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What amount of yo-yoing is ok

Sunday, January 06, 2013

A recent conversation with my DGC:
"Grandma, those are jeans for the homeless." (regarding jeans I was currently wearing).
"These are almost brand new and they are expensive ones too."
"Well, then the homeless will have brand new expensive jeans."
In my defense: We were quading for goodess sake. I knew it would be dusty, play clothes activity. I have few jeans that "fit" me now. Besides.....
these jeans were leftover in the RV. It felt good how big they were on me. They spoke volumes about how much I had lost...plus the focus on how well I had done helped me not focus on how I was currently eating...
So when I got home I noticed that the jeans that were available for around the house were large on me. Several pairs. I had to search for the jeans that "fit." Of course I want to keep my "good" jeans in nice shape - which means I wear the "too big jeans" almost all the time. But I noticed something else. The big jeans don't get tight. Neither do the stretchy jeans (I discovered this finding out the same pair of jeans can accommodate a gain of 20+ pounds). Pulling out the pair of jeans that "fit," I noticed they were a tad tight on the hips. I wasn't surprised with the "holiday" eating I have been doing. But it got me to thinking. My original goal at the start of this journey was to stop the yoyoing that had been most of my life. When I was younger, five pounds gain was too much to go much further. Later on, ten pounds was the absolute halt point. Somehow it grew to 25 lbs up and down and the last time when the scale hit 30 gain, I finally confronted the issue of yoyoing. Surprisingly, I never saw the problem clearly - yoyoing was the main issue. I always thought it was the latest gain (and of course as I grew older, I threw in age, perimenopause, stress, and whoever, whatever else I could blame). What if all along the culprit had been my thinking. The same thinking that allowed for the first 5 lb gain but not the 6 lbs? The same thinking that keeps me from packing up these many pair of jeans to give to the homeless. What am I committed to? Is it to only experience a certain number within going up and down? Or is it to have a whole different way of thinking which encompasses a whole different way of living? Perhaps it is time to look at my big goal which was to not yoyo like I had my whole life. Do I want my goal to be to have a healthy physical body (which then results in yoyoing no longer being my experience)? Will I commit to this (with actions such as giving away those jeans)? What is it I truly want? Am I willing to do what it takes to make this happen?
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    Oh, I am the Yo-Yo Queen! I've even let my weight go for years because I thought dieting was just another Yo-Yo and had heard that it was healthier to just be overweight than to be a Yo-Yo Dieter. Lately, I find myself saying "Oh you know me, my weight just yo-yo's around" when people compliment me on my weight loss. I'm scared that it will all come back on and then some. I'm embarrassed that people have known me at a size 18 then a size 8 and then a size 18 again within a three year span - - oh, and here she goes dieting again. I'm with you! You're definitely not alone

    Of course, logically there is no reason to hold on to clothes that don't fit you. You do not need them. I'm hoping we can both get the answers we need here.
    1899 days ago
    Congrats on your wight loss success. Lets try not to go back. emoticon
    1899 days ago
    I'm big on throwing them out: but having said that, when I lost th efirst 80 pounds it took me 5 years to really believe that I wouldn't regain it . . .

    Thrift stores are great places to pick up the transitional sizes going down . . . and of course you're restocking for them by dropping of your own "too biggies".

    Thanks for commenting on my "crave fade" blog: you clearly set a great example for your daughter as a teen! Now your DGC want you looking like a trendy GM in sleek fitting jeans!!
    1899 days ago
    I'm with Kriskeck: get rid of them! I purged all of my "big" clothes last week, and it felt really good to look at a near-empty closet. This week, I'm getting rid of my size 12 clothes, because they're too big. I only want clothes that fit, so I'm flying without the safety net, so that I have more of an incentive to maintain.

    Keep on Sparking! :)

    1899 days ago
    What you can allow is a certain amount of imperfection and then pick up and start again. My amount of imperfection does not lead me to a place of no return - where I get so discouraged I won't try again.

    1899 days ago
    Give 'em away! I think that when you commit to being in the place you want to be, whatever you can do to make that a reality is the best thing to do.

    1899 days ago
    Good questions you've asked yourself.

    I plan to follow the lead of Jerome (JMERLAU) who wrote in this blog post: http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_p
    og_id=5162283 that he would stay within a 7 pound allowance either way. I think that's a healthy range for me to use once I get to my planned weight.

    I've yo-yo'd over 25 years. No longer.

    Make it a great day!
    1899 days ago
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