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Bad Monday

Monday, January 07, 2013

Well, actually, bad Sunday. Went to breakfast with some relatives we only see a couple times a year. I was attacked verbally. I post so much on facebook I need a job...am I taking classes now? I just don't understand why they care? I don't accuse them of anything? I just don't get it. So last night my mom brought up something sensitive to me that had to do with the breakfast. So I got really defensive. I yelled at her. Ugggg.... I apologized this morning but finished it off with a binge. I think I'm going to get my period soon so that probably has something to do with it. Ugggg....I will drink more water today. I'll try to flush out all the salt and sugar I threw in it this morning. I know I'm nervous about Adam's musical this weekend. I always am. Breathe.... Sometimes people can make me feel like a loser. It's like they work at it. Breathe...
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MIRAGE727 1/7/2013 1:14PM

    Embrace the healthy lifestyle full force, focus on the positive, don't listen to anyone questioning or doubting you (They're prob no experts...especially family!), and get your motivation from your immediate family. Most importantly, don't let anyone steal your dream or distract you from your goals!
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TWEETYKC00 1/7/2013 10:10AM

    people can only make you feel bad if you allow them to do so. it's ok to be firm with people if you need to do so if you need to make your own feelings known. I hope your day gets better. hugs.

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SCOOTERMAMA56 1/7/2013 10:09AM

    Maybe you got angry because when an adult tells another adult what they should (or should not) be doing or makes a critical judgement about them, it's an expression of control, not an expression of love. You're feeling angry and upset for good reason. But you can't change them. You can only change you: your thought process, your feelings, and your responses.

If they can make you feel bad about yourself, you've given away your personal power. Reclaim it! You have the right to be who you are. And you don't need anyone's approval to be uniquely you! Sure, support is nice. But we don't always get it from the people who are related to us. When you start feeling defensive, that's a cue that you're giving away your personal power.

When I start to feel this way (and there are a few control freaks in my family, too), I take a deep breath, and relax. I don't bother defending my decisions because defending myself just pulls me further into their cycle of control. And I really don't NEED their approval. Sure it would be nice. But their approval is not mine to give. So if they don't wanna give it, well, that's their problem, not mine! But it's a really hard habit to break, especially since so many of us were raised to be people-pleasers. One phrase that I've found helpful is, "Thanks for the feedback, but I was telling you about this to share my joy with you, not to ask for your permission/approval." That goes over slightly better than, "yeah, well, it's really not your place to tell me what to do!" emoticon



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GETINSHAPE20131 1/7/2013 9:47AM

  we all have bad days. hope the rest of your week is good.

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CATHGREEN8 1/7/2013 9:21AM

    Sorry you had a crappy Sunday. Be extra nice to yourself today, read a book, take a long bath or walk..find something that feels good AND keeps you on your program. Hope the rest of your week is better.


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