this year my biggest and probably hardest goal is try to reduce stress which is a big part of my life and i see will always be a big part of my life.i just have to find ways to deal with it better so any tips and ideas are always welcome.
the one i try to live by but must try harder is the serenity prayer
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANG
TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERANCE
LIFE STRESS I CAN NOT CHANGE
three kids with special needs
a man who is cronacally ill(well i could change this if i wanted too but i donīt want.guess i must love him lol)
my own medical problems.i can change my weight and fitness but the fact that i have antiphosphatelipid anti body syndrome(that i have to take blood thinners for for the rest of my life),aneurysma which the dr has to check regually so then can operate as and when before it gets dangerous again,and my facial parylise which though better will probably never clear completely.
time it takes for drīs,specialist,therapist and hospital appointments/ stays(they are a nessacary part of all my families life but i will just have to find ways to use the waiting time and travelling time better)
lack of money(through both my husband being out of work and me not being able to work because of my health for over a year)this goes into this as well as the next section as though i cannot change some things i can others maybe.
STRESS THAT I CAN CHANGE
my weight(by watching what i eat)
my fitness( by doing my exercise regually and making no excuses not to do it)
emotional eating(by accepting more the stuff i cannot change,worrying less,doing other things instead ofstuffing my worries inside me with food.read the section on my spark page on emotional eating when i start to do it to help me put the breaks on)
lack of money(be more satisfied and grateful with what i have rather than concentrateing on things i donīt have.find ways of saving money,makeing things more,bulk buying and cooking etc,etc.)
realising i am only human(so donīt put extra pressure on myself because the household isnīt perfect,etc.maybe rely more on others than leaving it all on my own shoulders.(i realisethis is a big problem as i like to be in control though alot of that is to do with fear like when i was in hospital with ayman and my sil looked after the kids.zakariya didnīt take his medicine and my sil never checked he was taking it.the day he left he ate somethere he shouldnīt and i had him ill for two days because of his allergy)
lack of iron(try and get that more undercontrol.get more on the drīs for them to find out why it is always low)
have more fun(i guess with all my stress and worries with my family health issues i have forgotten a bit how good having fun is.so i plan to dance everyday and try and do more fun things with the kids.look at shelly here on spark(mommost)she is always having fun in her blogs so will try to take myself less seriously.
another thing that will help me download stress is to be more supportive of others here on sp and in my surrounds.it will help take my mind of my own problems and like my nan always says.no matter how bad your life or problems are there is always someone out there who is worse off.and she is right,
start a gratitude journal and write at least three things for me to be grateful about in it every day.
and like it says in the serenity prayer.
THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERANCE.
other plans beside less stress
do a dot calender for food and exercise(idea from linda spangler)you have green,yellow and red dots.green for when you did well and you would have lost weight,yellow when you did reasonably well that you think you would have maintained,red that it was terrible that you would have put on weight.this is to get a visual overview by the end of week/month to see at a glance why my weight loss is what it is.obviuosly it would be great to get all greens but upto now the year hasnīt started good.
red for food(even though in my range the food wasnīt exactly nutrient dense,lots of sweets,lol)
yellow for exercise(even though i got 2 hours in i didnīßt do what i planned to do everyday.i will get a green when i stick to my plan)
red for food(even though this time i ate relatively healthy i ate way over my range,lol)
green for exercise.
my exercise plan for green is
100 crunches at least a day
5 km at least a day.
4 days a week,dumbell reps.
at least 30 mins cardio a day.
anything more than that is a plus
cut down on sugar
keep up with no diet coke.
so basially that is my plan/goals for this year though like i say they can change as i go along.
so once again i would like to thank you my friends for taking time to read my blog and n extra thanks for thoes who reply.with all the stressīs in my life i donīt always get time to thank you all personally and i appologise for that but believe you me i do really appreciate.take care and keep smiling and remeber the serenity prayer it can save alot of stress.hugs