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I already missed a goal, darn should I delete that one?

Thursday, January 03, 2013

To say that I am hard on myself would not be an exaggeration. I have to admit that it has gone so far that if I have a goal that I mess up early, I will often just remove that from the long list so that I stay at 100 percent (or even fudge it a little and check off something I didn't Really do). This has ALREADY happened in 2013. One of my goals is to park far away from wherever I am going. So yesterday was cold and rainy. And I had two pre-teens in the car who feel that coats are not "attractive" wear for the mall. And since I have trimmed off my own fat I tend to get really chilled a little too easily. So I didn't even Think of that goal when we went to the mall yesterday and my whole plan was to park as close to a door (any door) that I could.
So, this morning I am checking off my "other goals" on my tracker and there is the "park far". Immediately I felt myself getting ready to check it off. After all, I walked about 2000 steps IN the mall. And ended the day over 15,000 steps thank you fitbit.
Then it occurred to me that one thing that has not served me well in my life is the idea that I cannot step even one tiny step out of line on Anything, and still be good enough. I need to add a goal. I need to add the goal "give yourself an opportunity to be better tomorrow, once a week". OK! What is this goal? This means I need to be rigorously honest and not check off some thing or other once a week. Why not every day??? OK come on, baby steps, right?
Happy new year, the first of my life where I allow myself to be human.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MOM4407 1/5/2013 3:45PM

    I must admit in the cold, rainy weather we have been having I would rather park closer. In the summer when it is 100+ I have not problem parking far away. I know I am such a baby it is only 43 degrees.

Keep going strong.
You have made your goal and your are doing great.
Yes you still need goals to keep yourself motivated.
Parking far away is an excellent goal.

You go girl
Becky in Donna Tx

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LESLIE871948 1/3/2013 1:42PM

    one thing that happened, I parked far this morning at the store. Never mind the blowing cold mist. At least these days I can RUN

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 1/3/2013 9:41AM

    Why not keep a checklist and see how many times you DO manage to follow each goal, in a week? Then the next week try and beat your record.

This allows you to feel good about improving without the dangerous "all or nothing" mentality that can hamstring you before you get started...

Comment edited on: 1/3/2013 9:41:49 AM

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KAYOTIC 1/3/2013 9:30AM

    Goals are great, and it's nice to be able to attain them, but it's also an opportunity to fail and be able to rise from that failure. (maybe failure is too harsh a term for your particular goal...) I say don't check the box, keep the goal, and see how long the next streak goes. I look at breaking my streaks as an opportunity to have a better streak next time!

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CASEYTALK 1/3/2013 8:46AM

    Perfectionism is very dangerous to meeting your goals in life. Keep the goal of 'park far' if you'd like to try to keep doing it, but if it's not a perfect streak, what harm have you done? As you say, you still walked a lot yesterday. Focus on your successes.

Think about it -- when you are on your death bed, will you really still be kicking yourself that you didn't have a perfect 'park far' streak? It's just not that important that the streak be perfect. What is more important is that you have worked hard, lost a lot of weight, and been working on your health in many positive ways. THAT'S fantastic!


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SADWHITEWOLF 1/3/2013 8:34AM

    I think for that particular goal you should allow yourself to take weather into account now and then. The thing we all need to stuggle to avoid is extreames.
Good Luck!

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NELLJONES 1/3/2013 8:24AM

    This is why I do daily goals. I can't do everything every day, so I sort it all out by day in advance.

And I'd tell my kids to wear coats or be cold. That's what coats are for. If the goal is "cool" stay home. I choose "warm".

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FITFOODIE806 1/3/2013 8:15AM

    Baby steps are the way to go! I think rain wins over that gaol, especially with kids in the car!

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