Turns out the quote is attributed to Liza Minelli. I know it from the Marillion song, “Rich”, which also posits, in the very next line, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
And then there’s the line from “Totem” by Rush, which declares, “I believe that what I’m feeling changes how the world appears”.
I believe both statements. How you or I feel about any given situation will usually color our judgment and action in relation to it. There are exceptions, of course, people who can truly act without regard to their personal feelings (lawyers defending criminals they know to be guilty comes to mind first). But most of the time, we act and react based on how we feel.
On a macro level, it certainly played a role in my checking out this site, finally feeling like the weight train had gone too far down the wrong track. On a smaller level, though, there are a lot of individual decisions, driven by how we’re feeling on any given day, that might help or hinder our getting to where we want to go. Things like going to the gym, or grabbing extra cookies, all affected by the mood of the moment, subject to the tone of the day, buffeted by longer terms winds.
Haven’t got the solutions; if I did, I wouldn’t have the problems, right? Just thinking out loud, brought about by one of my answers on the quizzes I posted yesterday, where I couldn’t decide which of my many self-perceived flaws I hated worst. Just made me think, not for the first time, about the impact that negative self-image might be having on a day to day basis. Writing that particular thought down in a publicly consumable manner for the first time, so that’s different.
And, as ever when I express these doubts on here, I feel compelled to state that I’m not doing this for any pity or sympathy, just to have it out there for myself to look back upon. Eventually, I’ll feel free to vent without such a disclaimer.