January 1, 2013 Evaluation Questions and Creative Solutions For Resolutions
Though I have never been successful with New Year's Resolutions, I have taken time to look and my goal page and do some revising. I'd like to think they will be important goals for the rest of my life, but we'll see next December.
Here are my revised goals for 2013.
According to Peter M. Gollitzer, it's not enough to have good intentions to accomplish one's goals. Good intentions must be backed up by good implementation intentions. I translate this to mean it's not enough to say, "I want to be healthy, or creative, or have fun." I need to have an action plan to meet these goals; a plan that tells what I'll do and when; a plan that helps me keep moving toward my goals.
("Implementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple Plans". July 1999 • American Psychologist. Vol. 54. No. 7, 493-503)
So my first linchpin in my action plan is EVALUATION QUESTIONS and CREATIVE SOLUTIONS. I know, sounds like something a teacher would come up with. Guilty. But I think it will work for me.
If I __________________________
will it support my health?
is it nutrient dense food
is it fiber filled
will it support and maintain a healthy active body?
Am I being a playful responsible adult?
am I maintaining linchpins
Will I nurture relationships
with the world around me
Will I make my spirit Soar?
will I nurture creativity?
music, art, literature
Implementation with Solution might go something like this:
#1. So, if I plan to eat supper at Krystal or McDonalds with Mom, that food gets 4 NOs in the food department. It doesn't maintain my linchpin of avoiding processed foods or excess sodium.
I might try to get away with saying I'm nurturing relationships with people because I'm keeping Mom company, or I'm helping to keep a whole industry in jobs, but I know I'm only rationalizing a negative situation.
Solution: Invite her to eat my healthy lunch. If she turns up her nose, I can say no, or take my dressing and go with Mom to Chick-fil-a and have a chicken/fruit salad and extra fruit cup, and supplement with more veggies when I get home. (Healthy, Creative, Nurturing)
#2. So, if I watch TV for 6 hours tonight,
I won't get enough sleep so I'm not supporting a healthy active me.
I won't be having any variety.
I probably won't be having fun, though I might learn something if I'm lucky.
I will be using up time when I could be creatively pursuing music, art or literary endeavors.
SOLUTION: I can check the cable menu guide and see if there is an entertaining or educational program that I will want to see. I can choose to record it or watch it, leaving time for me, to walk, ,be creative, to nurture relationships, to plan a fun activity for tomorrow, to maintain linchpins. If I start arranging, painting, or writing, I'll need to set a timer so I stop in time to go to bed. (Nurturing, Creativity, Health, Linchpin)
Tomorrow I'll look at the question: How do I decide what is healthy food?