Empty Nest or Sewing Room?
Friday, January 11, 2013
My Day: Today was great! 45 minutes before I leave for the weekend, my supervisor shows up. The guy went to work on my displays, filled a couple of things and said "Thumbs up!" YES!!
With that out of the way, this is the all important weekend. My son moves out "forever," in his new bachelor pad. When your child is born, your total focus becomes raising and educating the child to become a responsible member of society. He has graduated college. He has a good job that he enjoys. I should be throwing a party and patting myself on the back for a job well done.
There is a part of me that wants to keep him here... it is the selfish part. I'm like that with my daughter too. You just want them to be little again. You still want to "fix" everything for them (I¡¦m REALLY bad at this).
What does a mother do? I decided that I was going to tell him that the door is always open if he wishes to come back. There will always a place at the table if he wants to have dinner with us . I'm making plans to gut the room and make it into a guest bedroom/ sewing room. When I say "gut," I mean from the OSB floor to the lighting. By doing this, it proves to myself and the family that I am moving on and not clinging to the past.
Probably to everyone¡¦s amazement, I will not be participating in the move. He hasn¡¦t asked. I¡¦m guessing because he is assuming I will try to ¡§fix¡¨ everything or that I will fall apart. I¡¦m cool with that. My husband is going to help him and they will share the day together.
Remember a week or so ago when I said my supervisor had asked me to lunch and I declined, saying I was on a diet? Today, I wore my skinny jeans and this shirt that I found at Wal-Mart clearance for $1 (size Large ƒº ) . Since I was finishing up, I wasn¡¦t wearing my smock. He asked me how my diet was going, wished me good luck and said the change was ¡§noticeable.¡¨ He didn¡¦t take any offense to my declining lunch. He said it shows determination.
Tomorrow I weigh and measure. On Monday, I go to the Dr. to weigh in. I hope to see progress there. I do know that I am about to get rid of my three pair of Levi¡¦s size 16, they are getting very loose and I keep pulling them up. I¡¦m ready to look for a few more size 14¡¦s at Goodwill. I¡¦m seeing TWELVE on the horizon!
I have completed my menus for the week. FlyLady said to mop the kitchen floors, which I did plus the diningroom and laundry room. It¡¦s clean the car , purse and briefcase day. Did that. I have so many ¡§hot spots¡¨ on my list that it¡¦s difficult to choose. I think I might get the Christmas Dishes in the boxes, take them to the attic. If not, there is tomorrow
The weekend, I¡¦m going to spend an hour ¡§blessing the house,¡¨ which is basically cleaning it in 10 minute shifts for 1 hour. Doesn¡¦t have to be perfect. Do as quickly and painless as possible so I am not dreading it. I have to say though, this doing a load of laundry each night for 5 days rocks!!! No laundry this weekend!