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Explaining those odd spots in the emotional scale...

Monday, January 14, 2013

Those of us who tend to "fret" at times need to meditate and pray, exercise, breathe... whatever... to get back to the place of calm.

Excitement can come from happy sources: anticipation of son's return. Saw him online as recently as yesterday morning, so I know he's not yet in transit. Happiness over them starting the process to purchase their first home. The house offer was countered and the counter accepted. emoticon

Anxiety can arise from the what-ifs, the fears of all the things that can go wrong: travel dangers, financial storms, etc.

Both show up, mixed together, and need to be dealt with: deep breath, put things beyond my control firmly in the "God box". I am not living my kids' lives... I am learning my own lessons.

And with that, I'm off to work on a Monday. Work is also a way of dealing with things that it *are* mine to influence!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LEANJEAN6 1/17/2013 7:50AM

    Oh Gee Barb-------What would we do without Spark??----Ihave that Spark Ap too---just a kit of technology going on here right now---Mediate--I must get to that next--Lynda emoticon

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KOOKYKATHIE 1/16/2013 8:01PM

    EBEAMS I love your quote from Corrie Ten Boom. I remember her name from my past so I will have to look her up to be reminded what she did.

It's so hard to not worry about our children no matter what age they are.

emoticon for the God Box. emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 1/16/2013 8:06AM

    No-one needs to worry as I do it all--for everyone!!!

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LINDAKAY228 1/15/2013 6:19PM

    Good news about your son! I'm so happy for you. Joy and worry can both come at the same time and great job on finding ways to deal creatively and healthily with yours.

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BUGGYS 1/15/2013 11:46AM

    So glad to hear your son is on his way home and is buying his first house!!!

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CAGEDBIRDSONG 1/15/2013 9:37AM

    Yes. I need the daily reminder to let go of the worry and fretting too. I think on some subconscious level I am afraid that if I don't worry I don't care about the outcome. That I have to worry to keep them safe. On an intellectual level, I know that is complete nonsense. I suppose my faith isn't as strong as it should be. True faith doesn't worry about jinxing your kids life because you don't worry about them. Thank you for this blog and making me think this through. Today I will focus on what I CAN "influence."

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LEANJEAN6 1/15/2013 8:10AM

    We are in the same boat Barb!--re food-----and this boat is not going to sink--LOL----Hava good day--Lynda emoticon -

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MSLZZY 1/15/2013 7:39AM

    Thnaks for the mention of the "God box". I really
need to do this more. HUGS and best wished for
the day. You have much to be excited for.

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    Hoorah to you and family!

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DLDMIL 1/15/2013 12:20AM

    emoticon good for you.

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DOGLADY13 1/14/2013 9:29PM

    It was an eye-opener for me when I realized that good things can cause anxiety, too. I have often heard of the "God box." It's hard to not take things out of that box, though. As if we know better! Ha!

I hope your son returns home soon. Your love for him is beautiful to witness, even if it is over social media. I hope he knows how much your cherish him.

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EBEAMS 1/14/2013 9:00PM

    It IS hard not to try and live your kids' lives for them! So much of what we want to impart was learned the hard way and WE KNOW ... I tend to forget I had to live through my mistakes in order to appreciate the lesson I was intended to learn. I am delighted for you (and jumping up and down inside) that he is returning! Hip Hip Hurray! Everything will go exactly the way it is supposed to ... can't be any different! I like the saying "Worry doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength." ~Corrie Ten Boom.

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PATRICIAAK 1/14/2013 7:16PM

    Is your son's house going to be near yours?

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OPTIMIST1948 1/14/2013 7:08PM

    "A willingness to accept the things I cannot change"

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MJZHERE 1/14/2013 4:56PM

    I like that - the "God's box." I often have to remember to put my kids in there - all grown up He knows best how to take care of them.

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LJCANNON 1/14/2013 4:48PM

    emoticon What an Exciting Time for you all!!
Congratulations to Your Son's Family, and To YOU for Learning and Putting Into Action all the Things you have Learned about Stress and Dealing With It!!

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_LINDA 1/14/2013 2:54PM

    Two awesomes -new house for your son to come home to -win -win! Even though I don't have kids, I can still imagine the angst you are feeling until your only child finally arrives Stateside safe and sound. Sending positive thoughts!

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DALID414 1/14/2013 2:05PM

    I'm glad its Monday too, I need the work distraction.

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MIRAGE727 1/14/2013 12:50PM

    Thanks for sharing the enlightenment, Barb! I so enjoyed it!

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MEXGAL1 1/14/2013 12:42PM

    congrats on your son getting the house. that is so exciting.
Anxiety has many different faces....I am constantly working on ways to release anxiety and live in peace.
Have a terrific week.

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GABY1948 1/14/2013 12:19PM

    So glad son got the house he/they wanted. Great explanation on "fretting" etc. I understand because I am there with you! Have a great week!

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1CRAZYDOG 1/14/2013 10:05AM

    That's wonderful that the counter was accepted! Ah, the joys of home ownership! Congratulations ot DS and DIL.

Absolutely LOVE the God Box! That is such a visual for me. Wonderful!


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KASEYCOFF 1/14/2013 10:03AM

    Reading between the lines: glad to hear the house is going thru - double-glad to hear he's on his way back!

And yepper, I hear you about the potential for what can go wrong. Of course, hand-in-hand with that is the potential for what can go right.

And so we go on. You're a doll, Barb.

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DRB13_1 1/14/2013 9:56AM

    fear and excitement come from the same place, it's just the attitude toward the situation that differs

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SENATOR9 1/14/2013 9:39AM

    They got to make their own decisions

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NELLJONES 1/14/2013 9:22AM

    We all have enough to worry about with the real stuff. We don't need to make it up. Some people (like my mother) enjoy fretting, it gives them something to think about. I'd rather pass.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/14/2013 9:10AM

    That is great about their house! I love that my daughter has an awesome house. I didn't help her decorate it at all and she did so good I now want her to come decorate mine.

You are so right about the fretting. And that positive changes can intensify the anxiety, too. Changes can just be challenging. Waiting and anticipating good things and not so good things can be tought.

Wishing you calm, wishing you happy meditating and breathing and working and, of course, exercising. These days will pass and he will be here. Hang on.

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ANDI571 1/14/2013 8:54AM

    Amen! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 1/14/2013 8:52AM

    Even though you are dealing calmly with this - I am excited!

PS - love the "God box".

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WATERMELLEN 1/14/2013 8:32AM

    We parents of adult children need to be reminded over and over again (thank you): we are NOT living our kids' lives!

All the same . . . so exciting he's on his way home AND to the new house!!

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 1/14/2013 8:23AM

    Glad your son is well. Buying the 1st house is exciting. Hope you have a good day.

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ELRIDDICK 1/14/2013 7:57AM

  Thanks for sharing

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