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How Can I Not Know What's Most Important to Me?!

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

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"Who are you and what values do you want to demonstrate in your life? Find the drive in you that's so strong it could motivate you to create a new kind of life for yourself. Take the time to discover the personal values that are strong enough to drive you...."
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In my 2013 goal planning, this is the question that is tripping me up the most when it comes to weight loss. And honestly, I'm not sure what to make of that. This should be easy, right? I mean, I know what my personal values are - or at least I thought I did.

Generosity. Integrity. Adventure. Action. Relationships. Independence. Leadership.

But I'm sure not living those lately. And when it comes to the question, "What personal value(s) will drive me to create a new, thin, and fabulous life for myself?" nothing on the above list is making any bells go off. In my gut, they just don't feel like the right answers.

Like I said, the fact that I don't know is disconcerting. I know I've been asleep at the wheel in my life for longer than I care to admit, but have I truly become so far removed from myself that I can't figure this out?

I'm moving forward with my action plan, but I honestly believe this is something I need to get to the bottom of in order to be truly successful with my weight loss goals.

Any ideas?

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CRABADA 1/10/2013 3:01PM

    First of all, thanks to you all for your thoughtful and supportive comments.

A couple quick things I want to clarify -- while I'm thinking about my values as a factor in everything I want to accomplish in this new year (and in my life), this entry is 99% about my weight loss goals. My priority for this year is to finally lose this weight, and the end result will be a slender and fabulous new body.

I do not adhere to the idea that everything in my life will improve once I lose weight, so on that point, I'm in agreement with you KASEYCOFF. But being overweight is something that has major repercussions in other areas of my life - how I approach problems, what I do and do not do with my time, my confidence, etc. As such, I'm applying the quote at the top of the blog to my process of trying to figure out exactly what will motivate me to stay on this hard road towards my goal weight. And that's where I'm struggling - what is the underlying motivation that will help me be successful this time?

Hope that makes sense.


Comment edited on: 1/10/2013 3:01:55 PM

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KASEYCOFF 1/10/2013 3:25AM

    To my mind, "thin" doesn't necessarily pair up with "fabulous." If the original statement asks how you can "create a new kind of life for yourself" based on your personal values, why, maybe you should think outside the box--? A contented life is so much more than weight or dress size. Thinks me.

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JLR080500 1/9/2013 1:53PM

    Hi! I have struggled with these same facts and unfortunately don't really have many answers other than I am taking it one day at the time.

The one thing I have learned is that losing weight cannot be just about losing weight. If that is the only cause, I have discovered, I will fail.

I think a lot of times we get so busy in life we lose sight of our values or even forget what they are. That is the case in my life. Plus things are constantly changing. The values and motivations I had 10 years ago are no longer relevant in my life now.

Good luck and if you find the magical equation to figuring this out please share!

It sounds like you are on the right track!


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LE7_1234 1/9/2013 1:03AM

    Hmmm. OK, I'm back, because I just read something that I think might help:


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LE7_1234 1/9/2013 12:00AM

    Welcome back, Courtney!

Thank you for your generosity in sharing this.
I'm glad you're showing your integrity by evaluating where you were and coming back to a place where you can get support in changing.
It shows you're taking action, which in itself can be an adventure.
You're reaching out for help and support, because you know relationships here can help--and at the same time, you know you must actually do things independently.
As you continue along this path, sharing, acting, relating... your leadership will shine through like it did before.

This is probably not what you meant, right? I mean, trying to turn an SP blog into a giant adventure??? Hmmm....

But really, what has worked the best for me over time is to look at the small ways my actions are moving me towards the bigger goals, instead of worrying about whether I should be quitting my job and running off to Nepal or something. The small action of committing to being here again will help you find the bigger pieces.

One more thing... Why do you have to create a new, thin, and fabulous life for yourself? What if things could be fabulous RIGHT NOW, even if you aren't as thin as you want? Even if you keep the same job, the same friends, the same everything else? What's the one thing you can do Wednesday, January 9, that would make you feel fabulous?

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SUPER_ACE115 1/8/2013 11:35PM

    For me losing weight is about several things, but most importantly it's about pleasing God. Are my weight, eating habits, exercise habits, etc. pleasing to God? The Bible tells us our bodies are the Lord's temple.
Also, I want to set a good example for my kids. I want them to see me eating healthy foods and exercising on a regular basis.
Hope this helps.

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