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Today I brought my husband home!

Wednesday, January 09, 2013

I had a rather full day today, starting with my appointment at WINZ (0ur Social Welfare Agency) re transferring from an Invalid's Benefit (piggy backing on my husband's) to go on a Widows' Benefit. I was there for about an hour, and most of the work has been done - the base rate has been approved, but now my Disability Allowance and possible Temporary Assistance still has to be worked out. Then I had to go to the Lawyer to get my husband's Death Certificate notorised so the title to my house can be transferred from our joint names, to just mine. Next I troddled off to have a quick lunch before going to the Dentist to have the temporary repair that was done on the day of my husband's funeral, removed and a permanent one put in place. The Dentist had done the temporary repair at no charge which I was more than pleased about - I mean, who would complain at that?? Next it was off to the Bank to take care of that part of it. While there, for some reason which I can't think of at present, age was mentioned, and I casually commented that I was pushing 60. The Financial Adviser scoffed, then asked if I was for real. When I told her that at the end of March I would be 59 she didn't say anything, but then she was tapping away on the computer. Next thing she said "You ARE!" I asked "I am what?" She said nearly 60 and then added that she had just checked my birth date on her records. I asked how old she thought I was - she said "MAYBE late 40's!" I was right chuffed - she had knocked off a lot of years - LOL! After getting the groceries, I went off to get hubby's ashes. I didn't want him left in a hot car so waited until I was ready to come home. My daughter thought that was funny and asked what I thought was going to happen. She said it was not like he wasn't used to smoking (heavy smoker) - and that he might enjoy one last long smoke.

In two days it will be a month since he died - I wish with all my heart that I could turn back the clock, but that will never happen! I can only move forward, and enjoy my memories of our time together.

I am tired - exhaustipated actually - and I had better sleep well tonight or else!! I think I might just have a little blue pill to help that along!


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    Kris, I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband. Surely that's one of the most devastating experiences a person can have - the loss of a spouse. I remember when my dad died how Mom had to go through so much red tape, and it all comes at a time when you probably least feel like jumping through all those hoops.

    Congratulations on your success and wonderful, positive attitude! You give hope to many with your example...and congratulations, too, on your great appearance! emoticon
    1851 days ago
    What a lovely compliment, and your daughter has one heckuva sense of humor. I hope you sleep well.

    And condolences on your husband. He had great taste in women, since he married you. :) Many loooong armed hugs from across the wide Pacific Ocean. You're in my thoughts.
    1862 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss.........keep thinking the good thoughts!!
    1866 days ago
    Oh hun, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband :(
    1868 days ago
    Kris, I enjoyed reading your blog very much. It's good to hear from you. You had a very busy day and accomplished a great deal and what a wonderful compliment at the bank!

    I had to smile at your daughter's comment - it was sweet and funny. I can't believe it's been a month since he died. I'm so glad you have your memories to recall and cherish.

    God bless,

    Miller emoticon
    1893 days ago
    emoticon I am so sorry to hear about all of this darlin.
    1893 days ago
    GREAT compliment from the Financial Advisor. I am so sorry about the passing of your husband. I am holding you close to my heart and keeping you in my prayers.

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    1894 days ago
    I am so sorry about your husband.
    1897 days ago
    What a compliment from the lady at the bank. emoticon You are so right, you can't go back in time, you can treasure the memories though. Sometimes it is just not enough, I know. emoticon
    1897 days ago
    1897 days ago
    You got a lot done , no wonder you are tired .Hope you slept well. YOU are doing emoticon emoticon
    1897 days ago
    Kris, you have achieved so much today. No wonder
    you are tired. That was a wonderful compiment the lady
    gave you. You are only as old as you feel. Glad to hear
    you brought your husbands ashes home with you. Had
    to laugh at your daughter telling you about one last smoke...
    emoticon Get a good night's sleep. emoticon
    1897 days ago
  • CANDOK1260
    Sorry about your husband happy you handling it well hugs
    1897 days ago
    all the best hugs
    1897 days ago
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