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Sunday, January 06, 2013

First of all, thank you to Wingless for inspiring me to blog even though I don't feel like I've fully thought through what I want to say.

So today was a big day of eating. I signed up for a food tour of downtown Los Angeles with my parents -- so basically, we went to 6 different eateries and had nibbles at each one. I didn't pig out, but tried to eat reasonably -- I took a few things home without trying them, and stopped eating other things after a bite or two. I still went over my calories for the day, but I felt like I exercised some good self control. Had a healthy dinner afterwards, and then was hungry and had half an apple, a tangerine, and a light yogurt (that's a special treat for me because I normally have plain). Without the evening snack I would have been within my calories, but I was hungry! Not sure if today counts as an overall win or loss, since I did exercise self-control, but I also went over my calories.

In the morning I went for a jog/walk (I do intervals) and I went 5K! Well actually 4.988 km, which probably counts as a 5K. It gives me hope that my sort of goal of running a 5K someday might actually be possible for me. It took 45 minutes, so not fast (but there were lots of hills involved). And I was doing it with my son in a stroller, which adds difficulty. I had hoped to do weights afterwards, and I ran out of time, but I am proud of myself for running. It made me feel better about all the eating I did later in the day.

One thing I'm realizing, though, is how much I enjoy eating. Not just the physical act of putting food into my mouth, chewing, swallowing, but how much eating is a part of my social life. When I first met my husband, and he wanted to hang out with someone, he would invite them for a hike for a bike ride. Me, I would invite them out (or over to my house) for brunch, lunch, or dinner -- possibly also adding in an activity like a walk, but definitely not missing the meal. I don't think that's unique to me – I think that's just how our society is. But it makes me think about what I want my life to look like. I certainly don't want to miss out on social activities because of my diet. At the same time, I do want to be successful with my goals. So I guess the key is to figure out how I can participate in social activities either while eating moderately, or while changing the focus of the activity to be about something other than food.

It also makes me think about how much of success is staying within my calories, versus how much of success is behaving moderately in the situation I'm in. So if I had to measure, would I say a day was more successful if I stayed within my calories but didn't really do anything or eat out, or would I said it was more successful if I went a little over my calories, but went out to a social situation and felt that I really ate mindfully and appropriately? I'd say that the latter makes me feel better about myself, but the former is probably more important if I want to actually lose weight.

The key will be to figure out how to follow my program while still maintaining an enjoyable social life. This will be especially important when we go on vacation next week – because I'll be with my whole family, enjoying myself and eating, but also hoping to keep on track. Fortunately, we'll be in Hawaii, where it's easy to eat healthy meals like fish and fresh tropical fruit, and where exercise is also a part of what we'll be doing. This is the first vacation we will have taken with our son, so it will be interesting to see how having a baby impacts the way that we vacation.

Tomorrow I'm going out to brunch with an old friend from high school. Again, if I really wanted to, I could offer to make her brunch here at home, but I much rather go to a nice restaurant away from the clutter of the house. We'll walk there, and once there I'll do my best to order wisely, eat mindfully, and enjoying myself because of the company rather than because of the food. Since my natural instinct is to be a member of the clean plate club, this is not natural for me, but I'm learning how to stop eating when I'm actually full.

Hope you're having a great weekend so far! Keep the Spark alive!
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    I agree with Wingless ... Im in a plateau right now but normally I loose 3 lbs (on average) a week ... and Im never (or hardly ever) in my calorie range .... I stick to whole foods, whole grains etc ... my carbs are what I "truly" focus on .... and for those I stay around 150 (calories are suppose to be around 1550) .... anyway I think shes right - eat til your full, focus on ONE macrontrient ... protien, carbs, fat .... and forgive the small blibs of "goods/bads" ... the reality is this is a lifestyle change ... yoru changing yoru thinking and mentality. This isnt a diet. You can still eat what you want you just have to plan for it ... and if you go over - oh well theres alwasy tomorrow ....

    You are doign sooo great! Dont be so hard on yourself - your day was neither good or bad due to eating/excercising .... it was a great day due to a fun time with family it was a great day due to a fantastic run.... and so on.

    Also, if you want to do a 5K, check out hte couch to 5 k (intervals too) app ... helps sooo much :) (I use theone from
    1869 days ago
  • WINGLESS98465
    I am truly glad I could help, and I'm glad you felt better!

    1869 days ago
    Wingless - your comments are insightful! And well timed, because after being hungry all afternoon and evening (eating as much as I "thought I should") I went over my calories this evening and finally feel satisfied. I exercised pretty strenuously today, and I guess that's just what I needed!
    1870 days ago
  • WINGLESS98465
    I have a little secret to tell you.

    I *rarely* stay within my calorie range. I'm almost always around 50-75 over, sometimes 150ish. Maybe once or twice a week am I within range. However, I am always in range for fat (typically on the lower end), and on the higher end for protein. My carbs come from fruits n veggies, or from whole-grain, high-fiber grains. And I've still been steadily dropping weight. I know that the stuff here on SP is filled with math and science and all that good stuff. However, I also know that each person is a little different, and my body does alright with higher calories, so long as it comes from healthy stuff. I've had really bad days, where I've only eaten garbage, and been within range, but gained 4-6 pounds by the next day. I listen to what my body needs, and accommodate it.

    Now, that's what my body *needs* - and I can tell you, my body never actually needs a maple bar, no matter what it's screaming as I walk through the bakery at Fred Meyer's.

    My point isn't to say that you can eat anything and everything you want, it's that your body knows a lot more than you think it does - heck, I barely have any idea what my body knows. If you occasionally go over calories, or even frequently go over a little, but you keep moving and building muscle, and your weight drops, and your jeans size gets smaller - well, you're probably alright.

    With that out of the way...

    I have to remind myself that this ins't a diet. It's not some restrictive punishment for being fat. I'm changing parts of my life because I want to enjoy life more. Part of enjoying life means doing fun little taste-tours things like you did today. I had a co-worker say that she's trying to decide if she really does still want to lose weight. If she wants to restrict all these foods she likes or "live life to the fullest and eat whatever I want". And that made me sad, because I used to think that way - I was going to die anyway, why not enjoy life while I've got it? But now, with all the changes I've made - I am *SO* much happier. Even when I go over my calories and eat that stupid maple bar.

    1870 days ago
    I think your food tour was balanced with your run/walk/hills/stroller combo! Great job!
    1870 days ago
  • JESSIKA_56
    Wow, anything that includes pushing a stroller must be great exercise! Good job!
    1871 days ago
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