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I am besieged

Wednesday, January 02, 2013

Happy New Year. Must be a sarcasm when said to me right now. I try hard not to rock the boat. I am the last person you can expect to be confrontational. And I tend to be an optimist. But sometimes, ya gotta SCREAM!

I tried accommodation. I tried gracefully "getting over" the affronts. I even tried ignoring them. I tried handling these things privately, considerately. No change. So now I am trying anger and embarrassment -- being publicly, loudly angry with the offenders -- I am angry; I am the one embarrassed! But I will NOT put up with this disrespect.

Those witnessing my anger are those I consider to be friends; they have also witnessed my toleration of past offenses. So I have nothing to lose, huh? Either they stand with me, or they don't care enough for me to say to the offender(s) with me that they also think the disrespectful behavior has to stop. In which case, they aren't worth much as friends. And I can stop giving as much as I do to them.

This "happy" new year, I am not going to be so accommodating. I value myself. "The world values you as you value yourself"; and I have to start acting it out and demanding that I be treated better. Right now, I am starting with rejection of poor treatment.
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    Ah, that's a hard one. It's easy for someone to say to you just walk away but it's not always easy to do. I guess time will heal the pain. If they've upset you that much, they can't be that much of a loss - perhaps that's how you should look at it. Life is too short to have things/people in it that bring you down.

    Hope you feel better soon.

    1294 days ago
  • v KOSHIE1
    I tend to bottle my anger -- years even -- until I explode. Somebody (in real life) continues to "step on my toes" repeatedly, despite my best efforts at being a nice person. Her disrespect encouraged disrespect from another; and that was the final straw... I called them both on it, publicly, angrily.

    I can't force them to treat me respectfully. And I will walk away rather than continue to put up with it. It breaks my heart to stay and put up with it, and it breaks my heart to walk away and lose the good as well.

    I need advice about "moving on" emotionally.
    1295 days ago
    Koshie - it's hard to give advice when I don't know who or how someone has been horrible to you. Is is a friend, relative, someone on Spark? If it's someone on Spark you can report them. I believe their account can be blocked.
    1295 days ago
  • v KOSHIE1
    advice, please, because I am so angry and frustrated and hurt and dejected that I can't think straight.
    1296 days ago
    1297 days ago
  • v MRE1956
    You GO!

    1298 days ago
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