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Some thoughts about goals for 2013

Saturday, January 05, 2013

I hadn't made any real formal goals for myself for 2013 up til now. I think that's part of my "at loose ends" behavior on New Year's Day, too. Fear of goal setting? Fear of setting the bar "a bridge too far"? Perhaps a bit of that...

This week I've been reading other Spark people's goals / resolutions and thinking about what I need to move in the direction of a fulfilling and satisfying 2013.

I have alsos been thinking about my son coming home soon and the transitions that will be happening in his life and of course how those will affect me as his mom. Whether I'll see more or less of him and his wife, what kind of job he'll get, all those young people transitions...

The key word of course is transitions. I have blogged about the challenge of navigating transitions for me. Some folks are OK with change. I used to think I was one of them... years ago. I get excited by new chapters: moving, new jobs, new school years, heck, you've seen how excited I get over a new "bucket list" thing I go after. YET, they are a danger point for me, too, as I am an anxious nibbler... Sunday nights for example, transition back to the work week.

Rituals help. Being active helps. Talking to a friend helps. But not too much talking to a friend, 'cause I can have after interaction reactions! Gee, guess it's never EASY to be a recovering compulsive, is it?

Onward to what I think I want to make as my 2013 "wishes" / to "goals" to "actual behaviors".

1) Get outside more. Particularly for activity in the winter time. Yeah, cabin fever and vitamin D deficiency go hand in hand. So, for 2013, I intend to get outside for at least 10 minutes a day. Rain, shine, snow, ice... outside. Live. In the moment.

2) We already know the athletic goal - complete a full marathon. Train up for it properly, and just go do it. No matter how long it takes.

3) Keep on tracking and blogging. Because this has been the most powerful tool to help me remember what's important.

4) If "life happens" (which it can to all of us) remember your "line in the sand" and adjust.

Life *is* good. Spark on! emoticon
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  • v SHRINKINGSHERI
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    1240 days ago
  • v LJR4HEALTH
    Barb once again a great post i especially like number 4 "If "life happens" (which it can to all of us) remember your "line in the sand" and adjust." i know I need to be able to do that more myself
    1241 days ago
  • v BESTSUSIEYET
    Yes, let's get outside! And stay faithful in our eating and fitness habits. We have come too far to let life's challenges sidetrack us! Hugs!!
    1241 days ago
  • v _LINDA
    Great goal! I need to join you on that. today was actually reasonable weather here for a change with sunshine in the morning -I completely wasted it with my busyness and ended up never getting out all day :( It was even warm enough to have my window open a little most of the day!
    Pretty much anything out of your normal routine can lead to food binges for sure. Tough one to cope with.
    All the best with this goal!
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    1241 days ago
  • v SUNNY332
    emoticon Goals and without a doubt, goals that you will achieve.

    You go girl.

    Sunny
    1241 days ago
  • v CONCHA77
    Great goals for 2013! --I think we are on the same page as far as posting and tracking.
    I am still struggling for some resolutions to make for myself, I think maybe slowing down a little mentally, and stepping up my pace, physically. emoticon

    1242 days ago
  • v KALIGIRL
    Getting outside is so important - not just to shake up the routine, but to get a 'fresh' perspective.
    emoticon goals and even more emoticon actions.
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    1242 days ago
  • v BEAUTY_WITHIN
    I like your goals! :)
    1242 days ago
  • v KARIDIAN1
    Nice attainable goals.
    1242 days ago
  • v DLDMIL
    You are such an inspiration to us. Your goals are simple and very achievable. Glad that your son will be home soon and the hugs will be sooooooooo wonderful and a great release of anxiety will be lifted off your shoulders to have him back in the states. I agree with you about being outside everyday for the sun and the vitamin D. We all need that sun for mental as well as nutritional value.
    Have a great Saturday. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1242 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/5/2013 4:01:37 PM
  • v SLENDERELLA61
    Looks like your goals are meaningful and achievable, Barb! That full marathon is a big one, but you have the fitness and determination to do it. I know you will adapt to whatever transitions happen in 2013 and beyond. Wishing you all good things!! -Marsha
    1242 days ago
  • v ANDI571
    I used to love change, but find now that I am older, it doesn't sit well. I think that has become a lot of my problem in the past year. I think acknowledging our weaknesses really helps with that change. When we ignore them, then we get into trouble.

    Good goals, keep it up! emoticon
    1242 days ago
  • v DALID414
    Sounds like a good list.
    1242 days ago
  • v MNNICE
    Some very good goals. So important to set "life" goals as well as "diet" goals! Seems you're on the right road towards adjusting to changes!
    1242 days ago
  • v GALINAZ
    You are an inspiration! I can relate to the change stress - even good stress can affect our eating habits
    1242 days ago
  • v NEW-CAZ
    Great goals Barb!
    1242 days ago
  • v MJREIMERS
    I think those of us trying to "improve ourselves" often have very similar obstacles that we face. I found that replacing one "bad" habit with a "better" one helps. It's really difficult to totally do away with one behavior without replacing it with another. (It must be the teacher in me talking!)

    Life is constantly changing and for some of us, that's not easy. However, we are learning new ways to deal with change, new ways to make better choices and with new people (here) to support us emoticon !

    You are in the right direction. Some days the steps will be smaller and the road a bit rougher. Other days we can just run with a nice smooth road ahead. You can do it...people have your back!!! emoticon
    1242 days ago
  • v MOBYCARP
    Yeah, transitions are dangerous. The good habits can drop through the cracks, and there is the hazard of not picking them back up after the transition.

    Weight lifting kind of fell through the cracks for me this week. Transition back to work, transition to tax season, throw in daily snow removal . . . and I haven't lifted since Monday. I'll have to think about how to manage this better next week and over the course of tax season.
    1242 days ago
  • v MEXGAL1
    great review and good for you to set out some goals for yourself. just keep in mind that you are one strong woman and can handle things.
    make it a great weekend.
    1242 days ago
  • v 1CRAZYDOG
    I never did like change/transitions too much either. Still don't, but with taking things day-by-day, it's a lot less stressing for me.

    Yes, I imagine things will be changed when DS gets home, but you'll handle it (and sooooooooo glad for you that he's going to be home! HUGS to your wonderful son and YOU!)


    1242 days ago
  • v WATERMELLEN
    Great goals . . . and note that "more of the same" (tracking, blogging) helps ease that challenge of change.
    1242 days ago
  • v -AMANDA79-
    I need to get out in the sun today!
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    Sounds like some really great goals for the year...
    1242 days ago
  • v RUN4FOOD
    Hope your son's and your transitions both go well.
    Fear of goals, been asking myself that question this week.
    1242 days ago
  • v STRONGDAWG
    Last January, when I ran the risk of staying in my apartment and never coming out, I set a goal of getting outside EVERY day for at least 30 minutes. I did it. I felt great and I didn't become a crazy hermit.

    I like your goal of getting outside. It served me well when I needed it.
    1242 days ago
  • v MIRAGE727
    I love it! Stay strong, Barb!
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    1242 days ago
  • v LESLIELENORE
    emoticon emoticon I can't wait until I can read about your marathon!
    1242 days ago
  • v ROXYZMOM
    Your goals ate realistic! You can do this!!
    1242 days ago
  • v GABY1948
    Wow, Barb, we are so much more alike than I thought! I would almost say in some ways you describe, we are exactly alike. If someone is coming over I fret for days and if they DO come over I fret but if they DON'T end up coming I fret even more! Fret, of course, means "nervous eating".

    Thanks for such insight! I don't blog by writing my own "stuff" often so it helps me greatly to read your blogs!

    Have a blessed weekend!
    1242 days ago
  • v GABY1948
    Wow, Barb, we are so much more alike than I thought! I would almost say in some ways you describe, we are exactly alike. If someone is coming over I fret for days and if they DO come over I fret but if they DON'T end up coming I fret even more! Fret, of course, means "nervous eating".

    Thanks for such insight! I don't blog by writing my own "stuff" often so it helps me greatly to read your blogs!

    Have a blessed weekend!
    1242 days ago
  • v DEBRITA01
    Navigating transitions can be hard but you seem to have a handle on it. I'm also working on making my wishes/goals becoming "actual behaviors"...I've been talking the talk now I need to consistently walk the walk. emoticon
    1242 days ago
  • v MSLZZY
    My line in the sand is one priority I really have
    to work on in 2013. Got to start somewhere.
    Your blogs make me think and realize thinking
    is not the same as doing. Off to "do" now!
    1242 days ago
  • v OVERWORKEDJANET
    Looking forward to stability and a day where "nothing" happens other than sunshine!
    1242 days ago
  • v DEBRA0818
    Great, realistic, achievable goals, Barb! Go 2013!!!

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    1242 days ago
  • v PATRICIAAK
    Transitions seem to be the norm in life for me. Perhaps that's because I'm from a large family. Unfortunately, the gym seems to be what gets sacrificed.
    I'm going to need to follow your example and change from "wishes" to "goals" and then to "actual behaviors".

    1242 days ago
  • v MAGGIE101857
    I had a "life happens" moment yesterday - found myself so angry with the decrease in my paycheck due to the tax changes and insurance hikes and then found myself getting angrier watching the evening news and hearing what a mess this country is right now (my opinion of course emoticon ).

    I had to remove myself from all of it - I went up to my bedroom and just sat in the darkness with a fire (fake) going....had myself a bit of a cry and a pep talk. Today is an adjustment day for me and many others, I'm sure. emoticon to tackle it!!!

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    1242 days ago
  • v LEANJEAN6
    Yer goals are realistic--LOL----You are doing well--Wonderful that yer son will be home--Hug him lots!!!!------LOL======Lynda emoticon
    1242 days ago
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