PRIVATE COMMENT!!! No person other than HANKENSTEIN has permission to read this!! Stay Out of this Comment Zone!!! Go Away! I repeat, THIS IS PRIVATE!!!!!
Hey guy, Had to check this out since there have been quite a few times that I have gone to a page, while piggybacking from some other buddy's page where an interesting comment was left and thinking I would follow the "source", only to be greeted with the word PRIVATE. And even though I can appreciate anyone's right to be PRIVATE, just seeing that word there ..... well, it seems so dang COLD. Like, go away, you bother me.
Anyway, when I joined Spark I did not sign up with my real identity. Good grief, although I would like to be Meryl Streep, and we all know I look exactly like her, , I'm not Meryl! The thing is, knowing that one could blog here and knowing that I might want to blog about some real personal stuff in my life, I went undercover. So, my question would be, "If you want to keep your identity safe, why expose your REAL identity at all?
OK, having said all this, I don't really care if someone wants to go PRIVATE. That's their decision. Still, the sad truth is, aside from the fact that we can't gleam any helpful insights from them by reading their blogs and comments, they are in an even worse place .... cuz they can't read all the wonderful comments we would have left on their pages, either. You know, great comments like this one.
Not around here as often as I would like ... still caregiving ... but, no matter, do keep Vloging and do keep being YOU!
After, I found a cache picture of my page on Google with my story visible for all to view, I went private. I have been stalked in the past and for that reason am somewhat guarded.
After, I found a cache picture of my page on Google with my story visible for all to view, I went private. I have been stalked in the past and for that reason am somewhat guarded.
Actually Jessie I am still on Spark. I use the tracking system here and get inspiration from those sparkers who are sincere and not here for their ego. I've been here all year just to use the tracking system. Why did you think I am no longer here?
I agree about the private page thing. I hope that people will comfortable enough after awhile to share but I guess we will have to just hope. I am astounded by the rude, mean things some of these people have said to you though. I hope you don't take any of these things to heart!
Welcome back and good luck with this journey of yours. I sure love the feedback I get from people!
I love that you are back! I know it's hard to see so many private pages here, but there are different reasons for people to have a private page. Some have even had bad experiences with sparkers attacking them. Things like that bother me more that not being able to see someones page. I hope more people do open up as it can be a help. Thanks for the blog and some insight Hank.
In another life I spent time on a site imploring for folks to do things such as share their food logs or blogs - the site didn't really have a good blog setup but anyway - with *at least* their friends.
Knowledge is power and leveraging the collective brain is helpful sometimes. So is support. It is hard to support someone who isn't open to sharing anything.
I've had a friend request out for more than a week now with someone who, I believe, would benefit from some encouragement. Not sure that it will ever be accepted. Oh well, what can you do?
I suspect some folks are VERY reluctant to trust that what they share won't end up being abused and such by others - not necessarily Spark folks but others. There are enough cruel, hateful folks in the world that many of us are suspect of everyone's motives, sad to say.
So I agree with you that sharing is good. I believe one can limit to just friends here, but even that might be too much for some.
Welcome back to SparkPeople by the way.
I look forward to keeping up with your progress and have added you as a friend. You can be successful. I'm sure of it.
Thank you Erin, and thank you for shedding some light on all this. I think I do share, and I am certainly not someone here to stroke my ego. I want to better myself, and with support from people like you, I know I will. Blessings to you in 2013.
Hi Deary, Mine is private, after my words were found on an internet blog and was used to make fun of me. Wish I was tough enough to deal with it, but I am not. It hurt. To bad there are people out there that do this sort of thing and we can not share ourselves with the world...without fear. But the facts are, there are mean spirited people in this world. I even found some of my pictures online, as if they were someone else's. Some people do not have or have not created a life for themselves and leech off of others and feed some sort of need within themselves by taking from others. I try and give more than I take. You know I love ya and you know, I wait to see or hear from you. I like you even when others don't. I see the heart that lays beneath your frame and respect that heart some may not care to see. You are a special person and I sure like too. Hugs, Erin
Maybe the people who have private vlogs and pages say personal vulnerable things about themselves and feel comfortable only sharing with those they added as a friend. I get that and respect that.
You never say anything personal about yourself. Your vlogs and writing seems egotistical, like you have all this wisdom for others (in your head only) but you are not here to lose weight like the rest of us. Do you track on here and make it public, or join teams but you judge others. Correct, I am not a fan of yours.
Instead of coming on here and judging others, worry about yourself!. Your vlog is depressing. You won awards here? They do not give out awards. You mean you had a featured vlog. How funny.
I'm sure you will delete this but coming on here and judging others is not cool!
As with 1STATEOF DENIAL, yours is the only video blog that I consistently watch. There is a person on one of my teams that does quite a few video blogs, but I just skip over her posts as I find them boring.
At least with your reporter's background, you keep yours pretty much short and to the point and not with lots of hair and clothes adjusting and hemming and hawing. etc.
Keep on blogging, no matter which form you use, I will peruse the contents.
To each their own. Some people don't realize what having a private page means, others don't want their journey chronicled for everyone to see, only a select few. I do think it's a shame that you focus so much on the video blogs and less on the written blogs, as there are some wonderful people who write very inspirational and thought-provoking blogs that they might not be able to convey through video. If it takes 3 hours to write a blog that says what they mean but doing it on video makes them so self-conscious that they can't get the words out, then it's a shame to discount them. Then there are people like me who don't have a web cam, can't afford to get one, don't want to try to figure out how to use the stinking thing, and often are on SP while in pajamas before bed, so doing a video blog is not an option. So are we unable to be helpful, thoughtful, and inspirational because we can't say it while staring into a camera?
Just my thoughts. I figure if someone wants to have a private page then they probably want to be left alone, so I leave them alone. I prefer written blogs because I'm often on the phone, using multiple web pages, and watching tv or a movie all at the same time, so to stop everything else and watch a video blog is something I rarely do. To each their own. You're the only constant video blogger that I've followed (since SunnyBunny left that is) in 2 1/2 years I've been here. Is it possible you could get more sparkfriend if you posted a few written blogs in amongst the video blogs? Possibly. Are you going to do that? I'm assuming probably not. Will anyone think less of you because of it? One can hope not.
Just some thoughts for you to ponder. I'm a 'live and let love' kind of person, so as long as someone isn't hurting someone else, I let them be. So private pages don't bother me in the slightest.
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