Thursday, January 03, 2013
2012 started off for us as a GREAT year and we really thought things were going to come full circle and put us where we want to be but as the year went on and we brought a car, which then died on us, and then spent most of the rest of the year without a car again and missed summer and adventures with the kids and all sorts of other stuff - money worries got worse, the hubs was working his ass off and barely at home because of the car situation - he had to spend hours sitting around at work after everyone went home cause his ride home finished 3 hours after he did!
We had a few close calls with paying rent and we actually were a day late last month! Things have just been crazy. We finally opened up to a few people about how bad the situation was and how we just can't seem to fix it - I mean, we don't owe a ton of money to anyone, anywhere, and we only have things like basic cable and the cheapest internet service and we don't go out or spend frivolously and we don't have credit cards yet I'm a stay at home mother and we live on half a paycheck cause most of the check goes to child support - it is nuts. I am eternally optimistic though and dragging my husband's butt with me because he is the pessimist in the family so it is hard sometimes but we're getting there.
Over Christmas a guy who works with my husband donated a ton of canned goods to us, like literally 10 or so boxes worth and boxed goods like potatoes, rice, pasta, cereal and that kind of thing. I have not had a stocked pantry for a good couple of years and so this has been a really, really wonderful thing and it might only look like peas and carrots to some people but I don't have to worry about where food is coming from for a while, which is a wonderful feeling!
Also, over Christmas, one of my husband's friends sent our family a HUGE box with a gift for each of us in it, which was SO lovely, really! I did give all of my family a gift this year but most of it came from blogging and didn't cost anything or I got it really cheap over the year on Amazon sales, but it wasn't much and they were happy with that because I have raised them to be grateful of the little things. Well, this box arrived and it was like an exta Xmas! They had sent my husband a graphics tablet that used to be his friends but his friend got a new one and thought my husband (who is a bit of an artist) could use it and we can't afford to buy things like that ourselves right now and so that was fabulous! They sent the kids toys and they sent me a gift card for Target! Usually I end up spending all of my gift cards or cash on food or the kids and so this year I took advantage of the card and got something purely for me. I managed to get 2 bags, a pair of sandals and a wallet for the $25, plus $1 out of pocket give or take a few pennies and total before sales would have been over $77 including shipping! Target had a big sale, extra discounts and free shipping that one day and so I felt incredibly lucky - and incredibly guilty for spending the money on myself!!! (I don't think "mom guilt" ever really goes away!).
My mother in law has been a real peach this year, she has really tried hard to get involved and be a better person, she has taken my boy to soccer and we've been over for lunches which didn't end in an argument! She gave them a ton of fabulous gifts for Christmas, which she got at Goodwill, with her savvy-ness and so didn't spend a lot out of pocket but really found some GREAT things the kids just LOVE. I am so greatful for the effort she puts in to Christmas for them. It has been a nice one for the kids this year and I am just thankful all around!
We recently reconnected with my husband's dad after 9 years and he is at our house now trying to help out where he can even though he is in a worse situation than us since his wife left him and took all the money and house and everything else. Maybe pooling our resources will help, which is the plan, but we're only on week 1 of that and so we have to see how it goes. Fingers crossed.
Other than that, my blog is doing really well, my butt is probably suffering from all the time I spend sitting online though!
I really seem to have lost myself a bit lately and need to get back to me again, which is what brings me here - this is actually probably the only community that has kept me motivated over the years and so this is where it needs to be! :D
I hope you are all well!? Come chat with me! I could do with some new conversation, for real!
Onwards and upwards!!