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Please read this - I think it is important.

Sunday, January 06, 2013


It seems that a lot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a situation. Everyone should read this especially each and every girl in this world.


Through a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, and go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading, forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in
this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans: if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit
(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS, LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side, peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. (DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB).

b. If you! U are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard /policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than sorry.

If u have a heart or compassion share this.


‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.


Friends So Please Share....Your one share can Help to spread this information. We share So many Stupid Things on Facebook and ignore these types of things which can save so many lives’s...

Take care. Rosalie

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LINEBACKER1968 3/17/2013 4:29PM

    Even though I'm a guy this hit home. Someone in my family was attacked. Thank you for sharing this is important.

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KIMKO32 2/6/2013 3:32PM

    Thanks for this information. I would not wish this on anyone. I hope you are well my friend. It's been a while since I've checked in, but when I did, you were out for a bit. Glad to see you have returned! Be well and keep your beautiful spark!

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SOFT_VAL67 1/28/2013 10:05AM

    thanks for sharing
and this might just work for women in violent domestic situations as well

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INGMARIE 1/28/2013 8:27AM

    emoticon thanks. a very important reminder.

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 1/28/2013 7:51AM

    emoticon Don't forget to scream. Some people in a van tried to kidnap me when my babies were in a stroller. They had the back of there van open with there arms reaching out. I screamed loud as I ran pushing as fast as I could. They took off.

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MZZCHIEF 1/14/2013 3:57PM

    Great advice.
I really liked the one about kicking out the taillight from the trunk side of the car and sticking your hand out and waving. That one is priceless. I've always wondered what could be done in that situation... that's a great solution.

Whatever you do, stay calm so you can think.
Except if you do Crazy well.

Years ago when I was picked up by the Campus Serial Rapist, hitch hiking.
I missed my bus, my final art critique was in 30 minutes, then next bus was in an hour, so had no time to spare.

I didn't know it was him until about 30 seconds into the ride... I just wanted to get to where I was going when I got into his car.
That's when he unzipped his fly and began talking about porno.
Stayed calm and asked questions while I plotted my escape... noticed the car handle was missing.
Interviewing him on his porno preferences, discussing the difference between nudity in art, and being naked, got me half way to my destination.

When he reached for me, I acted Crazy (not much of a stretch),hissing like a snake, baring my teeth and rolling my eyes, then jumping up and down in the car in my best gorilla imitation.
He pulled over immediately and let me out.

Thankfully I had the presence of mind to grab my final art project from the back seat. Walked the rest of the way... a bit shook up.

A friend of mine wasn't as lucky. She had been picked up by the guy a few days earlier.

Just because I've gotten away a few times, with nothing more than a story, doesn't mean my luck will hold. I don't willingly put myself at in risky situations anymore.

: )

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    Great advice!!

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CATLOVER110 1/8/2013 6:39PM

    Great information! Thanks for sharing.

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WATREKKIE 1/8/2013 9:50AM

    Thanks, Rosalie - good info!

I'd add what an officer told a group of us - when you get into your car, the VERY FIRST THING you should do is lock your doors. Don't wait while you put on your seatbelt, and I often get lazy because when I start the car, the doors lock. I need/want to remember to lock the doors even before I turn the ignition.

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RED-INK56 1/8/2013 9:36AM

    Glad I read this - it's been awhile and now that I'm working downtown again, it's a good reminder. emoticon

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WORLDSERIES11 1/8/2013 1:13AM

    emoticon great advice!! I've passed it on.

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BLESSEDBEING 1/7/2013 11:54PM

    I would only add to consider taking a self-defense class to practice physical and verbal responses to possible threats. Targets I've learned in addition to the groin are eyes and throat--it doesn't take great strength to do damage to those areas. And get loud--don't be embarrassed about drawing attention to anyone bothering you.

I hadn't heard about tossing the wallet or purse--that's a good one. emoticon

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ERIN1957 1/7/2013 3:01PM

    I passed it on and thank you!

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    Thank you for sharing this great information. I am going to be sure to share it.

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RHEYNKLW 1/7/2013 1:09PM

    Good reminders. Thank you for sharing.

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GZELLEFRO 1/7/2013 12:18AM

    Thanks for the info!

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SVELTEWARRIOR 1/6/2013 10:49PM

    Awesome blog!!!

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