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Wifey 2/14/48 - 12/29/12

Sunday, January 06, 2013

This is a tribute to my Boyfriend who I called Wifey or WHN (what's his name).

We met in May 1998. He lived about 4 doors away. I went down to talk to his neighbor and he was there too. We visited for a couple hours then I went home. He took me out to dinner a few nights later. We seemed to hit it off really well. He told me that we will try the "2 Week Plan". I said what's that? He says we will re-evaluate our relationship after 2 wks and see if we want to continue it for another 2 wks. I Laughed. I have never heard of this, but okay, I'm game if he's game.

One of the things I liked about him (almost immediately) was that he had worked for the same company for over 25yrs. He told me that his job came first. I could respect that.

Before we knew it we had been seeing each other for a year. I said to him that he was the easiest person to get along with. (We just seemed to mesh together well) He turned to me and held up 2 fingers and said: 2 Weeks. We laughed. He would say that all the time. Depending on the situation. "Do you want to try another 2 wks?" or "be nice or this will be your last 2 wks!" and we would laugh.

We moved in together after 2 years. (this would be the "true" test of our relationship, Lol!) He still joked about the 2 week thing. But we got along famously. Not much changed between us except where we lived. We were always together. We would go camping, or little vacations to Las Vegas, Disneyland, The San Diego Zoo, etc.

Then he got sick in July of 2011 and spent 9 days in the hospital. He had pneumonia. They also diagnosed him with COPD. He use to be a smoker. This wasn't the first time he had pneumonia. He would get it about 3-4 times every year. He had a hard time kicking it. At this time, he wasn't able to continue working due to his health, so in October 2011 he retired. He decided that since he was going to be home, he would do all the household chores. He was such a huge help to me. He did all the mopping, waxing, vacuuming, dusting, bathrooms (including the toilets) dishes and laundry. Plus he did all the yard stuff too! This is how he got the name "Wifey" He did everything! I was sooo lucky!

We planned a nice vacation in May of 2012. His words were: I want to take a nice vacation before I die. So off to Hawaii we went. We had a blast! He did real good with all the walking & tours, but was tired in the evenings.

By July of 2012 he was on oxygen 24/7. His lungs were shot and he struggled to breathe. I told him to stop doing the household and the outside chores and just concentrate on breathing. December 7th 2012 he went into the hospital for pneumonia. He progressively got worse and on December 29th 2012 he took his last breath.

Here's some funny stuff that he would say all the time:
~"We've only had 1 fight, and it aint over yet!" Lol!
~If we were in a restaurant and the waitress asked if there was anything else she could get us? He would say: "2 blonde's, a brunette, and a Red head".
~"Be nice gawd dammit"
~"Damn you look beautiful!" (he would compliment me everyday, I miss that the most)

I am soo lucky to have spent the last 15 years with him. I loved him with every inch of my being. I will truly miss him.
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    I'm not sure what's the matter with me today. I have broke down and just balled 3 different times. Most days it is getting easier to cope without you, but today... not so much. I still miss you so very much and wish you were still here.
    1651 days ago
    Happy Birthday Wifey. Wish you were still here. My heart aches so badly for you. I finally went to our Walmart and told all your friends what happened. Everyone is soo sad that you're gone. I miss you and love you very much.
    1798 days ago
    emoticon I wish this could be in person sweetie.
    1814 days ago
    My dear Wifey,
    It's been only 1 month since you've been gone. I'm trying to be strong and to carry on, but I think about you everyday. I am trying to stay busy so I don't cry but the tears always seem to roll down my face when I'm alone.

    I spread your ashes and DJ Doggie's ashes on Saturday. I thought it would be easier than it was. I just balled my eyes out. You both are together now.

    I just miss you so very much. Muah muah muah. I love you.
    1814 days ago
  • HICIM705
    What a beautiful and fitting tribute! I'm so very sorry for your loss. . .sounds like you were made for each other.

    These next few months will be difficult - but, I truly believe that time does help. Hold onto that ... you will have good days and bad days, I'm sure ... but - when you are having a bad day - come back here and re-read what you wrote...I'm sure that it will help you.

    I think that blogging may help you - and ... as you can see, you will have support here - although it may be 'virtual support'.

    Again, I'm so sorry for your loss - I know that you would do anything for 2 more weeks. . . emoticon
    1833 days ago
    emoticon This is such a beautiful tribute. Wow! What a beautiful relationship.
    1835 days ago
    What a wonderful tribute you have written! He sounds like a great person. I am so sorry for your loss. I've been thinking about you, and I hope you're holding up okay. emoticon
    1835 days ago
  • ANGEL2111
    emoticon to you and hoping that the memories you made together give you comfort.
    1835 days ago
    That is such a beautiful blog! You truly had a special relationship. I love the 2 weeks! I wish you had a tape recording of him saying you are beautiful so you could hear it over and over again because you are beautiful, inside and out! emoticon mmm emoticon emoticon
    1835 days ago
    I'm so sorry. It's rare to find a best friend and a love that are so wonderful. I'm happy that you found that. And I'm sad for your loss. *hugs* to you sweetie. Thanks for sharing your love story with us, it makes me want to go love my loved ones a little bit better.
    1835 days ago
    I really am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. What a wonderful love story.
    1836 days ago
    wow. you had some kind of love,.I am so touched by this. emoticon
    1836 days ago
    What a wonderful tribute! I am glad you had such happiness in your life even if it was unfairly cut short. It reminds us all that time and life are precious and we should not waste a single moment. Love, prayers and emoticon !
    1836 days ago
  • MJK0430
    I have tears and smiles all at the same time. Paulette you were truly loved and so was he!
    1836 days ago
    emoticon Paulette~I am soo sorry for your loss. The story of you and wifey is so beautiful, you two were really amazing together. I hope you take comfort in the time you had together and to know he is not suffering anymore.
    1836 days ago
    What a great blog. We all know you loved Wifey, and it's clear reading this that he loved you too. You were very lucky to have him for 15 years. And to think you just happened to meet when visiting with another neighbor!
    1836 days ago
  • KEM0727
    Paulette - I'm so sorry for your loss, what a wonderful man he was and how lucky you were to share the last 15 years with him! May these happy memories bring you peace during this sad time. emoticon
    1836 days ago
    Oh my.... I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.
    1836 days ago
    Sweetie~ this is a wonderful tribute to Wifey and your life together! I love that he kept giving you 2 weeks, that is such a fun memory.
    I loved reading more of your story. I know he will remain in your heart forever. emoticon
    1836 days ago
    Oh, Paulette, what a lovely blog about Wifey. The two of you sure shared something special. How fun to read more about his personality!
    1837 days ago
    This is the perfect tribute to the man that you have enjoyed life with the last 15 years. Sounds like you had a wonderful "Wifey" and a relationship that many dream of. Sorry for your loss.
    1837 days ago
    I am so sorry to read about your loss. emoticon This is such a beautiful blog you have written. You both had a beautiful relationship. Thank you for sharing your memories with us.
    1837 days ago
    Paulette -

    This is beautiful. I loved reading it. Sounds like you had a wonderful life together. I did not realize he was so sick for quite awhile. I am so glad you got to go to Hawaii with him.

    I hope it was therapeutic for you to write this. Thanks for sharing.
    1837 days ago
    emoticon That is an awesome blog. I'm so glad you finally shared more about wifey. I love hearing about your life together :) You both did really seemed to compliment each other. How wonderful to read that last part about him telling you every day that you were beautiful. He's completely right are beautiful on the inside and out. You have such a big loving heart and he knew that. Why do you think those 2 weeks just kept going and going! Love you my friend!! Looking forward to more stories and memories of the big softie AKA wifey
    1837 days ago
  • 3016DEBRA
    So So sad....thank goodness you found each other. 15 years of happiness is worth a million years of not having anyone. I have a candle that says "Don't spend your life with someone you can live with - spend it with someone you can't live without".
    I filed for a divorce the next week. emoticon
    I've met the person I should have been with forever. emoticon
    May he rest in peace. I hope you find peace too. God bless you both, what a beautiful love story you shared together. emoticon
    1837 days ago
  • TREE57
    Oh Paulette, I'm so moved by your telling of Wifey. I am truly sorry for your loss. Your love story is truly wonderful. I hope you find comfort in all the delightful memories and the love you shared.

    1837 days ago
    emoticon and prayers for you. He sounds amazing.

    1837 days ago
    Oh Paulette...what a wonderful blog about Wifey. I love the "2 weeks" story. Thank you for sharing who Wifey was and will aways be to you!
    Hugs from afar! Stretch Armstrong Hugs
    1837 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you both were very lucky to have each other. I hope you find comfort in all the memories you two made together. emoticon emoticon
    1837 days ago
    Paulette- oh my goodness this is so beautiful. You were so strong for writing something so shortly after his passing. We love you so much and you encourage me to live life to the fullest. I Love You and am here for you.
    1837 days ago
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