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Friday, January 11, 2013

So much for dieting...

Recently I have learned that a cousin of mine is dying of cancer. He has a year to live. After talking with him I feel so sad. I began to gain weight when I was 35 when my Mom got ill. I gained 20-30 pounds in 3 months while she was in intensive care. I am terrified that scenario is going to repeat itself. I cannot do that again! I have never recovered from that gain/loss.

Now to try to figure out a plan to stop it..
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    I find for myself that I have to "Be Aware" or "beware" of events that will trigger eating too much (portion control) and to exercise during those times of stress. We eat fast food when we are working under a time crunch. Every Wednesday night is one of those times since hubby barely gets in the door from work and it is time to leave for church. If we wait long after church to eat, he has reflux and will be sick during the night.

    When my Mom is having a hard time, it is a huge emotional stress on me. I gained weight when my father was hospitalized and died-a period from December 4-January 8 in 1970-71. We were in Morgantown, West Virginia with him and could not cook. I ate at the hospital cafeteria, but did not choose wisely. I ate BLT's and we had KFC at a motel, that is about all that I remember about what I ate back then.

    My husband can make me a basket case too. He can be stubborn and aggravating and I have to realize that my eating more is not going to change the situations, only make me gain weight.

    I found that as I walked last year, and thought about things, that one that is dying would like to be healthy and living. I thought I can be outside walking and enjoying creation and if they could, they would want to be doing that too. My sadness about their situation didn't change, but I wasn't making myself unhealthy as I dealt with it.

    I am trying to examine the whys of how I went from 125 lbs. to 275 lbs. and why I stop trying to benefit my health to resume destructive habits. The article about Al Roker opened my eyes, because he gained weight when family members were ill and when he traveled. He now packs a food scale to take with him. He had a stomach surgery to reduce his weight, but then put 40 lbs. back on after that. He has worked to take the pounds off again.

    For me, I can eat reduced calories overall, but unless I combine that with exercise, the numbers on the scale will not go down.
    1895 days ago
  • GLC2009
    you never know what can happen in a year. i had a neighbor who was told she only had a few months. the doctors told her to clear up her affairs and say goodbye to her loved ones. she quit her job, her mother came from england to stay with them and she said goodbye to everybody. then one day the tumour was gone. just gone. the doctors were mystified. it's been several years now and she is still fine. she was in shock for a long time after. being told she was going to die and then not. she didn't know what to do with herself since she'd quit her job. what a good problem to have.

    also, there are alternative therapies out there. i am reading a book called knockout by suzanne somers right now which is interviews with different oncologists who offer alternative therapies. with alot of the therapies based strongly on nutrition and megavitamins.

    i hope your cousin keeps digging and seeing what is out there that may help. i see no reason to just accept what a doctor tells you. miracles happen everyday.

    as for you. take care of yourself. it's not just weight gain, sometimes when people get too stressed out from care and worry of very sick loved ones, they end up with cancer or heart attacks or w.h.y. themselves and that doesn't help anyone.

    take care. i wish the best for your cousin. emoticon

    1895 days ago
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