It's that time of year, right? I always make a resolution or two, and I've been giving this year's a lot of thought.
A couple of years ago my husband and I made a resolution to "giggle more". We sure had a lot of fun that year! But it was also cheating, because we have a lot of fun, and laugh together a lot anyway.
This year I've decided that I want to wear more jewelry in 2013. I own a lot of nice jewelry, but I hardly wear any of it. And my lack of wearing jewelry leads my husband to shy away from buying me any more. So I've moved my jewelry box into a more convenient location, and I am going to actually start wearing it!! (I've even started early - I have on a watch, earrings, and a necklace now
And I have another goal for 2013: to buy (and fit in) a size 10 skinny jean. I've never owned a pair of "skinny" jeans. Mine are all boot cut, which usually works better for my curvy figure (though right now nothing works at all...). My mom got me a gift card to the Lucky store for Christmas, because she knows I like their jeans. And although I did find a pair there that fit me much better than what I am currently wearing, I don't want to waste this gift on something to fit a body I am wholly unhappy with. So I've pocketed the card for now, and I've set the goal of purchasing that dream pair of skinny jeans.
So I have two resolutions. Both to better myself. Both personal to me. But you may have noticed something else that they have in common....they're intangible. They're not measurable...If a real goal is supposed to be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, and Time-Bound) then my goals are pretty dumb...
I think I'm afraid to set a real goal. If I say I want to buy skinny jeans, then I can just hold onto the gift card forever, and probably give up that idea eventually when I forget why I wanted to do it. But if I choose something specific, like I want to lose X pounds by DATE, then I can fail. And if I say it out loud, then I can fail in front of others...
But resolutions are all about pushing yourself to do something, right? So I've pushed myself to write this blog, and as I write it, I'm pushing myself to set a SMART goal. And from there, I will push myself to achieve it. Here goes:
I will lose 20 pounds by 7/1/2013 by exercising at least 5 times a week and making good food choices. More specifically, I will workout before school whenever possible (twice a week, but making rare exceptions for group meetings, etc.), I will plan enough healthy snacks to eat each day to avoid splurging on other things, and I will not eat a "treat" unless I have had at least a piece of fruit or serving of veggies first.
Specific: My initial goal was a bit vague, so I added the second clause ("more specifically...") to cure this
Measurable: 20 pounds (notably, I do need to weight myself in order to measure this - I prefer morning weigh-ins, so I will start tomorrow and repeat weekly on Tuesdays)
Action-Oriented: "lose" "workout" "plan" and "not eat" are my action words
Realistic: I'm not sure about the realism of my plan, but I have heard that a pound a week is reasonable. Therefore, 20 pounds in 24 weeks should be a piece of cake
Time-Bound: by 7/1/2013
There. I've said it out loud (well, sort of). I'm not going to "get in shape" or even "lose weight" this year. I am going to lose 20 pounds by 7/1/13 by working out and making good food choices.
There is a good chance I will fail. But I can do it, and I want to do it. And I have a plan. And accomplishing this SMART goal will lead directly to the dumb goal I asserted earlier: once I'm 20 pounds lighter, the skinny jeans will be a no-brainer (I may even need a smaller size!).
Happy New Year!
I'd like to make a note before I end this blog:
The whole reason I wrote this blog today was to push myself to set a real goal. I've been floundering for a long time, because I haven't held myself to any standard. I knew if I came here and wrote it down, then I would be accountable.
I didn't know what I was going to write when I started. But I did it. I set a real goal, and I am going to do my darnedest to accomplish it.
Sparkers like you and truly what keeps me going. I don't always feel comfortable talking about weight loss and what I eat with the everyday people in my life, but this is a community where I feel I can share this journey with you, and by doing so, I am able to reflect on what I truly want and need to do, and understand myself better.
I may not have many SparkFriends, or SparkPoints. I may not track my food every day, or take advantage of all of the tools available here. But I read your blogs and you are a huge inspiration to me. I appreciate all of the support that you can give me on my journey.