Wednesday, January 09, 2013
This post is all about drinking.
First, I've cracked the code on getting myself to drink enough water every day. Hopefully this is a lasting change. My trick at work: get up and refill my water bottle as soon as it's empty (no excuses). My trick at home: make myself drink a glass of water before I sit down on the couch to read, before I empty the dishwasher, before I fold the laundry...just tack the glass of water on as a prerequisite for doing whatever thing it is I'm planning to do at home. I've been successful for three straight weeks with this effort, and for once I haven't had to give it a lot of thought.
On the other side of "drinking", I have some great girlfriends who do not do anything but drink when they socialize. They've each been my friend for between three and 7 years, so I don't really want to get rid of them...but it has become harder and harder to see them because they don't respect that I don't drink for "fun" anymore (special occasions only). It's just not compatible with my lifestyle or my goals, and I've explained that nicely at many points...but basically they just think I'm a big wet blanket.
It's worse if I go out with them and get something non-alcoholic or even nurse a single drink all night. It seems like a ridiculous problem to me, but this is where I am.
And I don't know what to do so that I can keep these friends but not sacrifice my own goals.
I tried "lightening up" and going out with them less frequently, but now I am not interested in drinking with them at all anymore. I've suggested alternate (even free!) activities a million times over the years but gotten nowhere. I've invited them over to my house (free drinks! and I can control what I'm drinking without a bartender to rat me out). I've debated faking a pregnancy so that I'd finally have a "legitimate reason" in their eyes for not drinking.
My friends are too awesome and smart (and, frankly, old - everyone in this scenario is at least over 30) to think that I'm judging them by acting differently than they do. I don't know why they care so much about what I drink when we're together, or why that's their only social interest. However, that leaves me not knowing what to do other than keep waiting things out and hoping for an inspiration.
Sparkfriends, have any of you found ways to handle old friends who have become incompatible with your healthy lifestyle? Or am I crazy for putting my health above hanging out with these friends?