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The "Resolutionists" at the gym

Thursday, January 10, 2013

I get to the gym whenever I can make time in my day. It differs from day to day, unlike a lot of people at my gym who seem to have a routine. Yesterday I went in the late afternoon and it was BUSY! Nearly every piece of cardio equipment in the women's gym (where I hide out most days) was taken, as were a lot of pieces of weight equipment. There were also a lot of new faces, puffing ladies, and loudly clanking weights from inexperienced users.

This morning I went and it was just myself and 2 other ladies. I was chugging away on my elliptical (reading some sappy romance on my kindle) when the lady a few feet away spoke up.

"I'm so glad there aren't any "resolutionists" here today!" She said.

I just looked at her (a little annoyed because my hero had just met his brother's mail order bride at the train depot and sparks were flying - I wanted to keep reading, not talking). "Resolutionists?"

"Yes, those people who aren't really going to get healthy, they just made a resolution to lose weight. They join in January, come for a few weeks, hog the equipment, don't clean it off.... you know."

"You don't think people should set new goals to get healthy?" I was somewher between annoyed and confused (I really wanted to get back to my book!)

She huffed, and said, "I've just never seen one stick around!"

Now... usually this is where I would choose to be quiet rather than offend someone. But I remember that hostile feeling from fellow gym users last year. That feeling that I didn't belong. So I put my beautiful heroine and civil-war scarred hero on hold to say, "Sure you have! Last year I joined on the New years special. And then I lost 70# to give me a total loss of 180#."

Her face dropped a bit. "But I've seen you here before".

I just smiled. "Yep, I'm here a lot. But last January I was one of your "Resolutionists". "

She gave me a confused look, and I returned to my book.

This encounter made me wonder if I was welcoming last night. Did I smile at anyone? I know I didn't offer to help anyone struggling with the equipment. I should have. Next time I go I will if I have an opportunity. Every gym member had a first day, a first week, a first month. Heck! My first day I literally fell off the elliptical! Oh how this lady would have laughed and rolled her eyes at me.

So... if you are a "Resolutionist", GOOD FOR YOU! Keep it up! Ignore those of us that are rude, or oblivious to you as you learn the equipment. Some of us don't mean to be... we are just focused elsewhere. But go back tomorrow. And the next day. Ask a staff member to teach you about equipment you want to use. Because before you know it, you'll be a "regular", and no longer falling off the elliptical!

And if you go to my gym, and see me working away as I zone out in book, feel free to interrupt me and ask for help. emoticon Just beware that I may feel compelled to share the plot of whatever trashy romance I'm reading at the moment with you.
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  • CATH5109
    Today will be my 4th day back at the gym. A year ago I stopped doing all the things that had helped me lose 70 lbs and as I regained all my weight I realized that I no longer fit my workout clothes and that that was why I stopped going to the gym--something that I had really been enjoying doing. Now, even with my renewed decision, it has been a mental fight to overcome my resistance to getting out the door.

    It's so nice to read your comments which make me feel less alone and remind me that I can't let my fears of what other people might be thinking get in the way of doing something so important for me.
    1861 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    I am so proud that you spoke up and said something!


    Too many times we are willing to let it be just for appearance's sake.

    I know if I have a chance to speak up, I usually do, even if the person/people look at me like I'm crazy. Because I don't like that "woulda, coulda, shoulda, if only" feeling that haunts me afterward if I don't.

    1863 days ago
    It's funny I should read this. I just overheard a coworker talking about how "annoying resolutionists" are because there are never any machines available. And this coming from someone who has lost a lot of weight in the past. At the time I didn't say anything, but thought to myself, at least the "resolutionists" are trying. A little compassion goes a long way to helping someone elses motivation.
    1865 days ago
    I always better to err on the side of being kind.
    1865 days ago
    LOVE IT. I may need to take up the elliptical...because that sounds like a great excuse to get back to my habit of reading trashy romance novels (I gave them up when I gave up public transit so that I could drive myself to the gym after work).

    And I don't like the resolutionists for the same reason I don't like regulars. They take up all the parking spaces! I never seem to have to fight people for the equipment (which is what I love about using the squat rack and the bench and the rowing machine). I'm an equal opportunity hater though and I don't like anyone who takes up a parking space anywhere I'd like to be. :)
    1865 days ago
  • OJ_2_OK
    Thank you for this blog. I hope the rest of us can remember to be so kind hearted.
    1866 days ago
    This is a great blog! Though I'm not a gym user, I understand the fear and lack of confidence from when I was a newbie runner. You are right that we could change someone's life just by being encouraging and friendly.
    1866 days ago
    So true! We all had to start somewhere...
    1866 days ago
    That's a good point to make. I belong to Curves and I've never met anyone with that type of attitude. There is one lady that belongs to two gyms and likes all the fuss at the other gym. She's 90 and joined to ride their bike. She's so funny, she comes in and tells us about all the drama on the days she goes. It's a 24/7 type, so lots of different members.
    1866 days ago
    I enjoy your blog!..... emoticon
    1866 days ago
  • KRYSTL719
    your very right. Just like people who want to get clean from an addiction... they show up a few times in an AA meeting, but if they are fearful and unwelcomed, that will push them away. Welcome anyone to a new change in their life. Keep trying!! =)
    1866 days ago
    I'm all for resolutionists. Even if they do quit, they tried, and the next time they might stick it out longer. One of the best classes I ever took in college was "weight training". After that class, I could use any machine in the gym without letting the weights slam...and help newbies!
    1866 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    You handle it very well. God Bless You and Have a Marvelous Day. Keep It Up. You are Doing Great. Take Care. Congratulations on Your Weight Loss Too.
    1866 days ago
    Some people are simply inherently rude.
    1866 days ago
  • MARIANNE9855
    Thanks so much for speaking up her opinion is why many large people are afraidto gotothe gym. I know I am one of them
    1866 days ago
  • DONNA5281

    I also agree with you. Some people can be so rude to newbies.
    That is why I am afraid to go to a gym.
    1866 days ago
  • SAASHA17
    I agree with u...I was one of the first timers at a gym and the looks I got were horrid. it was ironically right after new year,,,well glad u see it differently..more people like u will make people come back to the gym..

    1866 days ago
    I agree `100%. I always try to smile and welcome what I call newbies. My only annoyance comes from lack of parking spaces lol.
    1866 days ago
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