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Saturday, January 05, 2013

Tonight, after my stick-thin bf asked his fifth question about chilli speeding up your metabolism, I had to ask "Why does it matter? You don't need to speed up your metabolism."
Without missing a beat he answered "No, but you do."

That really hurt.

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CHANGINGSAM 1/7/2013 3:01PM

    Aw, I am so sorry. Just know that we all love you no matter what. Hang in there, my dear friend! emoticon

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ANONSI 1/7/2013 10:00AM

    Ouch is definitely right. I hope you let him know how wrong he was!

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 1/7/2013 1:52AM

    I agree with SEXBOBOMB!

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SEXBOBOMB 1/7/2013 12:23AM

    Kick him in the nads! emoticon

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INGBADEN 1/6/2013 8:47PM

    WTH i am so sorry.

You are doing great don't let him discourage you.

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REENSKI 1/6/2013 7:45PM

    Ouch-I hope you speeded up his metabolism with some zingers back.
Sorry, I've been there too.
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NEVERORNOW 1/6/2013 1:42PM

    I hope you were able to let him know how that made you feel, and that he didn't say it to hurt you, but just didn't word it very nicely. Don't let it slow down your efforts. You are beautiful and you are worth it!!! emoticon

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MERRY_XMAS 1/6/2013 12:55PM

    Oups! Yeah that was a bit too much...
Sometimes we forget that we must behave to our closer people like we would to a stranger about these things... It's like we forget our manners... I bet he wouldn't say that to his boss... The best you can do is talk with him about it, don't let it make you sad or uncomfortable. Maybe he wanted to say something else and it didn't come out as he would like.

No matter what, if there is a recipe to speed up our metabolism I guess he would want it, too emoticon

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SEATTLE58ANEW 1/6/2013 10:41AM

    You are beautiful! Remember that, but also be open with each other. That's the best. Tell him that it hurt you and tell him why and talk, talk about it. You'll find out wall the more what he's made of! emoticon

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 1/6/2013 10:36AM


Why do you refer to this "person" (I use quotes because I would like to replace that word with something more descriptive, but less polite!!!!!) as your bf???

I can see someone wanting you to reach your goals, and maybe he "meant well" but REALLY this was just plain rude and hurtful to you.

Maybe time to eliminate some toxic relationships in 2013....

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TOGEMON 1/6/2013 8:39AM


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KDJUAREZ 1/6/2013 8:18AM

    Wow! My now husband made a similarly insensitive remark a couple of years ago, and it really took a while for me to get over it. (And a lot of apologizing and discussing about how hurtful it was on his part.) I'm with the others, for you to succeed, try to surround yourself with supporting, loving people. I hope that this was a one time slip that was not meant to be malicious. If not, you deserve so much better and should start thinking about whether this bf is really keeping your best interest at heart. Hugs either way - it hurts! You are beautiful and your body will adjust as it does; in the meantime, he should appreciate you giving him the opportunity to be near it! :)

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    I'm hoping he was just being a man and not thinking before speaking, instead of intentionally being hurtful. I winced and it wasn't even directed at me, so I can only imagine how you feel. Keep your chin up. You're smart, pretty and working towards your goals. Don't let one comment get you down (for too long anyway). Hugs!

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    I hope he is one of those people who means to say something helpful and it comes out sounding horrible instead of just being plain old horrible and mean.

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JILLYBEAN25 1/6/2013 1:58AM

    Whoa. Not cool.

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JULESJET 1/5/2013 9:49PM

    Ow! That had quite a bit of a zing, didn't it.
Stick to your plan! You can do it!

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LYNNA1968 1/5/2013 7:59PM

    what a terrible, hurtful thing to say. Hardly motivational! I'm sorry my friend

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BEANIES_MOM 1/5/2013 7:14PM


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CHARISSA1969 1/5/2013 7:09PM

    Sorry you had to experience that. Hang in there.

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DUMBBELLE84 1/5/2013 7:05PM

  I have to hope is just clueless and didn't mean to be hurtful. You're doing amazing... don't let that comment get you down!!


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TRYINGTOLOSE64 1/5/2013 6:53PM

    Ouch!! That was evil!! Hope he let's up on you soon or he might get kicked to the curb!!

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FLORNH 1/5/2013 6:51PM

    Ouch is right. I hope you told him how hurtful that was.

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