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I am such a liar

Monday, January 14, 2013

I have often said "I don't really eat fast food. Fast food is not my weakness. Fast food is not one of my struggles." Liar, liar - my (bigger) pants are on fire. Sure, McDonalds and Burger King, etc., are not calling my name but Starbucks (chai tea, a cake pop), a frozen yogurt place that my youngest son likes to go to, and a smoothie shop, all saw plenty of business from me over the past few months. I knew it was bad when I walked into the smoothie shop and the sweet guy who works there greeted me and my son by reciting our regular order - a strawberry banana smoothie for him, a protein heavy (of course) smoothie for me, and two small bags of Pirate's Booty. Indulge me with a funny kid story. I asked my son for a handful of his Pirate's Booty. I had just worked out, hard, and wanted some salt back in my body. He said no to my request and I pointed out that he was not sharing very nicely. He didn't miss a beat when he told me "I am saving all my sharing time for my husband years". He's a funny boy. So, anyway, back to my "no fast food" lie. I had to take a look at all the expense, financially and calorically. I had to quit justifying going to these places so frequently. My youngest is my fourth child. My husband and I over-indulge him. He needs to hear "no" more often. Tonight, after we left my new gym, where my son very patiently waited for me to finish my boot camp workout (which was hard but not so hard that I felt trashed afterward, just very challenged), my sweet boy asked me to take him for a smoothie. I told him no, that I had prepared dinner before we left for the gym, so we would go home and eat. He pouted for a minute, I ignored the pouting, and we came home and ate a homemade meal. Anyway, I just had to "out" myself about the fast food thing. I don't feel "judgey" about people who do struggle with the temptation of traditional fast food restaurants (obviously, I am in no position to judge) but I do feel compassion. It is so easy, so fast, and is so tempting after a hard day, or in the morning after a rough night of not enough sleep. I am more of a "much less often" kind of a person, rather than a "never, ever" person. I have stopped frequenting our three favorite places so often. Maybe the smoothie guy will have a hard time remembering our order by the next time we stop in. My waist and my wallet will both thank me.
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    I love what your son said that is just priceless. It's easier to say less often then never. I agree and struggle with this. Instead of saying I never drink soda, I should say I only drink soda on certain occasions, that's it a treat not a life line anymore.
    1880 days ago
    Your son is hilarious! I actually think that it's fine to allow yourself some fast food stops...not all the time, but I am allowing myself a french fry stop once a week...helps keep me on track, LOL!
    1882 days ago
    Oh gosh, WHY did you bring up cake pops? emoticon I loooove those. I have such a problem these days of hearing about what others are eating and then fixating on it until I HAVE to have it. I never did that before. Oh well...let's blame it on my hormones like I do everything else...

    But I actually may have a solution for you. How about you pack a lunch bag with a Muscle Milk or a protein bar and have it in the car for when you get finished with your workout? Usually that solves a sweet tooth problem (or dairy craving - even though the Muscle Milk doesn't actually have dairy,it's just creamy) and maybe you could pack your son some kind of treat that he likes that you don't have a weakness for. Just an idea. In my weight loss experience, preparedness solves MANY problems when it comes to overeating. I prefer to have something healthy and eat it immediately instead of waiting for a craving attack.
    1882 days ago
    How cute is this kid???! Truer words were never spoken. I too don't often crave fries or tacos but I LOVE my drinks! Cold drinks, coffee drinks, smoothies, oh yeah. My drive-thru coffee place knows my order and what color straw I like.....pathetic. The worst part is that although I think "it's a drink, not fast food," It is usually so high in caffeine or blood altering sugar that I do come home and eat lots to try and stabilize my blood sugar and then the cycle continues a few day later. I'm not sure why I don't often think of liquid calories as real.............Hope you all feel better soon!
    1884 days ago
    'P' is hilarious! Great blog. I'm proud to say I haven't had McDonald's in over a week! emoticon
    1884 days ago
    You kiddo cracks me up!!

    Can I be hones say that probably the only reason that I don't frequent fast food places is that I am gluten intolerant. Really!
    But you just brought light to something else I AM doing that needs to scale back: I am using my local trader joe's store as my fast food fix. I can navigate my way well down the aisles and I know what is gluten free. And we all know that gluten free does NOT translate to low fat or low calorie all the time (dark chocolate, candy, butter laden items. Hello!?!).
    I am using your blog as a wake up call for myself to scale back my own 'fast food' routine at the store. My toosh no my wallet will thank me too : ))
    1884 days ago
    tough stuff to stop the favorite places - good for you! I love smoothies too, but they can be calorie laden (as can anything not homemade). keep up the good work!
    1884 days ago
    OMG! I loved your son's comment.
    1884 days ago
  • AMYB1985
    Good for you. Recognizing our own little self-deceptions is a challenge.And I, too, struggle with them. Hang in there; it gets easier. emoticon
    1884 days ago
    Socrates said, "Know thyself". That is the beginning of your weight battle; and knowing that you've been lying to yourself is half the battle. I wish you best of luck on the other half of your battle!
    1885 days ago
    I could eat fast food all it. A good thing about being poor is that I canĀ“t afford it often but it happens too often that I solve mine and daughters meal problem with McDonalds drive through...
    1886 days ago
  • DOODIE59
    Everybody's junk food is different, but too much of any thing, even the good things, is too much. I bury my head in the sand about how often I indulge, but, ahem, the body doesn't lie:)

    I think one has to stop at the moment of the urge and ask whether it is hunger or a desperate desire to tamp something else down. I think I often eat to "push something down or away (from my mind?)". I think that something is sometimes just simple exhaustion, and rather than address my fatigue, I grab a sugar high (and its accompanying crash) and the cycle continues. Stopping in the moment is the key and the problem:) That's what I have to work on.

    Good for you for saying out loud what you need to do. We are just works in progress, and sometimes the lessons are small.

    Separately, Sweet P has got a wit far beyond his years -- and I suspect it will serve him well:) Thanks for sharing that cute story.
    1886 days ago
    Oh my goodness, I almost fell off my chair when I read your son's response, "No, I'm saving all my sharing time for ny husband years." That is one smart boy you have there. emoticon

    Fast food . . . in this fast paced life, it's easy to fall into that trap. The salt and sugar in the food is sooooooooo physically (and mentally) addicting -- just like other substances -- and the same areas of the brain light up when exposed to those things as do when exposed to nicotine or other addictive substances. Soooo. . . as much as you can stay away you are doing your body good . . . and your son's too!

    Excellent blog and glad actually that you had the courage to post this, because I have a sneaking suspicion you're not alone!

    1886 days ago
  • DAISY443
    As always a great blog! Here is a strange thing about my nutrition. I decided to stop going to McDonalds for an occasional cheeseburger and small fries and to Subway for my very favorite Sweet Onion terriyaki chicken (12", of course) a few months ago. I did always track them into my daily nutrition and they usually did not cause me to go over on calories. Since then, I've gained 10 pounds. Maybe we need that occasional shot of yummy to keep us on track! Not advocating, just sayin'!
    1886 days ago
    I totally laughed out loud at your son's comment! I think that will have fun potential once he is older and his future wife will love it! :)
    1886 days ago
    Your son is wise beyond he's years and very funny.
    I'm glad I don't have a place to pass as i leave my gym. But I am pretty sure I would pass it up like I have been doing so far. i have a picture of me at 335 over my visor, i look at it when i get tempted. But I will admit to having a hamburger, and onion rings the other day. But it's the first one in 2 years and I ate it over two meals. Found out it wasn't as good as I remembered , so I'm good for at least 2 more years.
    I fix my own smoothies. Never been crazy for ice cream. And I quit drinking coffee some time back. Although a good cappuccino is my weakness. So I have some at home, where I control what goes into it.
    I don't think we would be normal to not have certain foods at times. It's just how often , thats the key to success.
    You workout a lot, so do I and it's easy to justify a little extra treat because we did workout so hard. But that will come back to bite us in the long run.
    Success in living our lives healthy and fit is not depriving yourself totally of all food pleasure. It's knowing how often, how much and trying to maintain the balance.
    That's something I am still working on, probably will be for a long time.
    Take care,
    Hugs, Tisha emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1886 days ago
    I know that it's so beneficial to confess, so you'll be doing lots better from here on out! Good for you with sticking to saying "no" to your son. It will pay off down the road and you'll be one happy mama! All kinds of tricks to life, isn't there? Have a super good day and week!!
    1886 days ago
    Ooo, I'm embarrassed. My comment is as long as your blog!
    1886 days ago
    One of the advantages of living in a rural area is less temptation for these kinds of stops! We have a couple of good local restaurants but our fast food options are limited, thank goodness.

    Good job on scaling back...I'm with you on the "less often" rather than "never" approach.
    1886 days ago
    Omg, I just wrote a really long comment and it vanished! I'm going to try to reconstruct it because I was full of thoughts on your blog. If the other one magically re-apppears, you'll know why there are two.

    I was saying how clever, perceptive and funny P is. I was also wondering about his nutrition. I know that last year you guys were working on that. When you go to Starbucks is he getting a hot chocolate and a cake pop?

    About you, two things came up: one is about reward and indulgence, the other is about texture. Is the high-end fast food a reward for you? For all the running around and waiting for P and working out? Or is it that with all you do, your body needs sustenance? I know that after Pilates I always want a cappuccino, but then I have to face down the bakery case. It makes me so uncomfortable (staring at cake pops) that I stopped going to Starbucks and I eat an apple in the car on the way to work instead. Yeah, I still would like a coffee but the apple actually does the trick.

    The other thing is about craving creamy things. Frozen yogurt, smoothies, creamy latte drinks? I also love stuff like that. I think it's about the texture, and also that if I could do it and be healthy, I would eat high-fat foods all the time. I think that has something to do with estrogen also. I love cottage cheese, ice cream, yogurt, all that. My Chinese doc says we should eat little or no dairy! I'm sure he's right and I've cut WAY down. Like most cravings, the less you eat them the less you crave them.

    I see so many commonalities between you and me that it's no wonder that we have physical similarities. It's good that you wrote this blog and I am looking forward to hearing how you progress on this issue.

    1886 days ago
    I'm proud of you. Even though the smoothie was relatively healthy, it was still extra calories you didn't need. Onward my friend... Your son is a riot!
    1886 days ago
    Great blog.
    1886 days ago
    Sometimes these "visits" sneak up on us, we don't realize how frequently we stop in, until you step in and it is like a scene from Cheers and "everyone knows your name"!

    The caloric cost is the one that is the most troublesome. I get pay raises from time to time (not often enough, or big enough), but the boss has never told me I can eat an extra 500 a day and not gain weight! I think I will talk to him about that!
    1886 days ago
    having an "aha" moment doesn't make what you previously thought to be true lies. but yes, smoothies and starbucks are fast food. but less greasy. fortunately it's tangerine season here. unfortunately it's also dentist season, which tends to induce anxiety eating. but i ran 3 miles after the dentist today. course today he didn't do anything but depress me. friday will hurt.

    1886 days ago
    What a funny and adorable little boy you have. emoticon
    I must admit when I read fast food, Starbucks & smoothies didn't pop into my head, but they should have. I watched Hungry for Change and one of the experts refers to what normal Americans are eating as processed food like substances. Now that you've identified those non-nutrious substances and made the tough decision to cut back, I think your body will thank you.
    1886 days ago
    "I am saving all my sharing time for my husband years" Too cute! lol!
    I had to cut myself off of Starbucks and now I have promised myself no more Starbucks until I get to a certain point.
    We'll get there!! emoticon
    1886 days ago
    Good luck with the new habits
    1886 days ago
    The title of your blog slapped me in the face. You are so brave to out yourself...I'm still living in a deep, black hole of denial, but I know I can't stay there forever and continue to regain the weight I've lost. Your blog helps me rise to the surface and see the light. Thanks!
    1886 days ago
    "Much less often" sounds much more balanced to me than "never ever"! And less depriving, too. And also more human-like. So, I think you're on the right track.
    And, of course, as usual, I like your honesty.
    1887 days ago
    You know, you bring up a great point. It's so hard to count these things as "fast food"... I only have a Starbucks here (besides the usual fast food), so far as I know, and lately I've been frequenting that so much more often than I normally do! I need to chill out on that expense and calorie intake myself. Thanks for the reminder!
    1887 days ago
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