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Second Installment, I will be very busy tomorrow so I am telling it NOW!

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Almost the final chapter.
DH was supposed to be out of recovery at 11 30 am his Surgeon said Noon at the latest.
Around 3.0 pm I was feeling weak and waiting to hear about DH. The waiting alone was awful, everyone else had family with them so I sat and sparked till I could not stand the chatter then I walked the halls for a while.

I knew I had to eat so I bought a salad and as soon as I sat down to eat the phone rang and the nurse said he was being taken to a room.
I went back to the unit they said they would escort me and when I got there he was still sleeping and not in the least responsive.
I sat for another hour and the phone rang and our son in California called my cell to ask how Dad was doing.
I said he was sleeping and DH said, what time is it, the ringing phone woke him up I told him almost 4.0 pm.
I told our son DH was doing good but was not awake I asked him to talk to DH and gave him the phone. As soon as he heard the voice he opened his eyes and in seconds he was talking and eventually he was joking and laughing. I was amazed at the change, but boy it was good to see him smiling. They had a long chat and after that he was doing great but in a lot of pain. The Dr came in and told him it went well and the Dr was surprised DH was in so much pain.
They gave him pain pills and he began to look better.

A male nurse came in to take his vitals and as soon as he heard DH speak he asked if he was from South Africa and DH laughed and said he was from England. The nurse asked where and the answer is Yorkshire and the nurse said his family was from a place called Spofford also in Yorkshire, DH and I have driven through there often, since we lived in Yorkshire too.
The nurse has ancestors going back over 1,000 years in this little village.
Small world!!

As I was about to leave I asked the nurse if DH would still be going home tomorrow. The nurse had come on duty just after DH went to the room and he thought he had been up out of bed already.
He went to look at the computer and he asked DH if he wanted to stand up. DH hesitated and this man talked him into sitting on the side of the bed. They chatted and the nurse asked if DH was light headed, DH was laughing and joking and doing whatever the nurse suggested.
The nurse asked if he wanted to walk with the walker.
DH walked across the room out in to the hall and used the walker very well and DH and I were delighted.
Then the nurse insisted DH should go back to bed and rest.

It was so worth it for me to have stayed a bit longer to see how well this went.
I think the male nurse handled the situation so well, he was encouraging but not patronizing, he was firm and he helped DH by talking him through it.

DH said he felt comfortable with this male nurse I could tell it was going very well so I did something I rarely do.

I KEPT MY MOUTH CLOSED and stood out of their way.

After DH was back in bed we both agreed that he did a great job. DH had said he was regretting he had ever agreed to this hip replacement, and he meant it.

THEN---- the moment of truth.

After many years and surgeries he is certain the groin pain is not there any more he says it just feels a bit different and stiff right now.
It was diagnosed as a hernia, then a kidney stone. DH had a hernia repair and Lithotripsy and the groin pain was still there.

I am so hoping he is right, we will see tomorrow when his pain pills wear off and PT puts him through his exercises.
I am such a happy camper right now. I do have a wake up call for 5.30 am so I am going to bed early.
Thanks again Spark friends, I should say Spark family because that is how we have come to feel about this experience.
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    Sounds very positive. I'm so sorry I couldn't be there with you,Pat. I wanted to be,that's for sure. I finally got my vehicle back-the truck is finally repaired-thank goodness.My thoughts are with you both....I've worried and worried about you for the past few weeks. emoticon
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    Glad to hear about your good news, my friend!
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  • POOHGIRL1970
    SO very happy to read that so far everything has been successful...patiently awaiting updates. I'm sure there were a few breaths of relief. Recovery stage next!

    1864 days ago
    emoticon Awesome! Give Fred a high five for me! Here are some emoticon for you!
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    Great news! My hubby said the same thing after his surgery - "I don't know if tihs was worth it!" But then said the same about it being a different kind of pain (the surgery pain) and knowing it would go away. He doesn't regret having it done anymore, although he should be having the other hip done at some point and is dragging his feet! He will be much better in a few weeks, but men do make such lousy patients and you can expect him to be crabby for a few weeks! Oh, and you did well to keep your mouth shut! haha!
    1865 days ago
    Yeah! Fingers crossed the nurse's shift is tomorrow too.
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  • TERRI289
    I so love good news!!!

    HUG HUG HUG!! for both of you and even that nice male nurse!! emoticon
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    Great to hear all went well. I knew it would. I am sure that is a great relief to you that your DH is doing well. Just a few more days of stress for you as he gets off those meds. Sounds like he'll be back to new in no time.

    Remember to take care of yourself too. Make sure you eat, bring some snacks in your purse just in case.


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  • RD03875
    So glad to hear everything went well. I was praying for you and your DH
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    Wow! I didn't expect to read that he's already talking and walking! Is there someone there you can give that feedback to about how great the nurse was? I've learned that it's important to open our mouths when things are going well. Did you do your appointment already at the Spine Clinic? Where is dh's PT? You don't have to drive him to Portland, do you? When you get him home today, don't forget to spend time getting yourself settled. Great job getting yourselves through surgery! emoticon
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  • LADYBUG1943
    So glad things went well with you and your husband. It's amazing to me how fast they get them on their feet these days.
    1865 days ago
    I am so glad that last night's story had a good ending. I hope he will have a speedy and not-too-painful recovery (gotta be realistic about the pain). Don't forget to take care of yourself, too! emoticon
    1865 days ago
    Well, you don't need my advice and congratulations with all the others you receive--but I'm certainly glad things went so well and am wondering if he will go to a rehab hospital before going home--that's the procedure my husband followed when he had his knee replacements--or do they do it differently now?
    Good job, and get some rest if you can!
    1865 days ago
    Such good news. I'm glad your son called when he did and I'm glad the nurse and DH connected. I'm sure that encouraged Fred. Of course laughter is great medicine.
    It takes a good person to know when to step back and let others do for our loved ones, it's hard sometimes. Glad it all worked out and hope you and Fred got a good night's sleep.
    Sorry you had to wait all that time by yourself, that is not pleasant.

    I'll continue to pray for his recovery and rehab. And of course you, his caregiver.

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  • CJMOK1121
    Pat: I just got home from being away from home for a couple of days, so I read your blog this morning. This is such great news about your DH. I wish I had been there to sit with you in hospital it sure makes for a long day. Glad you were able to spark online some. Take good care of yourself and your DH. We all we be praying for a full recovery.

    HAVE A GREAT DAY: CJ from OK. I love your new profile picture.
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    1865 days ago
    Oh Pat...Definitely good news. I am sending Prayers and wishing you and DH, Strength! Hope Healing continues on course and that there are no complications, or set backs. Best wishes for PT.

    1865 days ago
    WOW! Up for a walk the same day as surgery! emoticon WTG Fred! AND still smiling and joking! What a man you got there Pat!!
    Give Fred some emoticon from me and a nice firm warm handshake from Alex.
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  • BAKER1009
    Pat, this is all such wonderful news! I hope today goes even better and DH comes to find that having this surgery was worth it. I hope it does take care of the groin pain.
    Can't wait for the next update! Keeping you both in my thoughts & prayers!
    1865 days ago
    Glad things are going well for the both of you. emoticon
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    So happy to here that everything went well. I see now that you have been through surgeries before so you knew what to expect. Take care.
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    1865 days ago
    great it all went off well all the best the nurse was good
    1865 days ago
    Oh Pat, I'm so glad as is going well! You get some rest honey, & pleased everything is fine, thus far!

    Prayers have been answered! emoticon
    1865 days ago
    SUPER NEWS PAT!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1865 days ago
    Hello PAT, I am so happy that the surgery went
    well and that he had his first walk with the walker.
    I'm sure hearing your son's voice gave him the
    strength to wake up. Also the nurse being from
    Yorkshire must have really put Fred at ease. You
    wisely let the two of them sort it out. Now you go
    have a well earned rest. Praying for a speedy
    recovery and let' s hope the groin pain has also
    gone for good. emoticon
    1865 days ago
    Hi Pat. I am so happy to hear DH is doing very well. The first walk is encouraging. The talk with your son was just the medicine he needed.

    Have a restful sleep my friend. Wonderful of you to let us know how well things went.

    Prayers for a speedy recovery, and good health for both of you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    A day full of Hope at every turn!! Hope Wednesday will continue!!
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    emoticon Now the recovery can begin.....

    1865 days ago
    Pat, I'm so happy for you both!!! Get some good rest. Let your DH know how happy everyone is for him. HUGS, Terry
    1865 days ago
    I'm doing a happy dance here!! What terrific news for you both. You are staying in the hotel, aren't you? Take care of you, too.
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  • GAMMY98
    Great news Pat. emoticon
    1865 days ago
    Thank you God for bring Fred through this surgery so well. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • KATHY024
    Wow! I'm amazed he may be going home so soon, but if he can do the things they ask of him I am sure he will be just fine! I have a feeling that DH was right and the groin pain will be gone. Waaa hooo!!
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    What great news!! So glad for you both!!! Still praying!! emoticon
    1865 days ago
    It sounds like he is getting good care and is doing well. I hope you both get a good night's sleep.
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    That is so amazing and what a wonderful nurse. I'm sure it helped to have the Yorkshire connection. That had to make DH feel more comfortable.

    So sorry that you had to wait all that time by yourself. If I lived closer, I would have kept you company.

    Get a good nights sleep....both you and DH.

    Prayers and hugs for both of you.....Mary Anne
    1865 days ago
    Absolutely wonderful news! Won't that be wonderful if this surgery also takes care of his groin pain??? Hope he feels better tomorrow!! emoticon
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  • 123ELAINE456
    Great News. You handle it very well by letting the Nurse take over with DH. Sounds like DH done a Super Good Job walking for the first time too. The worse is over now and on to a very Good Speedy Recovery now. It is good that He is very comfortable with his Nurse. He is getting the best of care too. Hope the both of You get a good night sleep too. Hopefully the pain level goes down and gets better too for him. Praying for the Both of You. God Bless. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1865 days ago
    Wonderful! I'm so glad he is doing so well.
    I hope you ahve a wonderful nights rest.
    1865 days ago
    Wonderful!!! That must have been comforting to Fred to learn his nurse was from around Yorkshire! Sounds like things went beautifully.

    Oh, DH is going to be glad he made the decision to have his hip replaced, even if it is down the road! He has discomfort now, but that will diminish.

    I just clearly remember having post operative discomfort but it was NOTHING compared to the pre operative pain that knee had caused! so, tell Fred to hang in there, be good, and move/walk wiht help. It will help in the long run.

    Get some much deserved rest my dear Pat! HUGS So glad this is behind both of you.
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  • SUNNY332
    Very good news, Pat. Do get some rest and have a good day tomorrow.

    Give Fred our love.


    Too cool about the Nurse. It is indeed a small world, isn't it?
    1865 days ago
    Such good news! And how wonderful that your son's voice was what brought Fred to. Looking forward to tomorrow's installment of "Adventures of Fred"!!!!!

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