Friday, January 11, 2013
So... a new chapter begins today.
My dad's wife got to a point where she couldn't handle dealing with my dad's issues, because of her own disability. So she told my brother that he or I had to take over as medical POA. Evidently she was clueless as to what was going on medically, even though she did have the power of attorney, because as soon as the paperwork was signed today, my brother found out that Dad hadn't been on this expensive chemo drug after all. That alleviates some of the fears about taking on the power of attorney,
Fortunately my brother seems willing to help out and to consult with us kids, even though he's rather just go on about his job and his life. It's about the same amount of hours or maybe less, for him to drive up to where my dad is (they are both in Texas), than it would be for us to drive down.
All four of us kids are in agreement about Hospice care, as is my mom (his ex), so that is coming up as soon as he is dismissed from the hospital (which I think happens this weekend?). We all know my Dad has commented favorably on the Hospice concept, after experiencing it with his parents (our grandparents). And more recently my husband and I have utilized Hospice for my mother-in-law. It's just the most dignified peaceful process... but I realize that isn't for everyone.
So I may be going back down in a few weeks, if my brother thinks it is appropriate, to help deal with the stuff that still remains. We'll see.