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I need more friends I have stuff in common with.

Monday, January 14, 2013

I found myself posting this status earlier on my facebook, "i need more friends i have stuff in common with. i wanna get out.. do stuff.. maybe play some sports.. take walks.. ride bikes.. you know, the stuff that makes us alive."

I have very few close friends. I can count them on one hand. I don't have many acquaintances I hang out with, because I don't really believe in that. I like quality relationships that will last a very long time. I've lost quite a few close friends lately, because it was lacking the "quality" factor. I needed to get away from negative people. I feel like my boyfriend is really the only one I have right now that won't flake out on me. I need friends I can count on.

The friends that I do have are very good, aside from the flaking out aspect, or shutting themselves out of the world because they have a husband and a kid. Don't get me wrong, I know life is busy, but when you only see your friends once every 2 or 3 months, that's bad. The one thing I lack in my friendships that I wish I had is activity. Feeling alive. We don't do stuff. We don't go out and be active. I like to take walks, I wanna ride bikes, I wanna swim laps, I wanna play some sports. Something.


I wish magically I could meet another woman on this site, around my age, that likes to do the same activities. Our bodies are meant to move, not lie around and become slobs. I'm tired of sitting around the house. I hate doing things on my own, but I will this summer if I have to!
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    I completely agree. I'm in the same boat as you are. I have never been someone to have a giant gaggle of girlfriends. Always just a handful of close friends. But I live across the country from them and my family. I've lived in Phoenix for the past 19 yrs and am still trying to find a few close friends. It gets so much harder as you get older. I have made some wonderful friends here on Spark, one was even living in Phoenix until she got relocated with her job. It was so fun to have someone to hang out with and hike, scrapbook, go to the movies with! Others live in Chicago and Wisconsin and I hope that when I eventually head to Chicago to visit family that I will get a chance to meet them in person.
    What area do you live in?
    I agree with the other poster, Meetup.com offers MANY options of groups such as hiking, running, all sorts of things. I've never personally gone to any events, but maybe when my life slows down a little bit I will be able to.
    One thing that I've done recently that has helped.....I got a seasonal retail job (Hobby Lobby) and I have met the most wonderful people there. What a great family atmosphere, and hopefully I will actually get to the point of socializing with at least one person outside of work. That would be nice. My other job is very isolating - only 3 of us in the office. That's just not enough socializing for me. So being in an atmosphere with a lot more employees and customers has perked me up and I really look forward to being there. I wish it paid more so I could just work there....lol
    You're always welcome to find me on Facebook (Melissa Larsen Sulista) and let me know if you ever swing into Phoenix. At least we can commiserate on our jacked up digestive systems! lol
    1880 days ago
    I'm not sure where you live, i posted something about finding "better" friends a couple of months ago. And some very great Sparkfolks suggested Meetup.com. It's a great sight to meet others that have the same interest of you. I joined a group of local moms looking for stuff to do with our kiddies and so far every meetup has been a positive one. Good luck!!! I totally hear you!
    1887 days ago
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