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Monday, December 31, 2012

I was going to blog about something completely different this morning... but my thoughts were kind of disjointed and I decided I'd best let THAT blog percolate for a while before I write it.

Then my brother went and mentioned some real numbers in his blog about his maintenance range, and I figure I'd talk turkey to those of us small-framed women out here in Spark land trying so hard to lose the pounds and being frustrated at times.

Here's the deal. The weight maintenance game is rigged. Yeppers. Rigged.

First off, normal male body composition contains less fat and more muscle than ours does as the carriers of the progeny. When I see my body fat percentage in the 20% range, I'm doing very well. A guy? Would have to be below 15% to be as fit and healthy as I am at 20%.

This means, with a higher percentage of muscle mass, the gents burn more calories even if they are the same weight as me!

This is NORMAL, and it's OK. I like being female. Would NOT swap!

Second, guys "on average" are larger framed than we are. My son tops me by eight or nine inches. My brother by a similar amount. And lest we forget, they both work out, too. So, with a larger body mass, they require more calories to maintain.

This, too, is NORMAL, and it's OK. I like fitting into smaller spaces and being able to FIT in tourist class on an airplane without feeling my legs are being cramped!

But still, it is somewhat of an eye opener to realize that for them? A normal maintenance range comes out to a binge day for me!

Life is not fair. But it's still good. Weight loss for us ladies may take more work. But, it's still worth it! I love being me. I love being me at my "tiny" size. And if that means I can only have half the calories of my muscular male relatives, so be it... it also means I only NEED half the calories to thrive.

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  • KANOE10
    Also it seems males lose weight faster than females! I love being me and being female. You are right..we just need to stick with what we need!

    Great humorous blog...but true.

    Happy New Year
    1908 days ago
    Umm . . . I suppose I'd better not mention what a typical breakfast is for me these days.

    In my more sane moments, I recognize that the game is rigged in my favor. And it's not just because I'm male, though that's part of it. My maintenance range is also greater than the other ranges that have been mentioned on the 50+ males Spark Team.

    I suspect the main reason I never became morbidly obese, and that I had some partial and inconsistent success trying to control my weight with exercise alone, is that the game *is* rigged in my favor. However, the rigged game isn't a big enough advantage to let me eat anything I want. I can maintain weight, and even lose weight, on a very generous calorie allowance. But I still can't out-train a truly crappy diet.
    1908 days ago
    Happy new year barb :)
    1908 days ago
  • MAGGIE101857
    Thanks for pointing out the pros and cons! Of course, we can also be Mom's - the best job ever; growing a beautiful child inside of you and then introducing them to this wonderfully crazy world!

    Still it is frustrating to watch my dear Bob eat CRAP and not gain; I have to comfort myself with knowing that inside and out, I'm much healthier. Perhaps "comfort" isn't the right word..I'm not comfortable with his unhealthy eating and drinking, but I also realize that all I can do is continue to make healthy meals during our time together and continue to set a good example. Love is like that - emoticon
    1908 days ago
    Great blog. Happy New Year!

    I'm glad Caz sent me a link. emoticon
    1908 days ago
    Don't forget we live longer! Life is great! emoticon
    1908 days ago
    Great blog. I'm (at 5'9") by no means "tiny" but I am (reasonably) slim. My DH who's about 6'2" can easily eat 2000 calories and maintain while I'm maintaining at about 1400 calories. Just, as you say, a "fact of life": and like you I do enjoy being female. Although I may not "want" fewer calories I "need" fewer calories.
    1908 days ago
    I knew it was rigged!--LOL------ Loved this blog!!!--I'd styill rather be female too----*S*--Awesome 2013!----Lynda emoticon
    1908 days ago
    So true! Happy New Year!
    1908 days ago
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    Happy New Year!
    1908 days ago
  • GABY1948
    Great blog. I mean really GREAT! Caz sent me and she knew what she was doing. I see your name all over the glad that I finally got over here! This blog made me think! Have a GREAT New Year...ALL year long! emoticon
    1908 days ago
    My Mom told me from the time I knew there was a difference between males and females that it was a man's world. No shocker to me.
    1908 days ago
    Great blog! I thank Caz for sending me here because I've been thinking along these lines lately and you have crystallized my thoughts. Life certainly isn't fair - in this and many other ways (not always to do with men!) but it's what we make it and once we accept that 'it's still good' as you say. Just differently good. Thanks for making me reflect on all this - great way to start 2013.
    Happy New Year to you emoticon
    1908 days ago
    I, too, am in agreement. It's good that life's not fair. This allows us each to be unique and share our specialness with the world.
    1908 days ago
    Just think of all that money we save on food and all the things we can spend it on.
    1908 days ago
    Yep it is true...they do get a break...thanks for the blog !
    1908 days ago
    So annoying isn't it.
    I noticed DH managed to lose weight WAY more easily than me and kept it off with less effort too.

    Love your insight Barb and always love your blogs- you my friend are an inspiration.

    Happy New Year! emoticon
    1908 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Oh how annoying that is too, what men can get away with all kinds of food that is not exactly healthy and not have to work so hard to keep off or take off their weight!! But one good thing about being tiny is sometimes your clothes cost less when you can fit into a kid's size, and not have to pay tax as a result or smaller sizes are more readily available on sales. It is nice having a roomy seat on an airpalne :) A twin bed seems roomy :)
    Here is to a Sparklier New Year! Wishing you good health, happiness and prsoperity!
    1908 days ago
    So very true! Happy new year!!
    1908 days ago
  • MIRAGE727
    And may I say, Barb, that you are truly an inspiration for me. I thank you for that. Happy New year!
    1908 days ago
  • ANDI571
    That's where I have been running into trouble. Since DH is eating at home with me so much now, I try and keep up with him. Big mistake. Tomorrow starts a new day with a new thought pattern.

    Happy 2013 Barb! Keep those blogs coming.
    1908 days ago
    I agree 100% about having a small frame and having room to stretch our legs on airplanes. I grew up with 3 boys and trying to be first in line to eat, but learned that I didn't need to try and compete with them. I have worked hard to keep my weight at a normal weight for me and no one else. I am now all about being healthier and working on bone strength. emoticon Happy New Year to you and can't wait to see what your blogs bring in 2013
    1908 days ago
    emoticon "Life is not fair. But it is still good." I couldn't have put it any better myself!!
    1908 days ago
  • DALID414
    I learned this the hard way! When the boyfriend and I moved in together I took on his diet, horrible plan. Fast forward years later, I'm ok letting him eat 1/2 a pizza, my one slice is just as enjoyable (if not mote so!).
    1908 days ago
    Lord have mercy, if I ate as many calories as my DS, let's just say there would be a new blimp . . . named Barb! LOL

    I don't mind having my calorie range for maintenance be less than a guy's because I really don't think I could eat that much, even on a good day anyway!

    And boy, I look at me, all 4 ft. 10.5 inches of me compared to my 6 ft. 3 in. brother . . . yikers! If I ate like HIM I'd be a dirigible! LOL Now that would be a site.

    Happy New Year, Barb, with blessings, abundance, happiness and health.

    1908 days ago
    BIG Happy New Year wishes to you and your "Tiny" that you've achieved!!

    Your doing a fine job writing and rolling too. Thanks for all the entertaining blogs in 2012. Looking forward, I smile just thinking about what you have thats yet to come!!
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    1908 days ago
    I certainly agree! Life is not fair, if it were horses would ride half the time! Awesome thoughts! Thanks!
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    Life is not fair, if it were horses would ride half the time! is a book by Ben Goode
    1908 days ago
    Ahhhh ... yes ... your comment about sitting in the airplane seat reminds me of how many times I smiled during my trip to NC and back when I slid right into the seat, cinched down that belt and stretched my feet out ... til at least where my bags were under the seat! What a difference! What a relief to not have to worry about touching the thigh of the person next to me! I'm not at maintenance but I'm sure not where I started 2012 at!

    Here's to a fabulous year ahead! Hugs!
    1908 days ago
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