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Update on my dad...

Friday, January 11, 2013

So... a new chapter begins today.

My dad's wife got to a point where she couldn't handle dealing with my dad's issues, because of her own disability. So she told my brother that he or I had to take over as medical POA. Evidently she was clueless as to what was going on medically, even though she did have the power of attorney, because as soon as the paperwork was signed today, my brother found out that Dad hadn't been on this expensive chemo drug after all. That alleviates some of the fears about taking on the power of attorney,

Fortunately my brother seems willing to help out and to consult with us kids, even though he's rather just go on about his job and his life. It's about the same amount of hours or maybe less, for him to drive up to where my dad is (they are both in Texas), than it would be for us to drive down.

All four of us kids are in agreement about Hospice care, as is my mom (his ex), so that is coming up as soon as he is dismissed from the hospital (which I think happens this weekend?). We all know my Dad has commented favorably on the Hospice concept, after experiencing it with his parents (our grandparents). And more recently my husband and I have utilized Hospice for my mother-in-law. It's just the most dignified peaceful process... but I realize that isn't for everyone.

So I may be going back down in a few weeks, if my brother thinks it is appropriate, to help deal with the stuff that still remains. We'll see.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GRAMMACATHY 1/13/2013 12:48AM

    You are a wonderful daughter to take on the POA. Hospice is such a blessing. My experiences with them have all been good. I pray for peace and serenity for your family during this transition in your father's life.

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PHEBESS 1/12/2013 8:43PM

    Take care of yourself while you take care of your dad.

And I love your new sig pic!

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CAMEOANDLACE 1/12/2013 3:05PM

    Sorry to hear about your dad. I know it must be stressful. It's good your brother stepped up. Many prayers are being sent your way..

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ANDYINBC 1/12/2013 11:18AM

    I hope, and pray, for you and your family.

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JANNEPERRY 1/12/2013 8:37AM

    Julia, I will continue to keep your family in my prayers during this challenging time for you all. I'm glad things are at least starting to go more smoothly.

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DJ4HEALTH 1/12/2013 1:09AM

    Glad that some one is taking care of him, Life is so precious and loved ones are but a moment and we need to enjoy them while they are here with us.

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CANINE_MAMA 1/11/2013 8:08PM

    Sorry about your dad. I remember well dealing with all that. I wasn't here when we put Mama on hospice (that was just before I moved up here) but I was there when we had Daddy put on hospice. I was very glad we did and they were great. They even kept in touch with us for the first year after their deaths to make sure we were handling the grief. all right.

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CONFUSEDBIRD 1/11/2013 7:24PM

    That is so great to hear everyone is agreeing on hospice. I have also had really good past experiances with hospice with a loved one. So nice for your dad to stay home and enjoy his life as long as he can. Sorry to hear your MIL is making this harder, but she knows you guys are strong and can handle it. Thinking of you and yours!

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SPARKFRAN514 1/11/2013 7:03PM

    I like the plan of hospice helping they are great and help the entire family and not just the patient.. emoticon

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SUNSHINEGB 1/11/2013 6:46PM

    emoticon Julia, it isn't an easy time for you right now.

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EVWINGS 1/11/2013 6:44PM

    Now that it's in your brother's hand, i'm sure all of you feel much better about Dad's care. My mama was with Hospice at the end, too. They were wonderful with her and helped me a lot afterwards.

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JILLYBEAN25 1/11/2013 6:35PM

    Well, I'm glad things are finally going in a more favorable direction. I hope the hospice thing works out for the better and that you truly do have a bit of a say in the care of your father. You're in my thoughts and prayers, Julia!

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SWEETNHOT 1/11/2013 5:58PM

    Sorry to hear what your going through, my thoughts and prayers are with you and you family. I went through cancer with both my parents,and I know how difficult it is. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/11/2013 5:43PM

    HUGS! Glad at least that your Dad's care is going to be managed. That's a relief.

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JTREMBATH 1/11/2013 5:33PM

    Sorry to here about your dad but some times hospice is better.

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