Monday, December 31, 2012
My husband and I had a membership to the YMCA and went frequently for a while. Then he stopped going because of hip pain and COPD. I lost the incentive as it seemed to be a lot of trouble to go alone. I started back and made a friend; so, it wasn't as hard to get there. I was doing well, making myself go to water aerobics twice a week or more often, then the instructor chose to call me out, yell about how I was doing the exercise wrong, and when I got out of the pool wanted to talk. Well, it was a little late since I was doing the exercise to the best of my ability and she had done what she could to belittle me. I didn't and don't need that. I stopped going.
Then my friend called to tell me that there was a morning instructor who was much better than the evening one, worked everyone harder, and was understanding that some couldn't do what others could do (arthritis, age, etc made differences). Wow! I thought and started attending those classes. Then Ed passed away. It was hard to get out of bed without him here much less get everything done that we had done together, take care of all the many things required after the death of a spouse (memorial preperations, court house, banks, letters to write, etc); so, I didn't get to class., besides, I didn't want to deal with questions and sympathy from everyone. I did write a letter asking that Ed be removed from our membership.
At the same time I wrote the letter I got a letter from the Y saying that our membership was going up. (They need money to build a new Y with a big Olympic sized pool somewhere in Tidewater, Va) I mailed it in time for the draft to not be put through for November. Well, good Christians that they are put through the draft with the higher charge. I wrote another letter and was told there was nothing that could be done.
Then I called another director, sobbing although I tried not to, left her a message as to what had happened. Today I got a call from a third person. Although my membership is going to be higher than half of my old membership maybe I can continue to pay it even though my overall inclone is about half of what it had been.
It was so hard talking to the person who called, the tears kept getting in the way of trying to explain my situation but I did it. Still crying now. Still so very very sad and lonely without Edward. I miss him so!
maybe I can continue to pay it and get back to the Y and my exercise as soon as I get over the virus and chest congestion that I now have.