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Saturday, January 05, 2013

Not again.....another new job. This is a good thing it really is but I am so scared. And tired and resistant and just plain scared. As I have mentioned repeatedly it seems we move alot for my husband's work and that's great for the most part but it means I have to reinvent myself and adapt to new places and new jobs. This time around was really difficult given the current job market but I did recieve some offers and instead of going the easy route I took a job that looked to be different and challenging. Big mistake but I've kept at it while still looking. A really intriguing offer sort of fell in my lap and I've decided to take it. But I am scared. Of what? Change. Change. Change. And visibility. And being discovered a fraud. And it not working out and being left with nothing. I'm also afraid of the reaction I will get from my current company and am writing this when I should be writing my two week letter of resignation. I guess I feel somewhat guilty in leaving them with only two weeks notice. I haven't resigned from a job in this way. It has always been due to a move and I've been able to give ample notice and assist in transitioning a new person. But this time is different and after the final meeting yesterday when the job was formally offered and accepted they made it clear they needed me yesterday so two weeks notice it is.
As I read this over the negativity just slaps me in the face and I'm trying to figure out where that is coming from. This will be a good thing, and could be a great thing.
Help?!? I guess I need a good kick in the ..... and a shove out of the plane!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
-SHAWN- 5/30/2013 4:37PM

    You know advice is easy to give, not always so easy to implement.
I think your friends have pretty much covered it.
Breath and take whatever comes one step at a time. You already know how adaptable you are, embrace your qualities. Don't believe negative 'brain chatter', acknowledge it as silly and continue on :-)

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SIMPLE_TAILOR 2/11/2013 10:00AM

    All changes are difficult. Move forward and embrace it.

Of course, by now, all of this has transpired. I'll look to see how it turned out.

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GIRLINBRAZIL 1/28/2013 11:44AM

    Hoping all is going well as you should be at your new job by now!

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REGULARSHOW 1/6/2013 12:33PM

    Change is scary but it can be good. You will be ok, No matter what the world will keep spinning and if something bad does happen, it eventually becomes ok. Sometimes its hard to just breathe when you feel like you need to be prepared to fight. But I guarantee if you take this time that you are using to read this message and just breathe, you will not need to fight.

Try to take a look outside and look at the sun shining through the trees, or whatever landscape you see and see the beauty in it. Take comfort in the fact that it will be there tomorrow to look at and relax.

I you are able to find peace in the midst of chaos. emoticon

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PLUMERIA50 1/5/2013 11:39PM

  Change is a challenge. Change is exciting. Change is scary. Change is part of life
and you are ok. You will be ok tomorrow. You will be even better the day after.

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    You know in your heart what you need to do. Change is almost always scary, but I know you will do great. Besides, we never know how much we can accomplish unless we are willing to get out there and go for it. So, go show them what you're made of - you're gonna do emoticon


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TERIANA 1/5/2013 6:53PM

    Queirida! It is okay to be scared. We all get scared. But how blessed you are to be scared of starting a new job and resigning from a job that did not suit you. Many people are scared because they have no job or have not had a job for quite some time. Here is what I think...there is somebody out there who needs a job and who will love to get the job you are leaving. Think of it as being able to bless someone you do not know. Likewise, the new job will provide you with opportunities to grow and expand.

Here is a "dirty little secret" almost everyone feels like a fraud. It's not because we are frauds, it is because we have an overinflated idea of what others know and we minimize what we know.

You made it in Brazil my dear. That is a HUGE change--new language, culture, different lifestyle, norms and expectations. A new job in the USA will be a piece of cake for you. Envision yourself succeeding beyond your wildest dreams. You will be able to bless your new employer because of the range of skills and life experience you bring to this new opportunity.

Fear not! All is well. And if it you need some extra help your first few days, ask your Guardian Angel to help. Seriously! It is a no-fail antidote to fear. Parabens, beijos mil e boa suerte. Sua amiga Havaiana...

Comment edited on: 1/5/2013 6:56:41 PM

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KALIGIRL 1/5/2013 5:18PM

    Sounds like two major changes. Dealing with a new approach to leaving (2 week notice) and accepting a position where you are needed yesterday are each stressful in themselves.

You knew you were not a good fit for the job you're leaving and it sounds like you have the skills for the new one.

Looks like an excellent decision and we look forward to hearing about your successes!

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    All the best !
Good luck !

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MOVEITMARY 1/5/2013 11:49AM

    Change is scary... and also exciting and an opportunity for growth. It's totally normal to feel afraid when making a life change. So feel your fear, and do it anyway!

And two weeks' notice is quite standard, there is no need to feel guilty over it.Think of it this way: if the shoe were on the other foot and the company were letting you go, you would be lucky to have two weeks' notice!

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PYNETREE 1/5/2013 9:46AM

    I wish you Strength...the strength to resign current job, and go out on a pleasant note, and the strength to jump into this new endeavor, and give it your all.

You can do this...take that big step!

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MIRAGE727 1/5/2013 9:15AM

    Embrace new challenges. Whether it's running a Half Marathon, a Marathon, 10K, or going into a new job. Focus on the positive. I traveled all over the world with my family. My Dad was in the State Dept. My sis and I went to at least 10 schools from 1st grade to being a Senior in High School. I went to 5 Universities. I learned to adapt at an early age. I also learned that if I went into it with energy and a positive attitude, I could overcome anything. It's the same with our healthy lifestyle journey. Embrace it to the fullest.

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PICKIE98 1/5/2013 8:29AM

    Do you feel guilty only because you did things differently this time? If so, change is the hardest thing.
Staying in a job that you dislike or know you are not qualified for, is not fair to you or your employer. If you feel that somebody else can do better, move on.

Unless you are in charge of a life and death situation, be patient with yourself and go into next job honestly, with your self and them. A year from now you will see how change is good.

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EVIE4NOW 1/5/2013 8:28AM

  Change will always be there. Fact of Life!!! Embrace it and carry on. There is really no other choice. Without change you remain stagnant and in a rut. There was obviously a reason you were job hunting in the first place and the new job seems to be a much better fit? Go for it and don't look back. Good Luck.

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