Saturday, January 12, 2013
You know when you start a DIET, there will be tough times, there will be moments when you just want to give up, there will be frustration, and then deep inside you also KNOW you will probably regain whatever you have lost. BUT - when you start a LIFESTYLE CHANGE PLAN, those are NOT the feelings that arise. They are the feelings we EXPECT because after all, the best predictor of future behaviors is the history of PREVIOUS behaviors. We expect it to be HARD, to experience failure, to be frustrated, BUT it doesn't have to be that way with LIFESTYLE changes.
What CAN you expect when you CHANGE your life??
To start with, you can expect that the HARDEST part of the process will be the way you think about the entire process. It is HARD to stop looking at and relying on the scale as THE measure of success. It is HARD to STOP talking, thinking, and being a bit angry about FORBIDDEN foods and things you CANNOT have. It is HARD to acknowledge and accept that you are not, were not, and never will be PERFECT. It is HARD to accept that you CAN DO IT. It is perhaps HARDEST to accept that YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Changing habits, traditions, and patterns of a lifetime is NOT easy, but when you make the initial commitment you CAN change those thought processes.
You can learn that healthy can taste good as well as being GOOD FOR YOU.
You can learn that when you make a mistake, a poor choice, or just choose something you SWORE you would NEVER eat again, it is JUST THAT - a choice. SINGULAR CHOICE - ONE TIME, ONE MINUTE, ONE MEAL, ONE DAY, or ONE CHOICE, NOT a catastrophe, NOT a disaster, NOT the end of the world.
You can learn that you WILL recover from those choices and decisions that are not PERFECT.
You can learn to be flexible, to do the best you can, with what you have, with who you are, and with where you are in place, time, and emotional space.
You can learn to be KIND and gentle with yourself when those times arrive.
You can learn to PLAN and also that a PLAN doesn't have to be PERFECT but even an imperfect plan helps. Revisions, adjustments, and reflection on your PLAN can improve the plan as well as your life.
You can learn to STOP and think before you make decisions/choices and to be MINDFUL, INTENTIONAL, and FOCUSED of what you are eating and what you are doing with and to your body.
You can learn to move more, to start slowly, and to take it ONE DAY AT A TIME.
You can learn to celebrate your successes with great joy and without sabotaging your success and that FOOD is NOT THE ONLY piece of a celebration that counts.
You can stop abusing and berating yourself for your HUMANNESS. Abuse isn't really conducive to changing minds, habits, or people - it does build resentments, anger, and frustration - all of which are counter productive to SUCCESSFUL CHANGES.
You can learn to ENJOY the journey. Tasty foods can also be HEALTHY foods. The time spent on the journey is far longer than the end. There will be hills, valleys, grassy fields, cities full of people, and wide-open spaces on the journey - whatever the challenges and whatever the terrain you travel through - the JOURNEY takes up the greatest amount of you time and you might as well learn to LOVE the journey.