1/9/13 Day 9 : Fatty fatty two by four
Wednesday, January 09, 2013
The question today is Has any one ever made negative comments about your weight?
Hmmm is there a word limit on this blog .. "fatty fatty two by four cant get through the kitchen door" oh you have to love my little brother's rhyming ability at an early age. Then there was Earl Campbell yes I know he is a retired football player ... that was the first nickname besides Tink that I ever remember having . I can still remember watching the game the first time I realized who he was. I was watching with my dad and there he was a massive african american running back. I started to cry and my dad said why are you crying I said that is what the kids call me outside. He said well Angel your fat and unless you loose weight then you should grow thicker skin because people are going to make fun of you . He said it isnt right but it is life so suck it up .
Defining moments that put one hell of a chip on my shoulder. I became so inner closed off to these types of things . Until I got older then I realized that I could demand respect and command it once I got it. I am a force to be reckoned with and most will tell you that I am very intimidating. I am also one of the nicest people you will ever meet once you rip through all my walls. but pack a lunch because it will take you a while to get through the walls that the ones before put there. Dad was right it is life and I can laugh it with the best over weight but there is a limit to my madness ... I deal with Negativity as it comes and try to remember that the things they are making fun of or being negative about I am changing but their rudeness and ignorance well if they havent fixed it by now in their life they probably wont .. Besides I dont do stupid well and dont argue with unarmed people. There is no way to list all the negative that has been said to me in my life I can tell you doesnt happen as much now ... If there was ever one thing I would want to tell an obese child that is hang in there because one day it really does get better might not be all at once but it does happen ...
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You know, reading this brought me back in time to places I thought I'd forgotten. Maybe I'll blog on that later, but for now, I seemed to catch the hurtful remarks from the people that mattered most. The ones that were supposed to love and protect us. Like, believe it or not, my Grandmother....she looked at me one day and told me that if I gained any more weight, I'd have to wear a potatoe sack for underwear! Really?! My own Grandmother. Yes, really.
Then there was the time when an elderly black man in a wheelchair looked at me and literally started laughing. I said what's so funny? He said, Sugar, I just don't see how those tiny feet of yours hold up something so big! And laughed even more. I just walked off...for 2 reasons, 1) respect your elders ...no matter how much it makes you want to tip the chair over and 2) I was so shocked, hurt, embarrassed, humiliated (my 13 y/o son was standing there).....
Of course there are other times but those 2 come to mind the quickest. I hope I can find a way of turning those negatives into positives. Besides, I've been told more times than not, for every negative, there is a positive and vice versa.
Wow, now this was honesty....open and in your face It's what helps us heal and move forward though, so, let the healing begin!
1884 days ago
First I have to say I love the quote from the original movie Hairspray with Ricki Lake.
You are a true force to be reckoned with.
1895 days ago
Those negative sure does get a hold of us and we hold on to them longer then we do when some one says something nice about us. I feel for you I was in the Air Force and had nothing but negative said to me when I gained weight back then Just ot share and this was an adult who told me that my thigh was the size of a ham that could feed a family of 12 for week. Yup very mean spirited that SGt was to me
1896 days ago
I am so happy that you are taking time to walk through this. Looking inside is hard whether it is because of weight or not. When the weight is gone, the names are still in there. Be good to you and let others be good to you too. Blessings
1896 days ago
Two instances stand out in my mind -- like they happened yesterday. I developed earlier than other girls in my class and as a result, my softball uniform no longer fit. I was made fun of for that by the mean girls on my team. I think I was around 12 at the time.
When I was about 18 my grandfather walked up to me and put his arm around my shoulders and said, "Us fatties have to stick together!" He had no idea how that affected me. I can even remember what I was wearing and where we were when he said it.
They still hurt a bit but I have grown thicker skin. Most things just roll off my back but I too feel I am one of the nicest people you will meet, I just make you work to get to know me. Not sure why that is. ....I'm a Libra. LOL
I am slowly turning comments and thoughts like these towards reaching my goal. It's adding fuel to my recently lit fire!
1896 days ago
I started to reply to your blog this morning on my phone (I always peruse my messages while still in bed) and I thought, I need to reply to this on my desktop because I was thinking of my past and all the "hate" I have encountered but like you said there is not enough "space"
It is amazing how we are "molded" and "defined" by the things that happen to us in life. It is unfortunate that there are "haters" (I guess that is what they are called now according to my sons instead of prejudiced). I don't see an end to "hate" but I know that individually we can turn it around (when it happens to us) and use it to strengthen ourselves.
"The bird that would soar above the level plain of tradition and prejudice must have strong wings." ~ KATE CHOPIN, The Awakening
to you my be strong!
1897 days ago
Mmmm I remember being called hippo..... and ALTHOUGH most don't hear it as often when they become adults, words can be just as devastating as physical abuse if not more. I remember when I lost the weight the first time..... my husband would touch me and I would shutter away and say "don't touch my fat".... its not that I was anymore..... it was because that's who I was......not physically but mentally. I can sympathize with any child being over weight, and shame on any parent who doesn't encourage their child to like people for who they are. That's why we have many children committing suicide , or going to schools and doing ungodly things. They don't ALL have a mental illness, and if u gotta wonder who made this child depressed in the first place. As a whole, our country needs a lot of help. In any which way possible. I don't want my child to ever look like I did, or FEEL like I did... she has my blood, shes identical to me, and it gets me SO MAD that my husband who is an over grown bully to begin with, to help with her bad eating habits.
He knows it hurts to be called "fat" names, but he still calls me them... I use it as fuel to become more determined to work harder towards my goal.
ps. Im sorry my paragraph is a mix bag. lol. they seemed to coincide.
1897 days ago
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