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No more... SCALES

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

I told my husband this morning to throw out the scale. SERIOUSLY...

I have felt really good the past 13 days of no binge-ing. I haven't really had any urges to overeat. I have had all kinds of feelings, and I have been trying my best to feel them and deal with them appropriately. I am identifying my triggers and learning coping skills to deal with them, etc...

So, DH is trying to eat healthier also. He is weighing in once a week. I, of course, was obsessive about the scale until 13 days ago, and I gave the scale to DH about a week ago. I almost threw it out then, but I didn't want to if he still wanted it.

So, SO... I asked him which day he weighs-in. He said Tuesdays. I said that I would weigh in weekly on Tuesdays also. This morning was weigh-in day. I knew that it might be a trigger and DH was super understanding when I wasn't sure if I wanted to weigh myself. I decided that I did.

I stepped on the scale and was a little bummed. I really don't know why... I seriously knew what it would say. I was kind of "hoping" it might be a little lighter, BUT... I TOTALLY realized that 13 FREAKN' days without binge-ing can NOT be shown by ANY number on the scale. GOOD OR BAD... Doesn't matter. 120-150 wouldn't MATTER... I know how I FEEL, and I feel so proud of myself for eating healthy and trying to get better.

I truly told my husband to take the scale out of the house. I NEVER want to see it again. I am sure I will weigh myself some day in the future, but as for now... NOPE don't need a scale in the house. I know how to eat healthy. I know when I am being successful and no stupid number on a scale is going to make me feel good or bad about myself. Being binge/purge/free for LIFE is my goal.

DOES NOT matter what the number on the scale says.


Coach Nancy says:
When you take the focus off the scale, amazing things can happen.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
AURORAMILLET 1/17/2013 4:48PM

    Scales are over-rated, Keep healthy!!!


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MPETERSON2311 1/16/2013 10:06PM

    You are so strong!

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SUNNY1432 1/16/2013 8:42PM

    emoticon I hate scales too or at least the pressure of seeing what number you want to see on it. emoticon you are on the right track!

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JUSTYNA7 1/16/2013 1:33PM

    The scale is a tool but when we are in our disease it becomes a conscience. If it has that power, then it does not belong in the house. It is the same as the diet. Dieting has no place in my life any longer. It too was/is a trigger. I did what I had to do and SP was the right place to learn to make responsible choices. Feed my body and not my disease. You are doing great. Let's sing the song of 13... lalalala

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BUTTERFLY-1976 1/16/2013 12:20PM

    I use to be obsessed with weighing myself. I could be in the best mood, hop on the scale & if it went up or stayed the same I would get depressed & throw my hands in the air & think why bother. It was so bad that I had my roommate hide it & only give it to me once a month.

It eventually made it's way out of hiding & stays in plain view, but the break from it was good for me. I've finally excepted it as a number & don't let it effect how I feel about myself. How I feel about myself is way more important than that evil scale number.

Congratulations on your 13 days of healthy living!!!

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CARENMARLA 1/16/2013 9:48AM

    Hi Netty,

When it comes to conquering binging and defining success; its much more than the number on the scale. Please hang on to the wonderful feeling you have when you go to bed at night knowing that you are in control. You are doing great! emoticon

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NUTRON3 1/16/2013 6:49AM

    the scale is evil!!!!

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CAMAEL100 1/16/2013 5:08AM

    Your victories over the past 13 days is FAR FAR better than anything the scale could tell you. Especially just one day of weighing. there can be lots of reasons. I think that fighting your binging and purging battles is far more important than what the scale says.

Ask your husband to hide it if he would still like to use it. Just tell him not to tell you when he is weighing so you are not tempted. That way you both get what you want.

I am glad you were able to rationalise the scale.

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VTRICIA 1/16/2013 1:47AM

    I went years without weighing myself, and that was fine. Like, from 2003 to 2010, I didn't have a working scale in the house. And up until that last year, I wore the same size clothes and that's what mattered.

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BARCLE 1/16/2013 12:26AM

    emoticon sounds like you're doing fantastically

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JANEMARIE77 1/15/2013 10:21PM

    Doing great working on what best for you. Woohoo great emoticon emoticon

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DEB9021 1/15/2013 8:45PM

    Hey Netty!

Your successful weight loss was amazing! No wonder you got tied up in it and find it hard not to connect good feelings with a move down on the scale. But you are right! Time to be DONE with weight loss and focus on healthy lifestyle maintenance. Way to go getting rid of the scale! I am sure there are other goals you can set and track success by. Like watching the streak of binge-free days grow and grow and grow! Hope you have a lovely, mellow, happy week! emoticon

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    Netty, I can totally relate to the scale. I'm so glad that you are able to celebrate those NSV. You are a beautiful person both inside and out, who needs a scale with some number to dictate how we feel! emoticon emoticon

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MJREIMERS 1/15/2013 8:32PM

    emoticon You didn't let numbers sway you! Having a daughter recovering from an ED, I know how the scale can totally change the view of one's self. We don't let her weigh herself and I've hidden the scale and I change it's hiding place every couple of weeks.

Again GOOD FOR YOU! How you feel is so much more important than a number. Besides, the number isn't a true reflection of your health. You are NOT defined by a number!!!! Yay for you!!! emoticon

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 1/15/2013 7:50PM

    Good for you:)

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OJ_2_OK 1/15/2013 7:47PM

    Great job on focusing on nonscale victories such as how you feel and going 13 days without bingeing. I believe that its a good choice for you right now to throw the scale out and I'm glad you're husband is being supprotive.

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BOGUSANNIE 1/15/2013 7:07PM

    Netty...are you keeping a journal at all? And when you have an urge do you track what was going on at that particular time?

Journaling is greatly important in order for you to make those connections. Good for you for setting the scale aside and for embracing your non scale victories...I am very proud of can do this....just don't rush it...take it nice and slow!

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ZERO2HERO 1/15/2013 6:15PM

    Well done, Netty. Just keep looking forward!

Hope and smiles your way... emoticon

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MBSHAZZER 1/15/2013 6:13PM

    WAY more important to focus on NSVs (that's Non Scale Victories) - and you are racking those up!!

Also, what you said about feelings really resonated with me... that you have been having lots of feelings and have been trying to "feel and deal". This is AWESOME! Feelings are OK, even bad ones. No need to eat them. I have a huge problem with feelings... I don't eat them, but I do avoid them. Guess what - it's OK to have them! Everyone does. It's OK to be sad, or angry or disappointed. I will admit that my biggest fear about someone close to me dying is having everyone know that I am sad. Isn't that silly?!

Anyway, I'm glad you removed the scale! That is HUGE!!

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 1/15/2013 6:08PM

    Good job on not letting the scale define you!! Keep up the good work!

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BLUENOSE63 1/15/2013 5:53PM


Have him put it in the garage! Wow this is a big connection you have made with the scale, trigger relationship. Good for you! I hope you are writing this in your journal.

Congrats on having a good day today as that is all you need to think about right now.

PS. I weigh myself once a month, if that! Don't need that pressure. emoticon emoticon


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