. (((HUGS)))

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MAHGRET 1/16/2013 11:40AM

    Here's hoping he will improve quickly and be breathing on his own soon.

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COOPQUILTLADY 1/16/2013 11:11AM

    Glad things went well. Stay strong! emoticon emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 1/16/2013 10:23AM


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    I am so glad you had so many people around to support and encourage and love you and your husband. That kind of love can be tremendously healing. I can only imagine the shock and fear you've been experiencing, like the world has somehow tilted on its axis and everything has shifted. But your husband has come through surgery and, even as I write this, is recovering. Please know that your many friends here on SP love and support you too.



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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 1/16/2013 8:26AM

    That's great that he made it through the surgery. I'll be sending many healing thoughts his way in the days to come.

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TATTER3 1/16/2013 6:40AM

    Prayers for you! It will get better!

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MAGGIE101857 1/16/2013 6:15AM

    Will keep you all in my prayers - hard to see the one you love who is normally so strong, needing tender loving care and hurting so badly. emoticon

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APPLESBANANAS 1/16/2013 4:54AM

    My heart goes out to you and your family. Take care.

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BLUE42DOWN 1/16/2013 1:23AM

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Take good care of yourself so you can take care of him through the recovery!

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FITANDFIFTY2 1/16/2013 12:38AM

    He is in my prayers,, take care!! emoticon

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