Tuesday, January 15, 2013
When someone on the forum says, “I CAN’T lose weight,” what are you supposed to say back to them?
Are you supposed to say...
“Yay! Yes you can! Go Sparker! RAWR!”
“It sounds to me like you’ve already made your mind up to fail?”
Should you just high tail it out of that thread and find some other activity to do, like underwater basket weaving or building a rocket ship out of popsicle sticks?
I honestly don’t know what to say to those people. I know they CAN lose the weight. I suspect that some part of them doesn’t WANT to lose the weight, because of fear, pain, or because someone else has guilted them into trying to lose weight.
No matter what the reason, they think they can’t lose weight, and they’ve decided to tell us all about it...all us folks who are working every day to change our health...they feel that we need to see their post about how they can’t do what we are doing.
Do they just want attention?
Are we supposed to pile on top of their post and feed their need for drama?
Do they want us to feel bad, because we’re doing what they really want to do, but they haven’t reached the point where they truly feel like they NEED to make a change?
I mean, I have days where streams of profanity pour from my mouth, and I feel like an utter failure, BUT I don’t go on the forums and say, “There’s no point in me being here, because I can’t do this!” I might say something like, “Hey Sparkers, I am feeling pretty down on myself today, lots of thoughts about what a failure I am. Talk me out of it, okay?”
BUT I wouldn’t say I can’t do this. I know I can do this. I know we ALL can do this. Science is amazing and has shown HOW to do this! Yay! Science!
So, if anyone has any insight as to why someone would go out of their way to say they can’t, in a forum full of people who know they CAN, please grant me your insight!